Smoking MIL

[Anonymous]

I don't know why this thread went in such a crazy direction. NP here and to respond to the initial question, no I would not leave my DC with someone who smokes that much. Also sounds like she's not a good influence in other ways. Just find a responsible babysitter and DH will have to cope with the idea of spending a few bucks on it. I would find other limited ways for your DC to have contact with MIL but I wouldn't leave her alone with her, certainly not this young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

cuzimawesome wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- I failed to mention that smoking or maybe being self absorbed wins over everything else around her. At our little pre-xmas dinner my DD was about done because it was way after her bedtime and MIL said she wasn't ready to open presents because she needed to go outside and have a cigarette. REALLY? So smoking was more important that my child who was about to meltdown. Everything has to be on her time including having a smoke when she wants it.

You obviously do not understand addiction.

What else is new on the DCUM?

I didn't even bother responding. My parents are smokers. It sucks. But they are addicted. They will likely die youngish. I still let them watch my kids when we see them once a year. (different country). I know they love my kids and we love them. But I wish they weren't so addicted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I have no problem having her over to our house to play with DD or going over there to play while me or my DH are around. My only problem is leaving my DD alone with her. I asked her to watch my DD once when she was at our house so I could get some cleaning done. Next thing I know she's on her cell phone and DD is playing with a plugged in vacuum cord totally unsupervised. So I've given this woman a chance and FAIL!

If she quit smoking and proved to me that she would be responsible I wouldn't have a problem with her watching my DD for a few hours, but until that happens I will remain the "daughter in law from hell" (as spoken by clearly some horrible MIL whose DIL can't stand her). At the same time I don't see a woman who was recently quoted as saying "I can't even be responsible to keep a plant alive" nbeing ready to stay with my DD alone. "

OP - Why the fock did you start this thread? Looking for attention? Sheesh.

A$$hole- I started it to see what others thought of leaving a child alone with a MIL who goes outside to smoke. Who would do it and wouldn't and what their thoughts are on it. THANKS.

OP - Your MIL has already proven she is not responsible, the smoking has nothing to do with it. Thanks for wasting our time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all know smoking is an addiction, but it also affects the health of anyone around a smoker while smoking or not (3rd hand smoke). My son has asthma and I wouldn't leave him with someone who smoked frequently.

Yes. Agreed. But exposure once in a blue moon to a woman who smokes one cigarette an hour outside is not going to send OP's DD to an oxygen tank.

You're joking, right? That's more than enough exposure to give someone with sensitivities an asthma attack. And you must be aware that people do sometimes die from asthma attacks, right? So I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you were joking, and not that you're an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what many people have misunderstood is that yes I do hate smoking. I grew up with my dad and much older brother smoking around me 24/7 (before we knew all about second hand smoke being bad) and I now have asthma, but that's besides the point. My point is how well can she watch my daughter if she's outside having a smoke? If no one else is in the house what will my DD be doing by herself in there?

I have no problem having her over to our house to play with DD or going over there to play while me or my DH are around. My only problem is leaving my DD alone with her. I asked her to watch my DD once when she was at our house so I could get some cleaning done. Next thing I know she's on her cell phone and DD is playing with a plugged in vacuum cord totally unsupervised. So I've given this woman a chance and FAIL!

If she quit smoking and proved to me that she would be responsible I wouldn't have a problem with her watching my DD for a few hours, but until that happens I will remain the "daughter in law from hell" (as spoken by clearly some horrible MIL whose DIL can't stand her). At the same time I don't see a woman who was recently quoted as saying "I can't even be responsible to keep a plant alive" nbeing ready to stay with my DD alone.

Okay, stop. Don't have her watch your child then. Enough already. You really just want to complain when you already have your answer.

[Anonymous]

"Okay, stop. Don't have her watch your child then. Enough already. You really just want to complain when you already have your answer. "

OP is jealous of her MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Okay, stop. Don't have her watch your child then. Enough already. You really just want to complain when you already have your answer. "

OP is jealous of her MIL.

NP here. I'm sure that OP is *sooooo* jealous of her child-abandoning, teen mother, smoker of a MIL. You really know how to read people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I have no problem having her over to our house to play with DD or going over there to play while me or my DH are around. My only problem is leaving my DD alone with her. I asked her to watch my DD once when she was at our house so I could get some cleaning done. Next thing I know she's on her cell phone and DD is playing with a plugged in vacuum cord totally unsupervised. So I've given this woman a chance and FAIL!

If she quit smoking and proved to me that she would be responsible I wouldn't have a problem with her watching my DD for a few hours, but until that happens I will remain the "daughter in law from hell" (as spoken by clearly some horrible MIL whose DIL can't stand her). At the same time I don't see a woman who was recently quoted as saying "I can't even be responsible to keep a plant alive" nbeing ready to stay with my DD alone. "

OP - Why the fock did you start this thread? Looking for attention? Sheesh.

A$$hole- I started it to see what others thought of leaving a child alone with a MIL who goes outside to smoke. Who would do it and wouldn't and what their thoughts are on it. THANKS.

OP, you are more toxic than a dozen chainsmokers locked in a room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I have no problem having her over to our house to play with DD or going over there to play while me or my DH are around. My only problem is leaving my DD alone with her. I asked her to watch my DD once when she was at our house so I could get some cleaning done. Next thing I know she's on her cell phone and DD is playing with a plugged in vacuum cord totally unsupervised. So I've given this woman a chance and FAIL!

If she quit smoking and proved to me that she would be responsible I wouldn't have a problem with her watching my DD for a few hours, but until that happens I will remain the "daughter in law from hell" (as spoken by clearly some horrible MIL whose DIL can't stand her). At the same time I don't see a woman who was recently quoted as saying "I can't even be responsible to keep a plant alive" nbeing ready to stay with my DD alone. "

OP - Why the fock did you start this thread? Looking for attention? Sheesh.

A$$hole- I started it to see what others thought of leaving a child alone with a MIL who goes outside to smoke. Who would do it and wouldn't and what their thoughts are on it. THANKS.

OP, you are more toxic than a dozen chainsmokers locked in a room.

You are the child no one wanted to play with on the playground, picked last in gym class, and cried while no one invited you to their parties and sleepovers. Now that you found an anonymous board you feel the need to insult people with being bullied. Congratulations, you can now feel good about yourself. You souond very adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Okay, stop. Don't have her watch your child then. Enough already. You really just want to complain when you already have your answer. "

OP is jealous of her MIL.

NP here. I'm sure that OP is *sooooo* jealous of her child-abandoning, teen mother, smoker of a MIL. You really know how to read people.

Thank you! At least I know there are some sane people on this board today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Okay, stop. Don't have her watch your child then. Enough already. You really just want to complain when you already have your answer. "

OP is jealous of her MIL.

NP here. I'm sure that OP is *sooooo* jealous of her child-abandoning, teen mother, smoker of a MIL. You really know how to read people.

Thank you! At least I know there are some sane people on this board today.

Paging Oscar Wilde and Noel Coward. Stat!

[cuzimawesome]

Anonymous wrote:
You are the child no one wanted to play with on the playground, picked last in gym class, and cried while no one invited you to their parties and sleepovers. Now that you found an anonymous board you feel the need to insult people with being bullied. Congratulations, you can now feel good about yourself. You souond very adult.

This response is fucking hilarious. Do you even realize how you sound?

[Anonymous]

cuzimawesome wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are the child no one wanted to play with on the playground, picked last in gym class, and cried while no one invited you to their parties and sleepovers. Now that you found an anonymous board you feel the need to insult people with being bullied. Congratulations, you can now feel good about yourself. You souond very adult.

This response is fucking hilarious. Do you even realize how you sound?

CUZIMAWESOME...nice name....clearly you're about 13 and pregnant. I'd love to run into you at a park one day!

[cuzimawesome]

Anonymous wrote:

cuzimawesome wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are the child no one wanted to play with on the playground, picked last in gym class, and cried while no one invited you to their parties and sleepovers. Now that you found an anonymous board you feel the need to insult people with being bullied. Congratulations, you can now feel good about yourself. You souond very adult.

This response is fucking hilarious. Do you even realize how you sound?

CUZIMAWESOME...nice name....clearly you're about 13 and pregnant. I'd love to run into you at a park one day!

Yay! Let's play! I'm gonna have to avoid the swings though... might put me into pre-term labor and that would fucking suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Okay, stop. Don't have her watch your child then. Enough already. You really just want to complain when you already have your answer. "

OP is jealous of her MIL.

NP here. I'm sure that OP is *sooooo* jealous of her child-abandoning, teen mother, smoker of a MIL. You really know how to read people.

NP, I'm pretty sure it was intended as a joke.