My ex husband is INFURIATING

[Anonymous]

She picked him to have kids with. Now she has to deal with the ramifications of picking an idiot.



Spoken like a true sanctimonious bitch. As a divorced mom, I continue to be amazed by the labeling and judging of presumably married women who assume we are divorced because we "picked poorly" when selecting mates. Sometimes, maybe - - do you think it's possible that YOU yourself might be capable of making a mistake too? Consider yourself in the lucky 50% if you're not divorced, or the lucky 35% of marriages not marked by infidelity. Honestly, what would YOU do if your spouse left you for someone else, or flaunted infidelities under your nose? Would YOU stay? Is that why you're still married because you WON'T leave, and that's why you are so bitter toward those women who did have the backbone to leave the SOB?

Serve yourself a cup of STFU, please.

No. I'm not divorced. I'm happily married. Before having our first child, I told my husband we'd have to do it 50-50. Evenly share responsibilities, including daycare drop off and pick up, sick days, baths, cooking, laundry, EVERYTHING.

He kept his end of the deal. So we had another one. He's still keeping his end of the deal. The thing is, it wasn't rocket science. If he hadn't kept his end of the bargain, there would not have been another child. How hard is that for you to understand?

So many stupid, STUPID women continue to have babies with men that are completely useless assholes. And you wonder why your lives are miserable. Well, it is because you made a dumb ass decision, and now you have to live with it.

SHUT THE FUCK UP BECAUSE I'M TIRED OF LISTENING TO WOMEN LIKE YOU BITCH AND MOAN ABOUT THE MESSES YOU HAVE GOTTEN YOURSELVES INTO.

Maybe next time, keep your legs closed to assholes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
No. I'm not divorced. I'm happily married. Before having our first child, I told my husband we'd have to do it 50-50. Evenly share responsibilities, including daycare drop off and pick up, sick days, baths, cooking, laundry, EVERYTHING.

He kept his end of the deal. So we had another one. He's still keeping his end of the deal. The thing is, it wasn't rocket science. If he hadn't kept his end of the bargain, there would not have been another child. How hard is that for you to understand?

So many stupid, STUPID women continue to have babies with men that are completely useless assholes. And you wonder why your lives are miserable. Well, it is because you made a dumb ass decision, and now you have to live with it.

SHUT THE FUCK UP BECAUSE I'M TIRED OF LISTENING TO WOMEN LIKE YOU BITCH AND MOAN ABOUT THE MESSES YOU HAVE GOTTEN YOURSELVES INTO.

Maybe next time, keep your legs closed to assholes.

I think I'd rather have sex with an asshole than have my children in exchange for a completed to-do list of household chores.

[Anonymous]

That's fine pp, I'm glad you prefer assholes to good men. But you need to understand that is why you are bitching and moaning on a public website about your useless baby daddy.

Hope the sex was worth a life time of being stuck with 100% of the parenting and chores and costs that go along with it.

[Anonymous]

I'm the 20:03 PP. That was my first post on this thread. My husband is a fabulous father and partner so I'm not complaining. I just meant that your post made you sound like a very boring, controlling, self-righteous nag with an uninteresting sex life, but I guess that went over your head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the 20:03 PP. That was my first post on this thread. My husband is a fabulous father and partner so I'm not complaining. I just meant that your post made you sound like a very boring, controlling, self-righteous nag with an uninteresting sex life, but I guess that went over your head.

You're a fast learner and will fit in beautifully with DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She picked him to have kids with. Now she has to deal with the ramifications of picking an idiot.

Spoken like a true sanctimonious bitch. As a divorced mom, I continue to be amazed by the labeling and judging of presumably married women who assume we are divorced because we "picked poorly" when selecting mates. Sometimes, maybe - - do you think it's possible that YOU yourself might be capable of making a mistake too? Consider yourself in the lucky 50% if you're not divorced, or the lucky 35% of marriages not marked by infidelity. Honestly, what would YOU do if your spouse left you for someone else, or flaunted infidelities under your nose? Would YOU stay? Is that why you're still married because you WON'T leave, and that's why you are so bitter toward those women who did have the backbone to leave the SOB?

Serve yourself a cup of STFU, please.

I heart you. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Messes WE have gotten ourselves into?? So I guess you have a crystal ball and have never misjudged anyone let alone someone who pledged their entire life to you and then up and left during a midlife crisis when the child rearing was getting in their merry little way?
And FWIW, I am happily re married but I didnt F up the first one. HE did. And I did make a kid with him for ALL the right reasons. People DO change and surprise the hell out of us. It happens and you dismissing it and playing the blame game doesnt make it untrue.
I have since had another child with hubby number 2, and he is lovely and so are both kids now that they have someone who is thankfully living up to their commitments. I didnt need to make him agree to 50/50 anything. We love each other and the kids and it just works.
OP: I would send him an email saying he can pick up, take care of kids during event and then drop off....it is his visitation and you are not the nanny. good for you for hanging up. BTDT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the 20:03 PP. That was my first post on this thread. My husband is a fabulous father and partner so I'm not complaining. I just meant that your post made you sound like a very boring, controlling, self-righteous nag with an uninteresting sex life, but I guess that went over your head.

Why do people assume that nice people have bad sex? The worst sex I ever had was with "bad boys" AKA selfish assholes, and my best lover was a nice, boring bank manager who made me see God!

[Anonymous]

OP here, back for the first time. My goodness, this thread has taken an interesting turn.

The ex's failure as a father was indeed evident after DC#1. Which is why I was using birth control, seeing a marriage counselor and trying to convince him to have a vasectomy when I got pregnant with DC#2. I didn't feel that, as a woman with a job, a home, healthcare, and a husband, that having an abortion was the morally right thing to do.

I don't regret the kids - they are great. Just infuriated by their dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the 20:03 PP. That was my first post on this thread. My husband is a fabulous father and partner so I'm not complaining. I just meant that your post made you sound like a very boring, controlling, self-righteous nag with an uninteresting sex life, but I guess that went over your head.

Why do people assume that nice people have bad sex? The worst sex I ever had was with "bad boys" AKA selfish assholes, and my best lover was a nice, boring bank manager who made me see God!

Yeah except....... 19.27 is NOT a nice person. She's a judgey little bitch with zero empathy for her fellow man. I only hope for her sake she's managed to completely geld her husband, because I have a feeling she'd choke on all the humble pie she'd have to eat.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but I'm tired of listening to women whine about their useless husbands. One of my close girlfriends is falling apart because she just had #2, and her husband isn't helping at all. He's MIA - working 70-80 hours a week, golfing on the weekends, not waking up either weekend day. She's miserable.

The thing is she admits he was like this with #1. Yet she's surprised he's not helping with #2. Which they planned.

WTF? Sorry you are miserable, but what were you THINKING?

[Anonymous]

If you need to geld your husband to get him to help with the kids, then sign me up.

Do you posters really think a real man can't step up to his responsibilities? That he has to be somehow unmanned before he is able to help with the kids and household?

How sad you don't demand more for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but I'm tired of listening to women whine about their useless husbands. One of my close girlfriends is falling apart because she just had #2, and her husband isn't helping at all. He's MIA - working 70-80 hours a week, golfing on the weekends, not waking up either weekend day. She's miserable.

The thing is she admits he was like this with #1. Yet she's surprised he's not helping with #2. Which they planned.

WTF? Sorry you are miserable, but what were you THINKING?

guy is working 80 hours a week and you begrudge him sleeping in on the weekends? you think HE isn't miserable working that hard to provide for his family?????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but I'm tired of listening to women whine about their useless husbands. One of my close girlfriends is falling apart because she just had #2, and her husband isn't helping at all. He's MIA - working 70-80 hours a week, golfing on the weekends, not waking up either weekend day. She's miserable.

The thing is she admits he was like this with #1. Yet she's surprised he's not helping with #2. Which they planned.

WTF? Sorry you are miserable, but what were you THINKING?

guy is working 80 hours a week and you begrudge him sleeping in on the weekends? you think HE isn't miserable working that hard to provide for his family?????

iTA. No one works that much unless they have to. Not fun and I'm sure he'll rather spend more time at home but have to support a growing family. BTDT and I'm the mom.

[Anonymous]

8:22 Wow that is harsh. And just unrealistic.