My ex husband is INFURIATING

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you have to attend the BBQ? Couldn't you drop your kids off and then have a "me" day? Get your hair and nails done, go see a movie, shop etc. While your ex does sound like an ass, I feel kind of bad for your kids that you won't let them see their father when there seems to be a way you could just drop them off and do something for yourself.

This. Or, have DH pick them up from your place.

Document everything, BTW.

[Anonymous]

I'd don't blame you one bit, OP! I'm lucky to have a good partner but he travels a lot for work and I've gotten a taste of the single mom life. It's hard, especially when you've got a kid who needs a nap and it's hell to pay when she doesn't get it. If he wants them at the picnic so bad, switch weekends or give him an extra weekend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She picked him to have kids with. Now she has to deal with the ramifications of picking an idiot.

Spoken like a true sanctimonious bitch. As a divorced mom, I continue to be amazed by the labeling and judging of presumably married women who assume we are divorced because we "picked poorly" when selecting mates. Sometimes, maybe - - do you think it's possible that YOU yourself might be capable of making a mistake too? Consider yourself in the lucky 50% if you're not divorced, or the lucky 35% of marriages not marked by infidelity. Honestly, what would YOU do if your spouse left you for someone else, or flaunted infidelities under your nose? Would YOU stay? Is that why you're still married because you WON'T leave, and that's why you are so bitter toward those women who did have the backbone to leave the SOB?

Serve yourself a cup of STFU, please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you sound like a nightmare. that poor man, at least he is rid of you.

How on earth is it OP that is the problem in this equation?

Read between the lines. She, obviosly, still has feelings for him and is jealous and is using children to punish him because he has a new girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She picked him to have kids with. Now she has to deal with the ramifications of picking an idiot.

Spoken like a true sanctimonious bitch. As a divorced mom, I continue to be amazed by the labeling and judging of presumably married women who assume we are divorced because we "picked poorly" when selecting mates. Sometimes, maybe - - do you think it's possible that YOU yourself might be capable of making a mistake too? Consider yourself in the lucky 50% if you're not divorced, or the lucky 35% of marriages not marked by infidelity. Honestly, what would YOU do if your spouse left you for someone else, or flaunted infidelities under your nose? Would YOU stay? Is that why you're still married because you WON'T leave, and that's why you are so bitter toward those women who did have the backbone to leave the SOB?

Serve yourself a cup of STFU, please.

Can we be friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you sound like a nightmare. that poor man, at least he is rid of you.

How on earth is it OP that is the problem in this equation?

Read between the lines. She, obviosly, still has feelings for him and is jealous and is using children to punish him because he has a new girlfriend.

How is it reasonable to expect that the ex wife would want to take the kids to a BBQ, take care of them, and hang out with his new GF? Feelings or no feelings?

[Anonymous]

congratulations on your divorce! your ex sounds like a peach...

i agree with the document everything poster - make sure to send him an email saying "hey, i would love you to take the kids on saturday, but i can't stay to watch them - since its your visitation day, i have made other plans. if you aren't able to watch them at the picnic, do let me know by tomorrow b/c i'll have to cancel my plans. also, keep in mind that 2:30-4 is little suzie's nap time."

i'm sorry you're going through this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you have to attend the BBQ? Couldn't you drop your kids off and then have a "me" day? Get your hair and nails done, go see a movie, shop etc. While your ex does sound like an ass, I feel kind of bad for your kids that you won't let them see their father when there seems to be a way you could just drop them off and do something for yourself.

Whoa. Hell no.

If it's his visitation day, he needs to come pick them up. He cannot make the mother drive forty minutes and then babysit. If he won't drive to get them, or look after them, then HE is the one who doesn't want to see them. Unfair to characterize OP as not letting the kids see their father.

[Anonymous]

Not the OP but in her place, it sounds as if there's reason not to want the kids to go alone with her ex. Doesn't sound as if he's going to supervise them adequately or consider their welfare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you sound like a nightmare. that poor man, at least he is rid of you.

How on earth is it OP that is the problem in this equation?

Read between the lines. She, obviosly, still has feelings for him and is jealous and is using children to punish him because he has a new girlfriend.

Wow, brush up on your reading comprehension please. There are no lines to read between. She "obviosly" does not want to act as her ex's free babysitter during his scheduled visitation time. I see nothing that indicates feelings for him. As a single mother, I imagine she might relish her rare alone time. Why on earth should she be expected to do this??? Her ex sounds like a negligent and indifferent father, otherwise he would have no problem actually taking care of his child during his visitation time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you have to attend the BBQ? Couldn't you drop your kids off and then have a "me" day? Get your hair and nails done, go see a movie, shop etc. While your ex does sound like an ass, I feel kind of bad for your kids that you won't let them see their father when there seems to be a way you could just drop them off and do something for yourself.

This. Or, have DH pick them up from your place.

Document everything, BTW.

Did you two read the OP? The ex husband wants her to attend the event, NOT drop them off. Yes, that would be a compromise, but the point is, if it's his visitation time, he needs to be the one parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She picked him to have kids with. Now she has to deal with the ramifications of picking an idiot.

Spoken like a true sanctimonious bitch. As a divorced mom, I continue to be amazed by the labeling and judging of presumably married women who assume we are divorced because we "picked poorly" when selecting mates. Sometimes, maybe - - do you think it's possible that YOU yourself might be capable of making a mistake too? Consider yourself in the lucky 50% if you're not divorced, or the lucky 35% of marriages not marked by infidelity. Honestly, what would YOU do if your spouse left you for someone else, or flaunted infidelities under your nose? Would YOU stay? Is that why you're still married because you WON'T leave, and that's why you are so bitter toward those women who did have the backbone to leave the SOB?

Serve yourself a cup of STFU, please.

HA! I lurv you!

[Anonymous]

op,btdt. have the battle scars.

hang in there, lady. your kids are lucky to have you.

[Anonymous]

Some divorced fathers act like they're doing their ex-wives a favor by seeing their own children. I've seen it a lot more with men than women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She picked him to have kids with. Now she has to deal with the ramifications of picking an idiot.

Spoken like a true sanctimonious bitch. As a divorced mom, I continue to be amazed by the labeling and judging of presumably married women who assume we are divorced because we "picked poorly" when selecting mates. Sometimes, maybe - - do you think it's possible that YOU yourself might be capable of making a mistake too? Consider yourself in the lucky 50% if you're not divorced, or the lucky 35% of marriages not marked by infidelity. Honestly, what would YOU do if your spouse left you for someone else, or flaunted infidelities under your nose? Would YOU stay? Is that why you're still married because you WON'T leave, and that's why you are so bitter toward those women who did have the backbone to leave the SOB?

Serve yourself a cup of STFU, please.

Unlike previous posters, I don't find you so clever.