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Anonymous
What a stupid comparison. OP, please do not feel badly. On DCUM, posters frequently just follow the tone of the first few responses. If the first few had supported you, the very same PPs would have sung a different tune. With that said, I think you turned people off by your tone...many people become defensive when they hear the term "bad mommy" because they are scared it is them. |
Anonymous
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No, people are turned off by the term "bad mommy" because it breeds a culture of judgmental, nasty, bitchy mommies. Some of us are trying to support and encourage other moms, rather than tear each other down (WTF, the other mom was gone for a few moments?!)
This is the mean girl in middle school who has now become a mom, is still insecure, and likes to hide behind anonymity on a message board and talk about how "bad" other moms are. Get a life, OP. Seriously. |
Anonymous
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God must have blessed you with the last two angels He had!
please, Dr. Spock If my second turned out like my first, I could take them by hand down the streets of NYC during rush hour. But #2 is a runner. 'nuff said
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Anonymous
Not OP but pp you should take your own advice. You sound like the mean girl! |
Anonymous
It's not passive agressive; it's telling her what happened, and she's venting. |
Anonymous
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Man, if this is the worst thing Clemyjontri Mom has ever done, or will ever do, to her child, she's probably actually doing a great job. I've made some mistakes with my kid that I feel AWFUL about. I punish myself with guilt about all the little stupid errors in judgment. Having to look over my shoulder for the "BAD MOMMY" brigade really doesn't help.
The best thing that another mom ever did for me was, at the park, when I made one such mistake and was almost in tears about it was to put her arm on mine and say, "It's okay. She's fine. It could have happened to anybody." Kindness and support from strangers help some of us become better parents, not accusation and rants. It sounds like you are a loving person towards kids, OP, so probably you posted without thinking of how it might make other parents, some of us occasional screw-ups ourselves, feel. |
Anonymous
| The thing I hate about playgrounds is that you often see a mom on a cell phone while the kid is just begging for someone to pay any kind of attention. Its just so sad. So I have to side with OP on this one, as I strongly suspect this is another case of mom on cell phone in denial. Thanks for posting OP. Lesson learned: ignore it next time. Welcome to D.C. |
Anonymous
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That park is an absolute nightmare if you go by yourself with more than one kid. There are so many nooks and crannies and crowds. The one time I went alone with my kids I had a mini-heart attack every 5-10 minutes or so when one would disappear.
Maybe 'bad mommy' was freaked out herself. Sometimes in a state of high panic the first reaction is to yell out at the child 'where were you, etc." and you pretty much don't notice anyone else around you. Who knows. I wasn't there---but I wouldn't be suprised if anyone lost one of their kids at that place. Great park though. |
Anonymous
| My mom ignored me everyday for an hour or two while she watched her soaps. Guess what? I lived and grew up to be a normal person. People esp in this area are WAY too into their kids. The doctors in this area should prescribe the parents with an hour or so a day to NOT focus on their kids and they'd all be better off (the kids and the parents). They need to learn that they are not the center of the universe so they don't grow up to be adults who think this way. |
Anonymous
agree with the above. also, in case you didn't notice, that park has lots of above-the-ground paths that are pretty long and twisty - if a parent stays down, their kid could easily disappear into the warren of bridges and i can see how that would be scary for a child. personally, i'm a total helicopter parent, so you will see me getting up there and tailing my kid. but please don't call anyone a "bad mommy" - you have no idea what they were doing - taking an urgent call b/c the mommy is a doctor and is on call, or chasing after another child, or scared out of her mind because her kid went up the blue stairs onto the blue bridge and now seems to be out of sight entirely. |
Anonymous
| pp again: also, it takes a village to raise a child, please pray that someone kind will be there if your kid every needs anything or gets separated from you. we all need to look out for one another instead of judging and diminishing and criticizing. |
Anonymous
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OP here. Thank you all for participating.
I was there with my 3 children so I know exactly what is like to have little ones in a big, crowded playground. If you can't manage them, hire help or stay home. Putting your child in danger is the wrong option. BTW, we have a rule. We all stay in one "place" at a time. Each of them get turns to pick where we're going next. It's easy to contain them this way and whoever wonders away sits in time out for X minutes while the other one plays. We needed the time out just a couple times 'till they got that there would be consequences. Now, our stay there is a breeze. Feel free to share your tips on how to deal with your LOs in public/crowded places. |
Anonymous
| Well goodie gumdrops for you Donna Reed! |
Anonymous
| Good grief, OP. You're insufferable. |
Anonymous
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Agreed...insufferable.
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