Vent: annoying emails my neighbor sends

[Anonymous]

I would keep shoveling just for the emails!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would keep shoveling just for the emails!

This. Then you can come on here and tell us all about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would keep shoveling just for the emails!

This. Then you can come on here and tell us all about it.

Exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she can afford a row house in Georgetown, she can afford to hire someone to shovel the walk and rake the leaves. And she can but never will because you OP are a sucker and do it for her.

Just stop doing it and never mention it again. Problem solved.

OP here. I think you missed the part where I said I didn't live in Georgetown. Don't I wish she was hearing passionate lovemaking! Ours is mostly of the infrequent quiet variety, if you must know.

[Anonymous]

You are funny OP. She's lucky to have you as a neighbor.

[Anonymous]

yeah OP, want to move in next to you so I can stop shoveling!!!!

[Anonymous]

I truly think this is an old lady who cannot properly thank you, and needs to share a few things. Just from reading those emails, I do not think that she meant to offend.
I would keep shoveling regardless of how she responded.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you are a good person for doing it, regardless how she responds. Like PPs said, she probably doesn't even know how to say thank you without lacing it with criticism. If I were wittier, I would send a note back with a cryptic reference to hoping she didn't hear your sexual escapades (whether true or not), just to give her a laugh.

[Anonymous]

Your old lady neighbor sounds like my bitch ass mother--just say thank you and go on helping he. She' sad bitter and lonely, is all. At least you were raised by this sort, as I was. Her children don't come to help her--can you blame them?

[Anonymous]

I don't find her emails too offensive (Okay may the one where she criticizes where the shoveled snow lands is). I agree with the PPs who state that she is trying to thank you, albeit in a pretty awkward way. I think she truly appreciates your shoveling the snow and I wouldn't stop shoveling. The ticking clock comment may be her way of telling you that she hears things that you may not want her to hear and she is trying to tell you in a passive way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What an ungrateful, passive, aggressive BITCH!!! No more shoveling for her as far as I'm concerned.

Does it even remotely occur to you that (depending on her age and health), she could have had a stroke, be on strong meds, be depressed, etc.? I'm not saying that her e-mails were written as they should be, but if she's old and even e-mailing, that's pretty remarkable. I just can't get over how harsh people can be on this forum. Maybe it's from living in a big, impersonal city?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your old lady neighbor sounds like my bitch ass mother--just say thank you and go on helping he. She' sad bitter and lonely, is all. At least you were raised by this sort, as I was. Her children don't come to help her--can you blame them?

That's sad. Hope you'll be able to change the family dynamics and personality type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't find her emails too offensive (Okay may the one where she criticizes where the shoveled snow lands is). I agree with the PPs who state that she is trying to thank you, albeit in a pretty awkward way. I think she truly appreciates your shoveling the snow and I wouldn't stop shoveling. The ticking clock comment may be her way of telling you that she hears things that you may not want her to hear and she is trying to tell you in a passive way.

I agree. I think she is trying to express gratitude and to communicate with people she doesn't know well. That's difficult, and she may be self-conscious about the awkwardness of her efforts, which usually results in even more awkwardness. One day we may all be old cranks. Who's to say that in her youth, she wasn't a kind thoughtful neighbor like you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We live in a row house and when it snows, we shovel for the lady next door. Not because I like her (I don't), but because she's old with bad knees and I don't mind shoveling snow. So I shoveled our walk and hers on Wed. night. Here's the email I got in reply:

"Your shoveling down to me was appreciated; I felt that you must have been tired as you shoveled and dumped the snow from the shovel toward the road, and the last shovel full of snow was dumped in the [house] sidewalk.............oh well, it is very exhausting, and I felt it was a help to just see the sidewalk. Thank you!
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Please tell your husband that I appreciated it very much that he shoveled the sidewalk to the house. I thinK I can appreciate soundproofing more and more. Some days, I can hear your clock chime in the living room just like I owned it, so I am assuming that you can hear the clock here and all sorts of other regular activities. I think they call it row house living..........oh well......God willing I'll be gone one day."

I am just so annoyed by this woman, who does not like my shoveling (but frankly, wouldn't do it herself and certainly wouldn't hire someone to do it) and then just has to remind me of how she can hear what's going on in my living room. Oh, and did I mention that she had three yappy dogs that I can hear all the time. UGH. Posting here rather than writing back to her.

You have just earned lots of brownie points! Also, why don't you have a Halloween party and ask her to be the wicked witch. She won't have to act but just be herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We live in a row house and when it snows, we shovel for the lady next door. Not because I like her (I don't), but because she's old with bad knees and I don't mind shoveling snow. So I shoveled our walk and hers on Wed. night. Here's the email I got in reply:

"Your shoveling down to me was appreciated; I felt that you must have been tired as you shoveled and dumped the snow from the shovel toward the road, and the last shovel full of snow was dumped in the [house] sidewalk.............oh well, it is very exhausting, and I felt it was a help to just see the sidewalk. Thank you!
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Please tell your husband that I appreciated it very much that he shoveled the sidewalk to the house. I thinK I can appreciate soundproofing more and more. Some days, I can hear your clock chime in the living room just like I owned it, so I am assuming that you can hear the clock here and all sorts of other regular activities. I think they call it row house living..........oh well......God willing I'll be gone one day."

I am just so annoyed by this woman, who does not like my shoveling (but frankly, wouldn't do it herself and certainly wouldn't hire someone to do it) and then just has to remind me of how she can hear what's going on in my living room. Oh, and did I mention that she had three yappy dogs that I can hear all the time. UGH. Posting here rather than writing back to her.

You have just earned lots of brownie points! Also, why don't you have a Halloween party and ask her to be the wicked witch. She won't have to act but just be herself.

Sounds as if you'd be better suited for that role.