Would this racial designation on your marriage license bother you?

[Anonymous]

I got a rug I call Asian because I don't want it to be offended

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got a rug I call Asian because I don't want it to be offended

Please, if you are going to make offensive jokes, make sure they are funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH refers to himself as Oriental. His people come from the Orient and he sees nothing wrong with that description. Asia is such a huge continent and encompasses so many different races..

I know a Russian woman who is from Vladivostok. Is she Oriental as well?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got a rug I call Asian because I don't want it to be offended

Please, if you are going to make offensive jokes, make sure they are funny.

Who said it was a joke?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15:32- Learn to quote and then we can talk.

Actually, I do know how to quote. Sometimes, somehow, it just goes wrong.

[Anonymous]

Race on the marriage license really ticks me off. Mainly because it is only what you identify as, not what you actually are. I can't wait until this country gets away from tracking race on everything. It is meaningless at this point, as evidenced from OP's post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH refers to himself as Oriental. His people come from the Orient and he sees nothing wrong with that description. Asia is such a huge continent and encompasses so many different races..

I know a Russian woman who is from Vladivostok. Is she Oriental as well?

No, but she's Asian.

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Anonymous wrote:I got a rug I call Asian because I don't want it to be offended

It's an odd lifestyle choice to give respect to an inanimate object but be such a total jerk to real people. Then again, maybe you are nice to it because it is stuck up your ass.

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Anonymous wrote:15:32- Learn to quote and then we can talk.

You have love the responses from those who don't want to admit someone else may actually have a point.

[Anonymous]

What would you prefer to be called? I think that the form -- if it has to designate anything (and why should it? it's weird that this irrelvant bit of information would be on a marriage certificate???) -- should ask you to identify your background and then report that in your own words.

There is so much inter-border mish-mashing, that to describe someone based on what they "look" like rather than their culture (and there's so much mish-mashing there, too, with kids growing up all over the place, various religions, languages, etc) just seems stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would you prefer to be called? I think that the form -- if it has to designate anything (and why should it? it's weird that this irrelvant bit of information would be on a marriage certificate???) -- should ask you to identify your background and then report that in your own words.

There is so much inter-border mish-mashing, that to describe someone based on what they "look" like rather than their culture (and there's so much mish-mashing there, too, with kids growing up all over the place, various religions, languages, etc) just seems stupid.

PS: this reminds me -- in southern Africa, I met a number of pale-skinned European-descendent Africans who simply described themselves as "African." Here in the US, most folks would be totally puzzled by this self-description. But who are we/they to judge?

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Anonymous wrote:15:32- Learn to quote and then we can talk.

You have love the responses from those who don't want to admit someone else may actually have a point.

I did not say that she didn't have a point. Her husband refers to himself as Oriental. Okay, that is nice. Most Asians in America do not because in this country, most find it offensive.

I actually brought up the point about separate histories because of the last thread we had on DCUM about Asian vs Oriental, which I linked to in another post.

(I also thought we had a recent thread on DCUM about not bringing up your other-race spouse as evidence.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH refers to himself as Oriental. His people come from the Orient and he sees nothing wrong with that description. Asia is such a huge continent and encompasses so many different races.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Asian_countries_by_GDP

I guess another reason he doesn't mind the term is the amount of time we spent living in the UK. Asians there were Indians or Pakistanis while Koreans, Japanese and Chinese were Orientals. There was nothing insulting about it.

My DH is half-Chinese and he hates the term Oriental. He thinks it is extremely racist. I didn't grow up around any asians so I didn't know the term was offensive until I started dating him. And yes, my mother used the term in front of him several times. She really is clueless but also a little bit racist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:15:32- Learn to quote and then we can talk.

You have love the responses from those who don't want to admit someone else may actually have a point.

I did not say that she didn't have a point. Her husband refers to himself as Oriental. Okay, that is nice. Most Asians in America do not because in this country, most find it offensive.

I actually brought up the point about separate histories because of the last thread we had on DCUM about Asian vs Oriental, which I linked to in another post.

(I also thought we had a recent thread on DCUM about not bringing up your other-race spouse as evidence.)

Being a bitch and dismissing (entirely) what someone says is very common here when someone has a point and another person doesn't want to acknowledge it.

You brought up the separate histories because you really had nothing else to add and wanted all of us to "be enlightened" with your drivel.

Never once did (the poster you were rude to) say she and her DH were of different races. Just that it was a term he used.

That's all. I am done with you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH refers to himself as Oriental. His people come from the Orient and he sees nothing wrong with that description. Asia is such a huge continent and encompasses so many different races.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Asian_countries_by_GDP

I guess another reason he doesn't mind the term is the amount of time we spent living in the UK. Asians there were Indians or Pakistanis while Koreans, Japanese and Chinese were Orientals. There was nothing insulting about it.

My DH is half-Chinese and he hates the term Oriental. He thinks it is extremely racist. I didn't grow up around any asians so I didn't know the term was offensive until I started dating him. And yes, my mother used the term in front of him several times. She really is clueless but also a little bit racist.

That's your DH.