who should have the bigger room? silly debate between my husband and i

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Anonymous wrote:You sounds totally sexist. The oldest should get the bigger room.

Bingo. Girls do not necessarily have more stuff or end up spending more time in their rooms. This observation is based solely upon your one family's experience. My brother had a ton more stuff than we did, and he spent more time in his room that the girls.

Use age, otherwise you are favoring girls over boys. When you use age as a criterion, gender doesn't matter (because the oldest might have been either a boy or a girl, and the same for the younger).

The younger gets to inherit the larger room when the older goes away to college.

{insert eye roll}

OP being sexist is a sexist is just as likely as you being an "age-ist". Basing "who gets more" on age is not a good solution...does that mean the older child always gets the better stuff? Thats silly.

I'd go with logistics...who needs more space? Where are the rooms with regard to the bathroom? To your room? Or, just flip a coin!

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um, thats supposed to say "OP being a sexist is just as likely..." I haven't slept through the night is almost a year- can you tell?!! ha!

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If it was me, I would place the new baby in the room closest to mine. Or, I would try to separate the kids room as much as possible (so youngest does not wake oldest up at night). If either of those factors are not important to you, perhaps just flip a coin? The choice is not permanent and you can always switch things around if kids start to complain or its clear that one has a lot more stuff than the other. I have 4 and 2 year olds and there is now way that they are aware enough about things like room size to notice. Of course, they are also boys....

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What is the closet situation? That's how my parents made the decision...funny thing is that my big bro is gay and actually has twice the amount of clothing that I do! The best laid plans...

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i think the oldest should get the bigger room.

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As the mother of 6, 4 boys and 2 girls, definately the girls need the bigger room period. Much much more stuff even now, not a huge difference in room size but one boy one girl left at home and she has the bigger room, and it is FULL lol, my son has less stuff by choice and lifestyle........just the facts of life, girls have more stuff. Oh, btw the boys could have cared less lol.................

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I agree that the oldest should get the bigger room. Granted, he's only two so he probably won't be pulling out a measuring stick, but I think it's the fairest solution. I'm sure the transition to having a new, cute little cuddly baby in the house will be hard on him (as it is for all kids) so it's nice for him to know that there are good things about being a "big boy" and not the baby.

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I agree the oldest should have the bigger room, but then I'm the oldest myself. My room had a little alcove 3 feet by 3 feet that my younger brother's room did not (in all other ways they were identical) and he still holds a grudge, 30 years later.

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I had two older brothers and there were two smaller rooms and one bigger room and I ended up with the bigger room. I also had the most furniture, and the most sleepovers, and probably did spend more time in my room. I don't think the older one should necessarily automatically get the bigger room, though I'm surprised by how prevalent that opinion is!

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only on dcurbanmom could this benign issue turn into a "sexist debate". I agree I think it depends on the type of child you have -for example, if your son is the type of person that does not like to play independently, likes to be outside all the time, does not enjoy toys, maybe the best option would be to give him the smaller room. the argument that the oldest child should have the biggest is an agism statement that could be similar to the sexist debate.

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I'd put my Daughter in the room that does not face the street. Otherwise I'd just flip a coin.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the closet situation? That's how my parents made the decision...funny thing is that my big bro is gay and actually has twice the amount of clothing that I do! The best laid plans...

This is exactly how my parents decided when they bought a house... I got the room with the bigger closet and my brother got the room with the small one.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sounds totally sexist. The oldest should get the bigger room.

Ditto.

Hardly. Please get a grip. This is OPs experience, which is mine as well. How do you define sexist? This does not qualify.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:only on dcurbanmom could this benign issue turn into a "sexist debate". I agree I think it depends on the type of child you have -for example, if your son is the type of person that does not like to play independently, likes to be outside all the time, does not enjoy toys, maybe the best option would be to give him the smaller room. the argument that the oldest child should have the biggest is an agism statement that could be similar to the sexist debate.

Ain't it the truth? Sheesh!!

[Anonymous]

Our oldest has the smaller room, because it was already "his" room and we didn't feel like moving him. It was just going to add one more transition to his life and make more work for us. He hasn't seemed to notice that his little sister's room is larger.