who should have the bigger room? silly debate between my husband and i

[Anonymous]

I am not at all trying to play favorites I just remember spending a lot more time in my room than my older brother who was very active with sports, etc.

Yes, you're absolutely right - because girls don't play sports or get involved in other clubs, activities, etc. Plus, she needs the room for her loom!

How are the 1840s, by the way?

[Anonymous]

older child = bigger room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure about other people, but my daughter (who is younger than my son) has FAR MORE TOYS than my son. FAR MORE. And BIGGER. Think: kitchen, princess castle, beauty vanity, bajillion stuffed animals, Barbie townhouse, table and chairs, art easel, etc. My son has a pair of sticks he likes to play with. That's about it.

Wow! I take it your daughter does her own shopping!.

[Anonymous]

Husband and ME.

[Anonymous]

Flip a coin. I'm a second child and I had to have the smaller room, the hand-me-down clothes and all of the other leftovers of being younger. Leave it up to chance, at least.

[Anonymous]

The older kid should get the bigger room.

Grammar police. It should be "Silly debate between my husband and ME."

I'd say a good 80% of the people around here are grammatically challenged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:older child = bigger room.

Ditto, unless there is something about the smaller room that makes it somehow more desirable. In other words, I'd have taken my smaller room over my older brother's larger room, because his was in the basement with crickets. Therefore, a room on the upper level was better, even if it was smaller.

Oh, and girls tend to me smaller, so it makes sense for a girl to have the smaller room. (kidding, in case that didn't read as totally sarcastic)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure about other people, but my daughter (who is younger than my son) has FAR MORE TOYS than my son. FAR MORE. And BIGGER. Think: kitchen, princess castle, beauty vanity, bajillion stuffed animals, Barbie townhouse, table and chairs, art easel, etc. My son has a pair of sticks he likes to play with. That's about it.

Wow! I take it your daughter does her own shopping!.

LOL! Well, we would buy toys for Christmas or birthdays and eventually realized that my son was uninterested in what we bought after about a day; my daughter, on the other hand, never wanted to give up a single toy (she really still plays with everything). Anyway, right before we moved I asked my kids to do a purging exercise of their toys. My son didn't really want any of his toys, but my daughter didn't want to give up anything.

By the way, they share the master bedroom. They are 15 months apart and started sharing a room when the youngest was 2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sounds totally sexist. The oldest should get the bigger room.

Bingo. Girls do not necessarily have more stuff or end up spending more time in their rooms. This observation is based solely upon your one family's experience. My brother had a ton more stuff than we did, and he spent more time in his room that the girls.

Use age, otherwise you are favoring girls over boys. When you use age as a criterion, gender doesn't matter (because the oldest might have been either a boy or a girl, and the same for the younger).

The younger gets to inherit the larger room when the older goes away to college.

So the older gets a big room for 16 years, and the younger for two? That's not exactly fair either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sounds totally sexist. The oldest should get the bigger room.

Bingo. Girls do not necessarily have more stuff or end up spending more time in their rooms. This observation is based solely upon your one family's experience. My brother had a ton more stuff than we did, and he spent more time in his room that the girls.

Use age, otherwise you are favoring girls over boys. When you use age as a criterion, gender doesn't matter (because the oldest might have been either a boy or a girl, and the same for the younger).

The younger gets to inherit the larger room when the older goes away to college.

So the older gets a big room for 16 years, and the younger for two? That's not exactly fair either.

Yeah, especially because the parents won't let the younger one have it, because they will keep it as a shrine to his youth, in case he needs to boomerang back after college.

[Anonymous]

Life isn't fair. What better chance to learn that than right at birth.

And if the child with the smaller room starts with the whole "fairness" thing, just remind him or her that in most countries, the entire family would be sharing a single room AND a single bed, and that they need to get over themselves and appreciate what they have.

[Anonymous]

My brother spent TONS of time in his room when we were growing up.

Two options, neither having to do with gender: the older child gets the bigger room, or the baby gets whichever room is closer to you. Either or.

Or they share a room for a couple of years and the bigger room is used as a playroom.

It also depends - do you have room for toys in another area of the house or will they only be playing in their rooms? For us... bedrooms just have beds, bureau, books, and soft toys. Maybe the occasional toy or two that gets brought up from downstairs. Toys are set up downstairs in the living room/side room and that's where we spend most of our time, especially since the kids are young.

And if you have more kids in the future, it's possible the bigger room will have to go to whichever gender the next child is. Boys in one room, girls in another.

[Anonymous]

oldest. they deserve a nice retreat from the younger sibling.

[Anonymous]

What we are planning to do if we have a second, regardless of if it is a boy or girl: the "nursery" is always going to be the room right next to ours. That is where another infant will go. We have three rooms upstairs and one bathroom. Our room is the largest room, the room besides ours is where our two year old is, and the room across the hall is mainly my husband's office. We are hoping to have another in the next year or two, and our husband will lose his office (possibly move to the attic), my daughter will move to the office, and the newborn will get the room next to ours.

We will decide later if people get moved around. We may not even be in the house by the time they are teens. Point is - I want the nursery close to us. And if we twins, husband and I are moving out and kids can fend for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Umm-I would say the baby gets the bigger room because nurseries necessitate more furniture--a rocker, a changing table etc.