NE Kids in Southern Sororities and Fraternities
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Anonymous
| My daughter is in a sorority at an SEC school. Very hard for NE girls to get into “top houses”. I think the Northern girls dont care as much though and are happy to be in a house that is middle of the pack |
Anonymous
What makes a house "top" or "middle"? |
Anonymous
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The problem is both girls and boys are raised differently in the NE. They can’t compete when it comes to manners, social skills and appearance. The HS kids in the south have spent decades focusing on these things and your kids haven’t.
I live in an affluent area in the NE and parent send their kids to events in gym clothes. The kids cough not covering their mouths and can’t introduce themselves to adults. The manners are atrocious. |
Anonymous
| Does it bode well if you go to a Christian HS? |
Anonymous
This, there is a religious subculture. |
Anonymous
This is the sense I got when we visited. We spent a day at Georgia with a girl from the DC area - a pretty, thin and rich girl from a private school. She's in probably the top non "Old Row" as they call the old Southern houses. She seems perfectly happy. She also pretty much dismissed those houses, implying that they do their thing and she had no expectation, or even desire to be part of them. I know another girl at Ole Miss who is similar and said the same thing. |
Anonymous
| We have a friend at Tennessee who I think did really well. I mean, she changed her appearance and her entire personaltiy, but hey, she got into a good house ... :/ |
Anonymous
The same thing that makes colleges top tier, second tier, and so on. Supply and demand. Think of touse as being like the colleges with single-digit or low-teens acceptance rates and yields above 50%. Mouse would be the equivalent everything from SEC/B1G flagships like UGA, UIUC, tOSU to privates like SMU, UMiami, etc. Bouse is akin to the schools that take almost everyone who can stroke a tuition check and show up on the NACAC list because they can't fill their incoming class. |
Anonymous
Maybe she finally found her people. Isn't that what college is for? |
Anonymous
The girls segregate themselves by looks. The top houses are the best looking, hottest, thinnest girls. And on down. Maybe 20% of bids don't follow this (ie. an occasional less attractive girl will get into a top house). My daughter is at an SEC school and didn't rush but watched this all play out up close. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
You are not getting into a top house just because you are pretty or hot or thin. The top/hardest to get into houses are the insular connected kids who know each other from the best high schools and camps and vacation spots and families. For the millionth time. But like someone else said, these schools are big enough that the unconnected can make their own fun or whatever. |
Anonymous
+1. Same story at many northeast and ivy schools these days. Conected kids have easier access...to top frats/sororities, internships, etc I went to an ivy and have 2 kids at ivy schools - its very different now. For all the talk about diversity and inclusiveness, school social groups at many schools are very insular and focused on wealth/connections. |
Anonymous
My NE kids have manners equal to anyone. Its how they were raised. Many southern manners are just performative BS to hide the racist, misogynistic crap that they learn at home. |
Anonymous
This isn't just in southern schools. We're in Seattle and a friend was just telling me about her son (current high school senior) doing dirty rush over the past month at the UW frats. He was invited/expected to attend events at the houses, etc. As of a few weeks ago he had bids to a couple of houses. From what I heard I'd imagine quite a few spots are already taken through this process by the time formal rush starts. |