Man with no kids at playground

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How would you handle this situation?

On a daily basis there is a man with no kids who walks in circles around the local playground for a LONG time. Like literally around the equipment not like on a path or something.

It is super creepy and makes us avoid going, which feels unfair to my children. Should I reach out to 311? How would you handle?

I agree that this is likely behavior related to neurodiversity, and that it is unfair to your kids to have a parent who is intolerant of neurodiversity to the point that they restrict healthy outdoor activity.

What to do? Go to the park.

Bingo. OP, it seems that you are the problem here. In case you didn't know, people who prey on children are often the most socially-savvy and pleasant people you meet. They develop that persona to lull you into a false sense of security so you give them access to your kids. Often they're coaches or volunteers.

Dp. I understand why op is concerned. While he likely isn't a predator, his behavior is unusual. Even if he is autistic and this loop of the equipment is part of his routine, none of us can tell op how he would react if he were approached by a child or adult. We don't know if he might behave in a way which may upset a child. Also, if he is on the spectrum or otherwise cognitively disabled, why is he not accompanied or supervised by another adult?

Sorry, but there is no guarantee in a public setting that your child will not be "upset." If you don't like that, don't take your child to a public park. And many, many (most?) adults with autism are fully functional without supervision.

OP, this is one of those things that you have to accept as the price of living in community and in society. He has just as much right to be there as you do.

LOL - No, childrens' playgrounds are not build for cognitively disabled adult men to circle. They do not have a socially acceptable right to be there, even if it is not against the law. You are insane.

No, you are very wrong. Public parks are exactly that. I can go eat my lunch in a public park, for example, whether you consider it to be "socially acceptable" or not. People like you are not the arbiters of who goes where.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

If this person's presence is "sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment" because you are "on edge," that's on you. Anxiety medication could be in order. I hate to think that you might be passing along your neurosis to your children.

Big dogs are a different matter; many playgrounds state "no pets." Drug use is against the law.

You need to understand, mama, that the world does not circle around you and your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

THIS. Take your dog to the dog park and go walk yourself on a walking path, not creepily in circles around a playground

Op I would be upset too. Call the police non emergency number.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

If this person's presence is "sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment" because you are "on edge," that's on you. Anxiety medication could be in order. I hate to think that you might be passing along your neurosis to your children.

Big dogs are a different matter; many playgrounds state "no pets." Drug use is against the law.

You need to understand, mama, that the world does not circle around you and your children.

New poster. I feel like if there is one place that actually should be catering to the needs of moms and kids, it’s an actual thing playground.

[Anonymous]

Go up and talk to him. Why engage the police when you can simply say a hello?

[Anonymous]

More sTrAnGeR dAnGeR bullshit. No wonder our kids are nervous wrecks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you handle this situation?

On a daily basis there is a man with no kids who walks in circles around the local playground for a LONG time. Like literally around the equipment not like on a path or something.

It is super creepy and makes us avoid going, which feels unfair to my children. Should I reach out to 311? How would you handle?

I agree that this is likely behavior related to neurodiversity, and that it is unfair to your kids to have a parent who is intolerant of neurodiversity to the point that they restrict healthy outdoor activity.

What to do? Go to the park.

Bingo. OP, it seems that you are the problem here. In case you didn't know, people who prey on children are often the most socially-savvy and pleasant people you meet. They develop that persona to lull you into a false sense of security so you give them access to your kids. Often they're coaches or volunteers.

Dp. I understand why op is concerned. While he likely isn't a predator, his behavior is unusual. Even if he is autistic and this loop of the equipment is part of his routine, none of us can tell op how he would react if he were approached by a child or adult. We don't know if he might behave in a way which may upset a child. Also, if he is on the spectrum or otherwise cognitively disabled, why is he not accompanied or supervised by another adult?

Sorry, but there is no guarantee in a public setting that your child will not be "upset." If you don't like that, don't take your child to a public park. And many, many (most?) adults with autism are fully functional without supervision.

OP, this is one of those things that you have to accept as the price of living in community and in society. He has just as much right to be there as you do.

LOL - No, childrens' playgrounds are not build for cognitively disabled adult men to circle. They do not have a socially acceptable right to be there, even if it is not against the law. You are insane.

No, you are very wrong. Public parks are exactly that. I can go eat my lunch in a public park, for example, whether you consider it to be "socially acceptable" or not. People like you are not the arbiters of who goes where.

Did you even read the original post? OP said "literally around the [children's] equipment". This is not about some random person minding their own business in a "park". Playgrounds are for kids, not loner weirdo adults! Insane that I have to spell this out for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you handle this situation?

On a daily basis there is a man with no kids who walks in circles around the local playground for a LONG time. Like literally around the equipment not like on a path or something.

It is super creepy and makes us avoid going, which feels unfair to my children. Should I reach out to 311? How would you handle?

I agree that this is likely behavior related to neurodiversity, and that it is unfair to your kids to have a parent who is intolerant of neurodiversity to the point that they restrict healthy outdoor activity.

What to do? Go to the park.

Bingo. OP, it seems that you are the problem here. In case you didn't know, people who prey on children are often the most socially-savvy and pleasant people you meet. They develop that persona to lull you into a false sense of security so you give them access to your kids. Often they're coaches or volunteers.

Dp. I understand why op is concerned. While he likely isn't a predator, his behavior is unusual. Even if he is autistic and this loop of the equipment is part of his routine, none of us can tell op how he would react if he were approached by a child or adult. We don't know if he might behave in a way which may upset a child. Also, if he is on the spectrum or otherwise cognitively disabled, why is he not accompanied or supervised by another adult?

Sorry, but there is no guarantee in a public setting that your child will not be "upset." If you don't like that, don't take your child to a public park. And many, many (most?) adults with autism are fully functional without supervision.

OP, this is one of those things that you have to accept as the price of living in community and in society. He has just as much right to be there as you do.

LOL - No, childrens' playgrounds are not build for cognitively disabled adult men to circle. They do not have a socially acceptable right to be there, even if it is not against the law. You are insane.

There are no such things as “socially acceptable rights”. People with disabilities have exactly the same civil rights as other citizens. Whatever right your child has to be there is the same as his.

These are the people who 100% be in a lynch mob if the opportunity struck.

Wow! No cause to equate concern about unusual behavior with racist violent murder and desecration of human remains.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go up and talk to him. Why engage the police when you can simply say a hello?

Sure that always works well, trying to reason with a grown a*s adult who is too clueless to realize he is making women and children have to feel guarded.

Why are women always second class citizens who are always expected to make way for men?

There is nothing to talk about. He needs to leave because playgrounds are for kids. Go walk anywhere else in the park.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you handle this situation?

On a daily basis there is a man with no kids who walks in circles around the local playground for a LONG time. Like literally around the equipment not like on a path or something.

It is super creepy and makes us avoid going, which feels unfair to my children. Should I reach out to 311? How would you handle?

I agree that this is likely behavior related to neurodiversity, and that it is unfair to your kids to have a parent who is intolerant of neurodiversity to the point that they restrict healthy outdoor activity.

What to do? Go to the park.

Bingo. OP, it seems that you are the problem here. In case you didn't know, people who prey on children are often the most socially-savvy and pleasant people you meet. They develop that persona to lull you into a false sense of security so you give them access to your kids. Often they're coaches or volunteers.

Dp. I understand why op is concerned. While he likely isn't a predator, his behavior is unusual. Even if he is autistic and this loop of the equipment is part of his routine, none of us can tell op how he would react if he were approached by a child or adult. We don't know if he might behave in a way which may upset a child. Also, if he is on the spectrum or otherwise cognitively disabled, why is he not accompanied or supervised by another adult?

Sorry, but there is no guarantee in a public setting that your child will not be "upset." If you don't like that, don't take your child to a public park. And many, many (most?) adults with autism are fully functional without supervision.

OP, this is one of those things that you have to accept as the price of living in community and in society. He has just as much right to be there as you do.

LOL - No, childrens' playgrounds are not build for cognitively disabled adult men to circle. They do not have a socially acceptable right to be there, even if it is not against the law. You are insane.

There are no such things as “socially acceptable rights”. People with disabilities have exactly the same civil rights as other citizens. Whatever right your child has to be there is the same as his.

These are the people who 100% be in a lynch mob if the opportunity struck.

Wow! No cause to equate concern about unusual behavior with racist violent murder and desecration of human remains.

The people who lynched people were convinced they were doing the right thing too. You're not better than they were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go up and talk to him. Why engage the police when you can simply say a hello?

Sure that always works well, trying to reason with a grown a*s adult who is too clueless to realize he is making women and children have to feel guarded.

Why are women always second class citizens who are always expected to make way for men?

There is nothing to talk about. He needs to leave because playgrounds are for kids. Go walk anywhere else in the park.

Playgrounds are not only for kids yoy gate keeping cloenn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

If this person's presence is "sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment" because you are "on edge," that's on you. Anxiety medication could be in order. I hate to think that you might be passing along your neurosis to your children.

Big dogs are a different matter; many playgrounds state "no pets." Drug use is against the law.

You need to understand, mama, that the world does not circle around you and your children.

All of this

[Anonymous]

What's next after him? This almost feels like start of "How Nazi was Born" movie, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you handle this situation?

On a daily basis there is a man with no kids who walks in circles around the local playground for a LONG time. Like literally around the equipment not like on a path or something.

It is super creepy and makes us avoid going, which feels unfair to my children. Should I reach out to 311? How would you handle?

I agree that this is likely behavior related to neurodiversity, and that it is unfair to your kids to have a parent who is intolerant of neurodiversity to the point that they restrict healthy outdoor activity.

What to do? Go to the park.

Bingo. OP, it seems that you are the problem here. In case you didn't know, people who prey on children are often the most socially-savvy and pleasant people you meet. They develop that persona to lull you into a false sense of security so you give them access to your kids. Often they're coaches or volunteers.

Dp. I understand why op is concerned. While he likely isn't a predator, his behavior is unusual. Even if he is autistic and this loop of the equipment is part of his routine, none of us can tell op how he would react if he were approached by a child or adult. We don't know if he might behave in a way which may upset a child. Also, if he is on the spectrum or otherwise cognitively disabled, why is he not accompanied or supervised by another adult?

Sorry, but there is no guarantee in a public setting that your child will not be "upset." If you don't like that, don't take your child to a public park. And many, many (most?) adults with autism are fully functional without supervision.

OP, this is one of those things that you have to accept as the price of living in community and in society. He has just as much right to be there as you do.

LOL - No, childrens' playgrounds are not build for cognitively disabled adult men to circle. They do not have a socially acceptable right to be there, even if it is not against the law. You are insane.

There are no such things as “socially acceptable rights”. People with disabilities have exactly the same civil rights as other citizens. Whatever right your child has to be there is the same as his.

These are the people who 100% be in a lynch mob if the opportunity struck.

Wow! No cause to equate concern about unusual behavior with racist violent murder and desecration of human remains.

The people who lynched people were convinced they were doing the right thing too. You're not better than they were.

Please stop. Don't compare lynching to anything and certainly not op's concern. No one is suggesting to torture and hang this wandering park rando. The most "extreme" advice was to call non emergency police number and ask them to talk to the guy. Now, if the man is black, that could be a dangerous thing (for him.)

[Anonymous]

What law was broken? Adults are allowed to walk in the park as much as they like, during the park's opearating hours.