Man with no kids at playground

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

Wow, that’s a stretch. We have an acre of land but it doesn’t have kids to run around or fancy playground equipment so we love to go to playgrounds.

I would have said hi to him, especially since he’s there every day. Start a conversation, hear his story. You learn a lot from people with friendly conversations.

Not OP. But I feel zero need to have random conversations with strange men at parks. Absolutely not.

Why have a conversation when you can have him put down by your armed goons? That's much cleaner.

Thanks for confirming you are a crazy loon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

Wow, that’s a stretch. We have an acre of land but it doesn’t have kids to run around or fancy playground equipment so we love to go to playgrounds.

I would have said hi to him, especially since he’s there every day. Start a conversation, hear his story. You learn a lot from people with friendly conversations.

Not OP. But I feel zero need to have random conversations with strange men at parks. Absolutely not.

Why have a conversation when you can have him put down by your armed goons? That's much cleaner.

Yes, because of course it is one or the other.

Have conversations with strange men in the park or have them "put down by armed goons."

[Anonymous]

OP, stop taking your child to the playground. Problem solved

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

Wow, that’s a stretch. We have an acre of land but it doesn’t have kids to run around or fancy playground equipment so we love to go to playgrounds.

I would have said hi to him, especially since he’s there every day. Start a conversation, hear his story. You learn a lot from people with friendly conversations.

Not OP. But I feel zero need to have random conversations with strange men at parks. Absolutely not.

Why have a conversation when you can have him put down by your armed goons? That's much cleaner.

Found the poster who hates the police. I hope they are available to you should you ever need them.

Many of you are giving this man way too much leeway. the situation is not appropriate. I think we can safely say this person is not typical because a typical person would know not to do this. So the only options are 1. He is a creep or worse. 2. He has a disability of some sort or is otherwise neurodivergent in a way that he may not understand that his behavior is not appropriate. If it’s the second, the officers can explain to him that he can walk at the walking trails located in the same park (as the OP confirmed that they are present). If he is functional enough to be out alone then he is functional enough to understand an officer telling him to walk nearby instead of at the actual playground.

I do hate the police. Anyone who claims to support women and doesn't hate the police is crazy. Your average police officer is a bigger threat to women than this guy is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

Wow, that’s a stretch. We have an acre of land but it doesn’t have kids to run around or fancy playground equipment so we love to go to playgrounds.

I would have said hi to him, especially since he’s there every day. Start a conversation, hear his story. You learn a lot from people with friendly conversations.

Not OP. But I feel zero need to have random conversations with strange men at parks. Absolutely not.

Why have a conversation when you can have him put down by your armed goons? That's much cleaner.

Found the poster who hates the police. I hope they are available to you should you ever need them.

Many of you are giving this man way too much leeway. the situation is not appropriate. I think we can safely say this person is not typical because a typical person would know not to do this. So the only options are 1. He is a creep or worse. 2. He has a disability of some sort or is otherwise neurodivergent in a way that he may not understand that his behavior is not appropriate. If it’s the second, the officers can explain to him that he can walk at the walking trails located in the same park (as the OP confirmed that they are present). If he is functional enough to be out alone then he is functional enough to understand an officer telling him to walk nearby instead of at the actual playground.

I do hate the police. Anyone who claims to support women and doesn't hate the police is crazy. Your average police officer is a bigger threat to women than this guy is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man, inclusion has really gone too far, at the detriment of moms and children. Playgrounds are for human children, full stop. If you are a single adult with no kids and you a hang out at the playground, you are a weirdo. As someone else pointed out up thread, we aren't talking about entire PARKS in general, but the actual playground section. Go find another picnic table or walking spot, you complete and utter potato.

Yes. And don’t forget that almost all male pedophiles caught by police are men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

Wow, that’s a stretch. We have an acre of land but it doesn’t have kids to run around or fancy playground equipment so we love to go to playgrounds.

I would have said hi to him, especially since he’s there every day. Start a conversation, hear his story. You learn a lot from people with friendly conversations.

Not OP. But I feel zero need to have random conversations with strange men at parks. Absolutely not.

Why have a conversation when you can have him put down by your armed goons? That's much cleaner.

Found the poster who hates the police. I hope they are available to you should you ever need them.

Many of you are giving this man way too much leeway. the situation is not appropriate. I think we can safely say this person is not typical because a typical person would know not to do this. So the only options are 1. He is a creep or worse. 2. He has a disability of some sort or is otherwise neurodivergent in a way that he may not understand that his behavior is not appropriate. If it’s the second, the officers can explain to him that he can walk at the walking trails located in the same park (as the OP confirmed that they are present). If he is functional enough to be out alone then he is functional enough to understand an officer telling him to walk nearby instead of at the actual playground.

Police extrajudicially execute hundreds of intellectually disabled people a year. If people hate the police, it is for very very good reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

Wow, that’s a stretch. We have an acre of land but it doesn’t have kids to run around or fancy playground equipment so we love to go to playgrounds.

I would have said hi to him, especially since he’s there every day. Start a conversation, hear his story. You learn a lot from people with friendly conversations.

Not OP. But I feel zero need to have random conversations with strange men at parks. Absolutely not.

The OP is worried about a man walking around the park. Instead of spending any more time worrying she should talk to him. She’ll get an idea if he dangerous which I doubt. But if he was he would probably find somewhere else to walk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen a developmentally disabled adult with a caregiver at the local playground. He was yelling having fun and other parents called the police and complained. It was sad but I understand confusing and maybe scary for the kids.

If they were scared their parents should have educated them about certain disabilities and the symptoms related to the disability. Shame on the adults who called the police instead of reassuring their children that they are safe and he wouldn’t hurt them. That poor mother.

My niece is autistic, in her 20s but compares to a second grade behavior wise. She loves to swing. She can swing for an hour or two. She’s lucky she’s not a man or she wouldn’t be welcome on the swings either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

If this person's presence is "sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment" because you are "on edge," that's on you. Anxiety medication could be in order. I hate to think that you might be passing along your neurosis to your children.

Big dogs are a different matter; many playgrounds state "no pets." Drug use is against the law.

You need to understand, mama, that the world does not circle around you and your children.

New poster. I feel like if there is one place that actually should be catering to the needs of moms and kids, it’s an actual thing playground.

Not Dads though We shouldn’t even speak of them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Exactly what law gives this man any right to just wander around a children’s playground without kids??

I am not a fan of random men in playground areas. That said, public playgrounds are usually part of public parks and open to the public. Suspicious behavior can be reported, but simply being an adult in a public space isn't a crime.

While public parks are certainly open to the public, courts have found that it is in fact legal to pass ordinances that restrict a tiny bit of the park, such playgrounds to kids 12 and under and their caretakers. Many jurisdictions do just that because of situations like the OP describes. It sets parents on edge to have a grown man circling the playground equipment repetitively. The adult can circle the outside of the playground all they want and walk all over the park. It doesn't matter if there adult male has a disability or not. OP never stated if he did or not.

The other factor is that play equipment is safety designed at most city parks for ages 5-12 (with separate equipment for younger kids). Adults using standard ages 5-12 playground equipment like swings and slides can often cause the chain or plastic to prematurely wear and break.

If cities want playgrounds for all ages then they should be specifically built with specialized equipment for larger weight loads.

Oh now you just care about equipment safety lol! Go to any playground with that same 5-12 age range and then see how many toddlers are climbing all over the place. I notice you didn’t say anything about that even though it is far more common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you are truly delusional. I will continue to trust my gut and teach my kids to watch for suspicious behavior as well. People do not have the right to act however they want in a society and expect others to adjust to them. Sorry, that is just not how it works. No one lives in a vacuum or total freedom. There are expected social norms and behaviors and if you deviate, know that you will be looked at suspiciously. Still your right to choose to behave oddly but it is also others right to be wary of you.

Actually people DO have the right to act however they want in society and expect others to adjust to them. Other than illegal acts that’s the way it should be. That’s the main point of civil society in the first place. Civility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

Wow, that’s a stretch. We have an acre of land but it doesn’t have kids to run around or fancy playground equipment so we love to go to playgrounds.

I would have said hi to him, especially since he’s there every day. Start a conversation, hear his story. You learn a lot from people with friendly conversations.

Not OP. But I feel zero need to have random conversations with strange men at parks. Absolutely not.

Why have a conversation when you can have him put down by your armed goons? That's much cleaner.

Found the poster who hates the police. I hope they are available to you should you ever need them.

Many of you are giving this man way too much leeway. the situation is not appropriate. I think we can safely say this person is not typical because a typical person would know not to do this. So the only options are 1. He is a creep or worse. 2. He has a disability of some sort or is otherwise neurodivergent in a way that he may not understand that his behavior is not appropriate. If it’s the second, the officers can explain to him that he can walk at the walking trails located in the same park (as the OP confirmed that they are present). If he is functional enough to be out alone then he is functional enough to understand an officer telling him to walk nearby instead of at the actual playground.

You keep on repeating that this man is a “creep or worse” because he is not acting “appropriately” but since there is no law outlining the exact boundaries of what behavior is appropriate it not at this playground then it becomes a matter of opinion. The problem with your argument is that there are multiple people here in this thread debating you about calling this man a creep. That means that your measure of “appropriate” behavior is not universally shared which means that the man is not inherently doing anything wrong according to any objective or reasonable measure. There is obviously no norm to enforce here because you can clearly see that many people do not agree with your opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sums up what is so frustrating with our society. There used to be some semblance of a common good where one individual didn’t get to take over a space that was intended for another group.

A public playground is for kids plain and simple. There are plenty of places a grown man can circle around without making parents nervous. By being there he is sucking out the pleasurable enjoyment of the playground for many parents and kids because everyone is on edge. Same for people with big dogs who think it is cute to bring the dog in and use the playground equipment and drug addicts using be playgrounds.

This really affects poor and middle class families who can’t afford to pay for indoor play experiences and /or who don’t have backyards.

Wow, that’s a stretch. We have an acre of land but it doesn’t have kids to run around or fancy playground equipment so we love to go to playgrounds.

I would have said hi to him, especially since he’s there every day. Start a conversation, hear his story. You learn a lot from people with friendly conversations.

Not OP. But I feel zero need to have random conversations with strange men at parks. Absolutely not.

Why have a conversation when you can have him put down by your armed goons? That's much cleaner.

Found the poster who hates the police. I hope they are available to you should you ever need them.

Many of you are giving this man way too much leeway. the situation is not appropriate. I think we can safely say this person is not typical because a typical person would know not to do this. So the only options are 1. He is a creep or worse. 2. He has a disability of some sort or is otherwise neurodivergent in a way that he may not understand that his behavior is not appropriate. If it’s the second, the officers can explain to him that he can walk at the walking trails located in the same park (as the OP confirmed that they are present). If he is functional enough to be out alone then he is functional enough to understand an officer telling him to walk nearby instead of at the actual playground.

You keep on repeating that this man is a “creep or worse” because he is not acting “appropriately” but since there is no law outlining the exact boundaries of what behavior is appropriate it not at this playground then it becomes a matter of opinion. The problem with your argument is that there are multiple people here in this thread debating you about calling this man a creep. That means that your measure of “appropriate” behavior is not universally shared which means that the man is not inherently doing anything wrong according to any objective or reasonable measure. There is obviously no norm to enforce here because you can clearly see that many people do not agree with your opinion.

I’m not sure i’m following when you say I keep repeating this man is a creep or worse? You do know there are multiple posters on this thread correct? You do know how a forum works yes? Because I haven’t repeated anything.

[Anonymous]

Go to a different playground, even if it's less convenient. No need to play 20 questions to find out why a stranger is behaving weirdly - in a he disabled, is he on drugs, is he a predator, is he missing his kids, is he... Who cares? It's weird behavior, weird behavior has a possibility of indicating danger, and there's no reason to stick around to find out. If that playground is now this man's walking track, so be it. Not your problem. I wouldn't involve the cops either - if the behavior isn't nefarious, you could just be endangering him for no reason. Let him circle the playground equipment and play somewhere else.