Two loves of your life?

[Anonymous]

Sleep with the other guy

[Anonymous]

Humans are meant to be serial monogamists. I don’t have the answer. It’s painful.

[Anonymous]

how old are you op?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had the great pleasure of meeting someone that I fell in love with when I was much younger. I considered him to be the love of my life. Now, decades later, I have fallen in love with someone else. I am still married to DH who now feels like a brother and best friend to me. I still love him but it is different. Our marriage is sexless and likely will never be anything else. I don’t want to hurt my first love…but I am not clear how to keep living with him and loving him as a brother while now being in love with someone else. What to do?

Is this AI generated gobbly gook?

It doesn’t actually say much of anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:that I fell in love with ... love of my life ... I have fallen in love with someone else ... now being in love with someone else

lame

Do you have kids, Op?

Funny how OP skipped over the part of HOW she thinks she fell in love with this new target.

Watching him from afar?
Psycho killer style?
Had an affair?
Worked closely with him?
Neighbor friend?
Old flame?
Online dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is your marriage sexless?

I'm sure OP has been approaching him offering to blow his mind and drain his junk and he's like nah, I'm good.
/s

It happens. My xH had zero interest in sex. He preferred women on screens.

So he did have interest in sex, but he saw your wandering eye and felt your increasing distance, so he disappeared from real life? Sounds like you hurt him and he chose not to live a fantasy, just dream about a woman who wanted to be with him.

Why do you feel the need to write stuff like that? There are some women around who did not have a wandering eye and did everything we could to prevent distance in the marriage and still our husbands reject us but prefer to lust after other women on a screen. It is not our fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is your marriage sexless?

I'm sure OP has been approaching him offering to blow his mind and drain his junk and he's like nah, I'm good.
/s

It happens. My xH had zero interest in sex. He preferred women on screens.

So he did have interest in sex, but he saw your wandering eye and felt your increasing distance, so he disappeared from real life? Sounds like you hurt him and he chose not to live a fantasy, just dream about a woman who wanted to be with him.

Why do you feel the need to write stuff like that? There are some women around who did not have a wandering eye and did everything we could to prevent distance in the marriage and still our husbands reject us but prefer to lust after other women on a screen. It is not our fault.

His unwillingness to face his pain, causes that type of behavior. You are just not aware of his resentments.

[Anonymous]

All I know about OP is that she spends too much time on LinkedIn.

[Anonymous]

Therapy. Then decide: divorce or repair/rebuild.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Humans are meant to be serial monogamists. I don’t have the answer. It’s painful.

Totally agree with a twist. I believe humans are meant to have someone as a marriage partner to mate and trust, but are not meant to be monogamist for decades. In other words, you love your spouse but need someone on the side. I can see this handled with couple swapping or a trusted person who acts as a boyfriend or girlfriend. My friends would be shocked if they knew this about me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Humans are meant to be serial monogamists. I don’t have the answer. It’s painful.

Humans are meant to be polygynist. Citation? Human history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Humans are meant to be serial monogamists. I don’t have the answer. It’s painful.

Totally agree with a twist. I believe humans are meant to have someone as a marriage partner to mate and trust, but are not meant to be monogamist for decades. In other words, you love your spouse but need someone on the side. I can see this handled with couple swapping or a trusted person who acts as a boyfriend or girlfriend. My friends would be shocked if they knew this about me.

I knew it wouldn't take long for someone to bring up cuckolding.

[Anonymous]

An emotional or physical affair with a poacher will steal more from you and your marriage than they are capable of giving. He isn’t a great love, just an escape that will rob you of the love and future that you had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Humans are meant to be serial monogamists. I don’t have the answer. It’s painful.

Totally agree with a twist. I believe humans are meant to have someone as a marriage partner to mate and trust, but are not meant to be monogamist for decades. In other words, you love your spouse but need someone on the side. I can see this handled with couple swapping or a trusted person who acts as a boyfriend or girlfriend. My friends would be shocked if they knew this about me.

I knew it wouldn't take long for someone to bring up cuckolding.

No, that involves some kind of humiliation. Talking about having a loving, committed partner, but someone on the side known and approved as providing sexual release on occasion. I would think this happens on a satisfactory level somewhat infrequently because of the jealousy issue that are differentiated between men and women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s your question?

You had an emotional or sexual affair and you don’t know what to do? You get divorced, you cheated.

QED