Two loves of your life?

[Anonymous]

I had the great pleasure of meeting someone that I fell in love with when I was much younger. I considered him to be the love of my life. Now, decades later, I have fallen in love with someone else. I am still married to DH who now feels like a brother and best friend to me. I still love him but it is different. Our marriage is sexless and likely will never be anything else. I don’t want to hurt my first love…but I am not clear how to keep living with him and loving him as a brother while now being in love with someone else. What to do?

[Anonymous]

Grow up

[Anonymous]

Let me guess. You are 46.

[Anonymous]

Unless he is physically refusing, go have sex with your husband tonight. It's that simple.

If he is physically refusing, then you have your answer and can part amicably.

[Anonymous]

This is a Joan Armatrading song about that very situation. You should listen to it while you're pining.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i95GcmpXPe0

[Anonymous]

Never even had one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had the great pleasure of meeting someone that I fell in love with when I was much younger. I considered him to be the love of my life. Now, decades later, I have fallen in love with someone else. I am still married to DH who now feels like a brother and best friend to me. I still love him but it is different. Our marriage is sexless and likely will never be anything else. I don’t want to hurt my first love…but I am not clear how to keep living with him and loving him as a brother while now being in love with someone else. What to do?

Seek counseling from a PhD therapist who specializes in sex education so instead of cheating with someone new, you can revive your existing partnership.

[Anonymous]

Marriages can get stale with time, kids, house, careers, money, in-laws, health etc. People who don't want to cheat, make their marriages a priority and keep working on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess. You are 46.

ha ha ha! our brain is playing tricks on us at this age isn't it

-a fellow '79 born

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had the great pleasure of meeting someone that I fell in love with when I was much younger. I considered him to be the love of my life. Now, decades later, I have fallen in love with someone else. I am still married to DH who now feels like a brother and best friend to me. I still love him but it is different. Our marriage is sexless and likely will never be anything else. I don’t want to hurt my first love…but I am not clear how to keep living with him and loving him as a brother while now being in love with someone else. What to do?

Are you also saying that your first love is your current husband?

And now you “fell in love” with someone else? Howd you do that? Working together, speaking a lot? Having an affair?

Nothing makes sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grow up

No kidding

wtf happened here Op?

You slipped on a banana peel, landed in a dick, and are suddenly in love?

You seem to be doing things all backwards. Just get divorced already or figure out you aren’t actually in love with the new guy.

[Anonymous]

What’s your question?

You had an emotional or sexual affair and you don’t know what to do? You get divorced, you cheated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a Joan Armatrading song about that very situation. You should listen to it while you're pining.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i95GcmpXPe0

NP. I absolutely love posters who pull out song and poetry to hit the spot. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Ahh, the ol’ slipped on a banana peel and landed on a dick confusion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless he is physically refusing, go have sex with your husband tonight. It's that simple.

If he is physically refusing, then you have your answer and can part amicably.

Troll

Wut? Maybe Op is a crazy selfish narc and her is the “tip” of the iceberg of her “shortcomings.”