Parents wanting to tag along to our beach house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One set of parents wanted to come and stay and I said no.

I don't see how this is "inviting themselves" like some posters suggested. They wanted to come. I would imagine that everyone WANTS to come. When my kids go on vacation with other families, I want to go too.

OP-can you provide how they expressed that they wanted to come?

The kid asked my son if parents could come. I don’t know this child or the parents at all. I have never met them.

So as expected...an overreaction. These parents didn't openly ask out loud like some suggested. The kid asked if parents could come. He asked. You said No. End. No issues. We don't even know if the parents asked the their kid to ask. Maybe it was like...Little Johnny says, " Mom, can I got to Joey's beach house next weekend?" Mom says, "Sure. I wish I wish I was going to the beach." Chuckles. Johnny wondewres and asks Joey, "Joey, are parents invited?" Did it happen like this? Who knows? Doubt it. By why jump to the conclusion that Johnny's parents made a huge spectacle and put Joey's parents on the spot?

No normal teen is going to invite his parents like this. Just, no.

[Anonymous]

Actually, I think it’s nice they did that- you can’t possibly supervise all those teenagers, do they are offering to help.
Jump on that!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm kinda stuck at that a house that holds 10 people "isn't that big."

Because I imagine it's not 10 bedrooms each with adjoining bathrooms but more like a few bedrooms and all the kids squeeze in several to a room. OP said parents would need to use the couch.

The parents probably didn't know, OP, so you can say "I'm so sorry, the kids are going to be several to a room, and there's only one couch left. I wouldn't be able to make you comfortable." Which is perfectly fine to clarify. No worries. You were not rude.

You don't need to make excuses for why they wouldn't be comfortable. It's incredibly presumptuous to invite yourself to someone else's beach house. OP said no, which is an appropriate answer. Doesn't matter how many the house sleeps or if she could make room. Her kid is allowed to bring a friend, not the friend's parents.

This. Also, the kids would all be hanging out together, which would leave OP to hang out with the parents, who she apparently doesn't know very well? That's not just a no from me, but a hell no. I'm not spending my vacation hanging out in my own house with people I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One set of parents wanted to come and stay and I said no.

I don't see how this is "inviting themselves" like some posters suggested. They wanted to come. I would imagine that everyone WANTS to come. When my kids go on vacation with other families, I want to go too.

OP-can you provide how they expressed that they wanted to come?

The kid asked my son if parents could come. I don’t know this child or the parents at all. I have never met them.

So as expected...an overreaction. These parents didn't openly ask out loud like some suggested. The kid asked if parents could come. He asked. You said No. End. No issues. We don't even know if the parents asked the their kid to ask. Maybe it was like...Little Johnny says, " Mom, can I got to Joey's beach house next weekend?" Mom says, "Sure. I wish I wish I was going to the beach." Chuckles. Johnny wondewres and asks Joey, "Joey, are parents invited?" Did it happen like this? Who knows? Doubt it. By why jump to the conclusion that Johnny's parents made a huge spectacle and put Joey's parents on the spot?

That is not how it happened. It doesn’t matter. I don’t want them at my house and they are not coming. My kid is indifferent if that kid comes at all.

There is no huge spectacle.

[Anonymous]

I think it's weird that you are taking kids on a vacation when you've never met the parents! You've also already decided that the parents are rude when it wasn't even the parents who asked. It was the kid! Last time I checked teens aren't very well aware of proper etiquette. Maybe teen thought it was weird or scary to be invited on a vacation without his/her parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that you are taking kids on a vacation when you've never met the parents! You've also already decided that the parents are rude when it wasn't even the parents who asked. It was the kid! Last time I checked teens aren't very well aware of proper etiquette. Maybe teen thought it was weird or scary to be invited on a vacation without his/her parents.

We have a beach house. My teen/20s kids have friends tag along pretty often, and we don't always know their parents personally. It's not really like a family vacation situation . . . just our home in another place. Plus a lot of their friends' families have second homes nearby, so there are a lot of people coming and going and hanging out. I have had parents hang out for drinks or whatever after dropping kids off, but no one has yet had the audacity to ask to stay overnight.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure it’s not something that got lost in translation op? It doesn’t look like you communicated directly with the parents. The kid could have come and told them “we’re invited to larlo’s beach house”, the parents asked, are you sure we’re invited? Double check pls with Larlo. The kid double checking with your Larlo doesn’t make the parents “invited themselves”