Parents wanting to tag along to our beach house

[Anonymous]

DS wanted to bring some friends to our beach house. Our beach house isn’t that big. It can hold 10 people. I was ok for my teen to bring some friends, which we have done in the past. One set of parents wanted to come and stay and I said no.

Was this rude?

Our house really isn’t big enough to sleep the parents AND all these teenagers.

I told DS they can rent a place close by or get a hotel. Our own friends rent a second house when we go because there isn’t enough beds for everyone and our friends are not sleep on couch type people. Even if these parents were willing to sleep on the couch, it would be so awkward. We have a family room and living area but that is where the kids would be hanging out.

[Anonymous]

They were rude for inviting themselves.

[Anonymous]

You were fine. It’s weird and rude that they asked.

[Anonymous]

It's so rude to ask. I really get upset about adults asking to stay with other adults, whether family or not if we are talking not just parents or a sibling you are close to. It's such a huge imposition!

[Anonymous]

I was thinking you meant yours or DH’s parents. So weird. And so rude.

[Anonymous]

They asked. You said no
You don't need to determine that the asking was rude - that's just being snotty of you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They asked. You said no
You don't need to determine that the asking was rude - that's just being snotty of you

Agree with this. You can just move on.

[Anonymous]

Probably the people who don't trust anyone and think their teens aren't allowed on the beach without hovering over them. Ditch the helicopters.

[Anonymous]

1-2-4 everybody loves beach houses

[Anonymous]

I'm kinda stuck at that a house that holds 10 people "isn't that big."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm kinda stuck at that a house that holds 10 people "isn't that big."

Because I imagine it's not 10 bedrooms each with adjoining bathrooms but more like a few bedrooms and all the kids squeeze in several to a room. OP said parents would need to use the couch.

The parents probably didn't know, OP, so you can say "I'm so sorry, the kids are going to be several to a room, and there's only one couch left. I wouldn't be able to make you comfortable." Which is perfectly fine to clarify. No worries. You were not rude.

[Anonymous]

They were rude to invite themselves. Just doing that automatically closes down any possibility of friendship between parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm kinda stuck at that a house that holds 10 people "isn't that big."

Because I imagine it's not 10 bedrooms each with adjoining bathrooms but more like a few bedrooms and all the kids squeeze in several to a room. OP said parents would need to use the couch.

The parents probably didn't know, OP, so you can say "I'm so sorry, the kids are going to be several to a room, and there's only one couch left. I wouldn't be able to make you comfortable." Which is perfectly fine to clarify. No worries. You were not rude.

You don't need to make excuses for why they wouldn't be comfortable. It's incredibly presumptuous to invite yourself to someone else's beach house. OP said no, which is an appropriate answer. Doesn't matter how many the house sleeps or if she could make room. Her kid is allowed to bring a friend, not the friend's parents.

[Anonymous]

It was rude and bizarre for them to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm kinda stuck at that a house that holds 10 people "isn't that big."

Because I imagine it's not 10 bedrooms each with adjoining bathrooms but more like a few bedrooms and all the kids squeeze in several to a room. OP said parents would need to use the couch.

The parents probably didn't know, OP, so you can say "I'm so sorry, the kids are going to be several to a room, and there's only one couch left. I wouldn't be able to make you comfortable." Which is perfectly fine to clarify. No worries. You were not rude.

Even if OP has room for them, it’s not ok for them to invite themselves.