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Anonymous
| Just another poster saying that my daycare's policy is to NOT give the identify of the perp out. They don't want to create any ill will among the parents, but they DO tell the perp's parents what happened so that they know and can stop future aggression. I don't have a problem with that. IF my son bit a kid, I would be mortified over and above how terrible I felt if the parents didn't know. I'd probably do crazy things to try to overcompensate and apologize to the victim and his/her parents -- so it's a double edged sword. |
Anonymous
| As a small home daycare provider I do often share names when incidents occur. Mostly because pick ups are at the same time and I talk to everyone but we are all like family here and have built long term relationships and I also have "realistic" minded parents who aren't going to fistfight over a scratch or bite inflicted as they understand "stuff happens" and is normal childhood behavior. That said, I completely understand why centers do not share names, it could absolutely be a huge problem. I think my biggest question to OP is why the name is important? What would you do with that information that would be differently than NOT having it? As a Mom, I can remember freaking out when these incidents occured, don't get me wrong. Just curious what difference it would make if you knew the name of the child? |
Anonymous
| It isn't important at all, I know that. I just felt like I had the right to know the details of what happened, and wasn't happy with details being withheld. |
Anonymous
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I think it's standard procedure. Some parents would probably retaliate. Most little kids will do something aggressive at some point - it's what little kids do. Most of the time, it's not intentional. (and some parents probably don't realize their kids' nails grow so fast and need to be cut more often.)
One day I picked up my daughter and she had a giant bite mark - both bridges - on her arm. You could have identified the kid by the dental records. Apparently my daughter took a toy away and the kid bit her. Seems like a natural 2-year-old reaction to me, and no harm was done - no broken skin. When we turned in the signed incident report the next day, on the top of the stack was the incident report (face up) for the biter. It was my daughter's best friend in the daycare room. The little girl is consistently incredibly sweet to my daughter, and they play together well. They're still the best of friends. These things happen. |
Anonymous
Well...it is important to you if you are still talking about it 3 pages later. They did not withhold details besides this child's name and they are supposed to withhold that information. They gave you the details of what happened just not the child's name...and for whatever reason...it is important to you to know who it is. Why are you so interested in knowing who did this to your child? These are very young kids we are talking about not some 10 year old bully on the playground. Just wait until your kid bites, scratches or hits someone...would you like it broadcasted all over the daycare? Doubt it. You need to close this chapter in your life...it is not healthy. |
Anonymous
And that parent had the right to keep their child's name from someone who is so obsessed that can't stop thinking about it days later. Move on already. It's over. Maybe you should get a hobby? |
Anonymous
Hah, I'm the PP whose daughter won't stop talking about the boy that bit her at daycare... he's one of her best buddies there and they are playing together every time I pick her up. While she has apparently forgiven, clearly she doesn't forget! 
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Anonymous
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Provider: Martha’s Table -Washington D.C.
Child 1 year old, dropped off in the A.M. for Day Care and in less than 2 hours, child 's leg turns up fractured. No explanation given by anyone on the premises. |