I got zero for Mother's day

[Anonymous]

You aren't your husband's mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP's miserable and you love it clap your hands.
If OP's miserable and you love it clap your hands.

If you're miserable and you know it
Don't be afraid to show it
If you're miserable and you know it take a stab.

Now do John Jacob Jingleheimer Smith.

[Anonymous]

Someone please explain to me why so many women expect their husbands to do something for them for Mother's Day? I understand it if you have very little kids, they're still in that phase of having to learn how to give gifts for birthdays, express appreciation, etc. But for teens?

This is not a DH problem.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is a lost cause (how have you not gotten on the same page about what is expected for Mothers Day by the time your kid is into her teens) but there's still hope for your daughter. She's old enough to plan and organize something for you by herself and I think you can have a conversation with her about why you were disappointed this year and what you might like her to do next year. She can certainly get you a card and make you a meal at least.

[Anonymous]

Our family stopped fussing over Hallmark holidays when the kids finished middle school. A simple, “Happy Mother’s/Father’s/Valentine’s Day” does the trick. The college kids call for a chat. More than that feels performative, commercial and burdensome. Instead we treat each other really well every day, and if someone sees a gift that someone might like, they give it for no reason other than the joy of giving. Unless it’s expensive. Then they might save it for Christmas so they aren’t just buying for the sake of buying in December.

A low key approach is liberating.

For OP, I think this is more about everyday appreciation. Have a chat as a family. Calmly let them know how you are feeling. And hopefully agree to some expectations around greeting-card-company-invented holidays. Matching their energy isn’t bad. But do it for the right reason, not as payback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If OP's miserable and you love it clap your hands.
If OP's miserable and you love it clap your hands.

If you're miserable and you know it
Don't be afraid to show it
If you're miserable and you know it take a stab.

Now do John Jacob Jingleheimer Smith.

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Whenever she complains
The responses are insane
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone please explain to me why so many women expect their husbands to do something for them for Mother's Day? I understand it if you have very little kids, they're still in that phase of having to learn how to give gifts for birthdays, express appreciation, etc. But for teens?

This is not a DH problem.

(My dh is wonderful and gives nice gifts) I too don't think husbands need to be doing mother's day other than assisting kids and paying for things like flowers/brunch. My dad always takes my mom out on mother's day and gets her flowers from the dog. I don't quite get that one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband gave me nothing for Mother's Day. He worked until 8pm then came home at 830pm. I called him shocked he left me nothing. He said he would pick up at card when came home (like home around 9pm then). I said forget it. Teen daughter did nothing either, but, at least she is just a typical self centered teen. I am the breadwinner, I work 6 to 7 days a week, I am the cook, maid, shopper, I just cannot believe this. I am so sad.

💩

[Anonymous]

Your husband is an autistic loser

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone please explain to me why so many women expect their husbands to do something for them for Mother's Day? I understand it if you have very little kids, they're still in that phase of having to learn how to give gifts for birthdays, express appreciation, etc. But for teens?

This is not a DH problem.

(My dh is wonderful and gives nice gifts) I too don't think husbands need to be doing mother's day other than assisting kids and paying for things like flowers/brunch. My dad always takes my mom out on mother's day and gets her flowers from the dog. I don't quite get that one.

OK but OP's DH did not get her flowers, take her out for a meal, or impress upon their teenage daughter the need to do, get, or plan anything either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is a lost cause (how have you not gotten on the same page about what is expected for Mothers Day by the time your kid is into her teens) but there's still hope for your daughter. She's old enough to plan and organize something for you by herself and I think you can have a conversation with her about why you were disappointed this year and what you might like her to do next year. She can certainly get you a card and make you a meal at least.

I will do this. She has hope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone please explain to me why so many women expect their husbands to do something for them for Mother's Day? I understand it if you have very little kids, they're still in that phase of having to learn how to give gifts for birthdays, express appreciation, etc. But for teens?

This is not a DH problem.

(My dh is wonderful and gives nice gifts) I too don't think husbands need to be doing mother's day other than assisting kids and paying for things like flowers/brunch. My dad always takes my mom out on mother's day and gets her flowers from the dog. I don't quite get that one.

Why wouldn’t he show appreciation for the woman who raised his children? Presumably he witnessed the work she did more entirely than anyone else, including you.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry. Given the ages, keep in mind that DH has his own mother. Your kid should be celebrating you. I am sorry they did not.

[Anonymous]

What a scum bag. Why you marry this loser?

[Anonymous]

I got nothing, as well. My kid is forgetful. It's a little hurtful, but not intentional.