reasonable expectations for mothers day for 18 yo daughter 20 yo son?

[Anonymous]

Op here, many of you have such a great attitude. Feedback taken! I think my expectations are too high which is to say anything other than at some point in the day they say happy mother's day.

[Anonymous]

I love the acts of service - dinner and or dishes, extra kind words and doing activities with me …. The cards are my favorite part of the day. All of this gives me the warm feeling.

[Anonymous]

I (38F) have not done anything for Mother's Day or Father's Day as an adult other than calling them to say "Happy Mother's/Father's Day." And as a mom now myself, I don't really care about Mother's Day, so I don't expect my kids to do more than that either (though right now we're in the cute homemade cards and seedlings from school phase).

It's nice to have a day dedicated to family, but, honestly, it matters more to appreciate each other and spend time with each other throughout the year, than to make a big deal about a greeting card holiday.

[Anonymous]

Seriously birthdays, anniversaries, mother and father days, valentines, Christmas etc all are now about consumerism not about love and care.

[Anonymous]

Isn't mothers day more for moms with young kids?

I would think flowers and a card would be a reasonable expectation. 18 and 20 are hard ages. They can't make anything cute like little kids, but also lack the money that a 30 year old would have to pay for brunch.

[Anonymous]

I love the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your husband hasn't taught them over the years, then the answer is nothing. My dh has been coaching my kids on this front for years.

THIS.

[Anonymous]

Mother’s Day has historically been meh here but this one was great. Spouse cooked breakfast and had flowers. And all wrote really meaningful cards. Kids (16 & 18) wrote things they appreciated about my specific style of parenting and they were incredibly touching and validating and I will save those cards to pull out later. 18 year old (senior gearing up for college) turned it into a grand slam by finding a restaurant that would make her grandmother happy and making the reservation.

No gifts but a lot of thought and appreciation. So basically perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are reasonable expectations. Both kids home for the summer. Husband is in the house too.

I think you should reasonably - buy all three of them gifts. Thank your DH for helping you to get pregnant. Thank the two kids for being born and becoming your children.

You do know that this is a made up holiday, correct?

- Mom.

No one is forcing you to read this. Or to be such a dick.

[Anonymous]

I got cards, hugs, flowers and my favorite scented candles. Sons are 23 and 25. My husband cooked me breakfast.

I didn’t expect all of that but I was really happy to get it. Love my boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are reasonable expectations. Both kids home for the summer. Husband is in the house too.

I think you should reasonably - buy all three of them gifts. Thank your DH for helping you to get pregnant. Thank the two kids for being born and becoming your children.

You do know that this is a made up holiday, correct?

- Mom.

Bravo. Mother's Day gets exactly as much attention in our house as Father's Day: zero.