People Who Are Nosey about your Money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people would consider intrusive questions about a person’s money to be very rude and weird, even if it’s family. Look out for the bad intentions behind it.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In what context are people asking that? Never had anyone ask before

My cousin married a French guy and I was really taken aback when, on a night out, the first time we met each other, he asked both how much I pay in rent and what my salary is. I answered the first and just said "five figures" for the second question. Apparently French people are more open about money than Americans.

yes..its cultral. While americans are secretive about their $$, will easily get offended if you ask how much they paid for their car, refrigerator, etc. People within other cultures will sometimes even volunteer everything financial. Just don't ask - if they are white americans.

[Anonymous]

Nobody asks me. It's pretty obvious that my income has been measured in five figures since I graduated in 1990.

[Anonymous]

"I don't discuss that."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these people? Family members or your co-workers? I would answer, “ Hopefully, enough”.

I wouldn’t answer this of a family member either.

Agree, why being a family member wouldn’t make any difference? It doesn’t.

This makes no sense. You just avoid candid conversations with your family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these people? Family members or your co-workers? I would answer, “ Hopefully, enough”.

I wouldn’t answer this of a family member either.

Agree, why being a family member wouldn’t make any difference? It doesn’t.

This makes no sense. You just avoid candid conversations with your family?

Even with family there is a red line. Don't ask about other peoples money or sex life. Period

[Anonymous]

No one’s ever asked!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In what context are people asking that? Never had anyone ask before

My cousin married a French guy and I was really taken aback when, on a night out, the first time we met each other, he asked both how much I pay in rent and what my salary is. I answered the first and just said "five figures" for the second question. Apparently French people are more open about money than Americans.

Not at all. I'm French. None of my French friends would ever ask this question. It's not done. However Americans are seen as very open and casual by many people around the world, so I think he thought he could ask an American.

Please don't get the wrong idea.

Lol, don't worry - he's not the only French person I've ever met. (His (American) wife is the one who told me that.)

[Anonymous]

I have two brothers-in-law.

After my husband died tragically young BIL #1 had a private conversation wanting to know if I "was okay", was there enough life insurance, savings, that sort of thing. He was available to help me sort things out if needed. I shared how much in actual numbers and he offered actionable suggestions.

BIL#2 boorishly asked me at a family dinner how much life insurance I received, did I feel instantly rich? Was there a lawsuit that I'd profit from? How much did the kids get in Social Security benefits. I told him nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two brothers-in-law.

After my husband died tragically young BIL #1 had a private conversation wanting to know if I "was okay", was there enough life insurance, savings, that sort of thing. He was available to help me sort things out if needed. I shared how much in actual numbers and he offered actionable suggestions.

BIL#2 boorishly asked me at a family dinner how much life insurance I received, did I feel instantly rich? Was there a lawsuit that I'd profit from? How much did the kids get in Social Security benefits. I told him nothing.

I bet BIL #1 told BIL #2 who then became jealous and wanted to embarrass you at a table full of people. Don't ask, don't tell.

[Anonymous]

Never, ever stare financial information with anyone. Family or friends.
Ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two brothers-in-law.

After my husband died tragically young BIL #1 had a private conversation wanting to know if I "was okay", was there enough life insurance, savings, that sort of thing. He was available to help me sort things out if needed. I shared how much in actual numbers and he offered actionable suggestions.

BIL#2 boorishly asked me at a family dinner how much life insurance I received, did I feel instantly rich? Was there a lawsuit that I'd profit from? How much did the kids get in Social Security benefits. I told him nothing.

I bet BIL #1 told BIL #2 who then became jealous and wanted to embarrass you at a table full of people. Don't ask, don't tell.

Dumb conclusion. Whether or not 1 told 2 which I would doubt, she got real advice from 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never, ever stare financial information with anyone. Family or friends.
Ever.

Only on DCUM are people so squeamish and secretive about their wealth. Do you also conceal your financial information from the IRS? Why the secrecy? It’s either because you’re: (1) embarrassed that you’ve been given family money and that all your spending and possessions aren’t at all a reflection of your alleged hard work or (2) embarrassed that you earn, spend, or save foolishly.

We openly discuss finances in our family. Every penny we have and spend is justified and backed by the greatest of integrity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never, ever stare financial information with anyone. Family or friends.
Ever.

Says who?

My parents were pretty open with me and my brother, and I have no problem discussing my finances with my brother. He is talking to me about his stuff as well. I am fairly open with my young adult kids.

Not every family is full of envious jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never, ever stare financial information with anyone. Family or friends.
Ever.

Only on DCUM are people so squeamish and secretive about their wealth. Do you also conceal your financial information from the IRS? Why the secrecy? It’s either because you’re: (1) embarrassed that you’ve been given family money and that all your spending and possessions aren’t at all a reflection of your alleged hard work or (2) embarrassed that you earn, spend, or save foolishly.

We openly discuss finances in our family. Every penny we have and spend is justified and backed by the greatest of integrity.

Or #3, it’s nobody’s business but my own.

#4 I’d rather be judged based on something other than my bank account #s. Like whether I’m kind, helpful, share similar interests with someone, etc.

#5 I don’t want people asking me for money.