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My kid has been a straight A student in MS. He took Algebra 1 H and a foreign language in 7th grade. He doesn’t study at home a ton. It feels like the material he is working on isn’t challenging, with the exception of the foreign language. That said, he has friends who are in similar classes who do have homework, a lot of it, and who are working hard for B’s and A’s.
Do I think this means he will do well in HS? I don’t know. I think it means he is intelligent enough to do very well in HS. I don’t know how he will respond when he is taking AP classes with more homework and studying involved. We are working with him now to try and develop the attitude of studying for tests in advance but that is hard when he can do well without studying. I hope that his intelligence will keep him on the same path in HS but I know that study skills and learning how to review and do that extra work is important as well. We acknowledge that he is doing well in school but try and focus on the effort. We praise him when he goes to study for a test ahead of time. We remind him that it is a good idea to do so even for the classes he doesn’t need to and discuss why that is important. We are saving for college. It would be great if he keeps his grades high and gets a bunch of merit aid, because we are not going to get financial aid. We are a donut hole family and we know it. Merit aid would help him attend where ever he wants to go with the savings that we have. Right now, he can safely attend any public school in our area and a good number of private schools. Merit aid would stretch that. |
In many countries in the world schools are not educating every child, we do in the US. In many countries in the world, the kids attending school are the kids who are identified as smart or fit the right political/cultural profile or have the money to pay for their kid to attend school. You don’t have the same diversity of abilities in school. In the US, every child is expected to attend school and schools are expected to teach them, regardless of the child's ability or interest in being there. Calculus is taken by something like 25% of American students. There are kids, like myself, who have learning issues who don’t make it to Calculus. I still earned a PhD in a field that didn’t require that level of math. We understand that not every child is going to be strong in every area and that is acceptable. I don’t think that same mentality exists in most countries. |
This is 100000% correct. Refecting back, I realized I was selected into a scientific curriculum and others who could have had the same opportunity did not because of lack of space. Our education system offers the best education only to those who meet certain criteria. Those who are average or whose potential is yet to be seen are dumped into what we call "useless" fields such as literature etc. Math and and science was for the "smart" kids PP you are so correct. In the US anyone can have a an opportunity to take calculus. In fact I didn't know this was possible some parents here in the US can even override the schools decision and have their kids put into higher classes. |
How long ago? Was it a school you had to be accepted to? |
| My kid has a 180% in science, 120% in history, and pretty much over 100% in every class. Clearly they give ample extra credit… |
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Good performance in Middle School is definitely an indicator, but not a given. It shows that your child is organized, motivated, and capable of doing the work. To some extent, they complete the work, turn it in, pay attention, and follow the rules. They probably have some combination of natural ability and work ethic.
As things get harder, these skills will benefit them. But they may not be enough to do as well. You may find that they need to study more, do extra work, or get a bit of help for a more challenging course. But if they keep up these habits, and are willing to do that extra work as needed, they should also do well in high school. |
That's relevant, and something OP should be aware of in the extra-curricular department. It's not all gpa and test scores. |
10 years ago. It was a specialized public HS for aviation in Queens. It was not super competitive, but I had a good enough education and was challenged enough to have the necessary grades and courses to be accepted to Purdue for Aerospace engineering. I graduated Purdue with a 3.6 GPA So my experience with public school was good. I don't have kids yet so I can't judge the quality of public education in VA. But NYC wow. Even the non competitive HS are so good with an unbelievably high level of advanced courses. |
Not wow at all. NY struggles to get majority of kids proficient, just like the rest of the country. NYC charter schools are doing remarkably better than public https://nypost.com/2025/12/05/us-news/nearly-half-of-students-across-ny-state-fail-to-make-the-grade-on-math-english-tests-data/ |
We use some online tutors from poverty countries and its amazing how much better educated they are and at a much higher level. 7 grade math can range from 7th grade math to Algebra or Geometry. |
Are you a dense? Only 36% of Mali is literate. One of the lowest literacy rates in the world. Clearly Calc 3 in high school isn’t “standard” when the majority of the country has little to no education at all |
I am so happy for you and your child. If your kid is doing well in 6th and 7th grade, at least two things are clear - she has the brains to do well (ie - no learning disability), and she has tasted what it is to be a good top performing student. Probably, she is not a problem kid either and has some level of self-discipline. So -- all in all -- very good raw material for a bright future. NOW, things that can go wrong - - Divorced parents. Kids don't do well when they don't have functional and intact families. So, it is supremely important that your ex and you, put the welfare of the child first and she should know, feel and believe that. - Lack of strategy and vision. What does your kid want to do in life, what qualifications she will need, what foundational courses she needs in MS and HS, what kind of support she will need if she finds roadblocks in her academic path? You all (kid, parents) need to be on the same page. Tap the school counselors, career guides, chatGPT, internet, college podcasts etc and chalk out a road map of what courses she needs to take in the next 5 years, her strengths and weaknesses, what tutoring she might need and how do you measure improvements and results etc. Know the HS process and college process and the career process. - Hormones, teen years, bad company, mental health. These things are common in late MS and HS (even college) and can derail a bright future. The only way you can prevent this imho is to be very involved cheerleaders for your child. Keep them busy with an eye towards college admissions - hobbies, sports, ECs, skills, volunteer work, acceleration, SAT/PSAT prep etc. Make sure that they are not on social media. Chaperone without hovering. Make sure they are exercising, taking care of their physical looks and health, eating well, sleeping well. Be an involved parent who respects and love their child. Know their friends and weed out the bad ones. Make sure that they don't have time and energy to date. Make sure that they are well socialized. Treat their career (of a school student) with respect and seriousness. Educate yourself and become a source of strength and guidance. You need to step up as a parent and show up where it is required. No. No vaping, drinking, drugs, gambling, sexting ...for her and for her parents. You have to walk the talk. - Money for college. Start saving. It is never too late. Aim for state schools. Investigate the community college path if that helps. If your kid has the academic chops, they will go to college on merit scholarships, need based aid, loans. This is not something you have to worry about too much if both parents can sit and aim for consistent savings and not look to fuxxing up their child's future. |
And yet...the people in Mali who have the resources and can afford to send their kids to school and college are getting better eductaion than most people in USA. SO, shame on USA for wasting resources and not taking the education and the rigor of education of their children seriously. 50% of people voted for Trump. This is the leval of awareness and stupidity of people in USA. And the most priviledged group of people in USA - White males - only 30% have gone to college. PATHETIC. In the global workplace and with the advent of AI - the pp from Mali has better chances of getting a job than most Americans. Bloody illiterate entitled fools!! |
Please tell me more about the amazing colleges in Mali. Are you sending your kids there? |
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This is good performance .... watch and weep!
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