How do you deal with not making the right decisions in childhood?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who even “studies” in elementary school?

Now for wearing glasses, you can still be in the military. My father wore glasses for myopia from the time he was in 2nd grade and had a 30 year military career. Some military occupations will be off the list, such as pilot, but every branch will take you as long as your vision can be corrected to 20/40.

Take up a sport now!

Look we all have regrets. It’s life. But you seem still young so put aside your excuses and go for it! Dig deep for the discipline (not to be confused with motivation) and do it.

I wanted to be a pilot or in combat positions

As time goes on, doors close. But at your age, most are still open.

Please seek therapy to understand why you are only focusing on the past/lost opportunities.

[Anonymous]

My parents didn't want to spend time and money on taking me to extracurriculars. And they disliked sports because of the injury risks and the associated medical costs.

OP, even if that's true - NOW you're just being lame

[Anonymous]

I shudder to think of the bad choices I made in my 20s. And not like drugs or alcohol. Just choices based on thinking I knew best. Life and experience eventually caught up to me and I started making better decisions. But life would have been so much easier had I not made naive decisions in my 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who even “studies” in elementary school?

Now for wearing glasses, you can still be in the military. My father wore glasses for myopia from the time he was in 2nd grade and had a 30 year military career. Some military occupations will be off the list, such as pilot, but every branch will take you as long as your vision can be corrected to 20/40.

Take up a sport now!

Look we all have regrets. It’s life. But you seem still young so put aside your excuses and go for it! Dig deep for the discipline (not to be confused with motivation) and do it.

I wanted to be a pilot or in combat positions

Unanswered prayers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who even “studies” in elementary school?

Now for wearing glasses, you can still be in the military. My father wore glasses for myopia from the time he was in 2nd grade and had a 30 year military career. Some military occupations will be off the list, such as pilot, but every branch will take you as long as your vision can be corrected to 20/40.

Take up a sport now!

Look we all have regrets. It’s life. But you seem still young so put aside your excuses and go for it! Dig deep for the discipline (not to be confused with motivation) and do it.

I wanted to be a pilot or in combat positions

Okay well I wanted to be a supermodel, but I’m 5’3”.

Tough love time, assuming you aren’t a troll. Count your blessings. There are people who would *love* to have your problems. Man up and chart your path.

Are you working now? In school? Focus on it and be the best at what career you pick.

Work out. Hit the gym. Eat right.

Do you have a significant other? Find someone whose company you enjoy and focus on something bigger than “if only I had…”

[Anonymous]

Early intervention is useless on myopia. Glasses are the cure. Take that off your list.

Studying in elementary school also isn't a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Early intervention is useless on myopia. Glasses are the cure. Take that off your list.

Studying in elementary school also isn't a thing.

Myopia is mostly caused by too much screen time and near work as well as not spending time outdoors. I wasted a lot of time on video games and rarely went outdoors

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Early intervention is useless on myopia. Glasses are the cure. Take that off your list.

Studying in elementary school also isn't a thing.

Myopia is mostly caused by too much screen time and near work as well as not spending time outdoors. I wasted a lot of time on video games and rarely went outdoors

BS. I have myopia and have since I was 16. There were no screens other than the TV at that time—we didn’t even have cable.

You know who else has myopia? My parents. It’s genetic.

And you’ll have presbyopia as well soon enough (if you are lucky)! Stop flyspecking yourself. Therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t your parents tell you that OP from age 12-18? Saying No to everything when low risk k-12 is really a bad decision. Either you’re self sabotaging or something like untreated anxiety or adhd was at play.

My parents didn't want to spend time and money on taking me to extracurriculars. And they disliked sports because of the injury risks and the associated medical costs.

Troll

[Anonymous]

You realize your parents did the best they could and you MOVE ON. Take control of your life now, you are an adult. Geez, your mopey whining is unbearable.

I’ll tell you, the chances you would have been a fighter pilot is provably like 1%. You do not appear to have a mental fortitude needed.

[Anonymous]

If those are your regrets, you are doing fine. I was very confused and depressed (starting from a very young age) and I hurt a lot of people, most of all myself. And I turned out fine (or what DCUM would definitely label as fine), and so did you OP, whether you think so or not.

One foot in front of the other. Sounds like you have learned from the past. Time to stop looking back there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Early intervention is useless on myopia. Glasses are the cure. Take that off your list.

Studying in elementary school also isn't a thing.

Myopia is mostly caused by too much screen time and near work as well as not spending time outdoors. I wasted a lot of time on video games and rarely went outdoors

BS. I have myopia and have since I was 16. There were no screens other than the TV at that time—we didn’t even have cable.

You know who else has myopia? My parents. It’s genetic.

And you’ll have presbyopia as well soon enough (if you are lucky)! Stop flyspecking yourself. Therapy.

I was the first kid in my grade to get glasses and was a reading addict by the time I was 5, reading under the covers, by the hallway light, etc. I have read that that can be a contributing factor. One of my brother is 68 and has never needed glasses, the other had mild near sightedness starting in his 20s, my sister got glasses a few years older than I was when I got mine.

[Anonymous]

Most of us make bad choices as kids. It’s part of growing up. I didn’t study at all in high school or college. Luckily, I test well and did great on the LSAT. Could I have had a better career outcome had I gotten into a top law school? Perhaps but I think I would have ended up in the same place.

I advise getting some therapy to learn to live in the present.

[Anonymous]

Here is an Instagram post that you should believe.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVKaPzUkZST/?igsh=MXhqbWttcGNtcG8zbA==

[Anonymous]

It’s not too late to stop paying videogames now.