How do you deal with not making the right decisions in childhood?

[Anonymous]

My DC started a sport a few years after graduating from college & is having a great time. Decide what you want to do now and go after it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone has life regrets, but it's tough knowing I made so many life changing decisions early on that can't be easily fixed. For one, I regret not studying harder in elementary and middle school. By high school, I had to study twice as long as my peers, and that limited the amount of time I had for extracurriculars. My second regret was not taking care of my vision early on. I have myopia and wear glasses, and that limits my ability to join the US military. My third regret was not playing sports. Instead, I wasted my time on video games and the internet. It's so frustrating, and now doors have closed because of these past life choices

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Other kids did not necessarily have better judgement than you. They had different parents, maybe, who made those choices for that.

That can cause its own resentment…but the point is you did not choose your parents or your childhood environment. Now you have control of your life and many many years to pursue a thousand paths. That is a great opportunity.

Perhaps consider therapy if you need help feeling positive about your future.

So that means free will isn't a thing. All our life outcomes were decided at birth. That's scary

[Anonymous]

Didn’t your parents tell you that OP from age 12-18? Saying No to everything when low risk k-12 is really a bad decision. Either you’re self sabotaging or something like untreated anxiety or adhd was at play.

[Anonymous]

Screen time dopamine was just too addictive.

[Anonymous]

Who even “studies” in elementary school?

Now for wearing glasses, you can still be in the military. My father wore glasses for myopia from the time he was in 2nd grade and had a 30 year military career. Some military occupations will be off the list, such as pilot, but every branch will take you as long as your vision can be corrected to 20/40.

Take up a sport now!

Look we all have regrets. It’s life. But you seem still young so put aside your excuses and go for it! Dig deep for the discipline (not to be confused with motivation) and do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who even “studies” in elementary school?

Now for wearing glasses, you can still be in the military. My father wore glasses for myopia from the time he was in 2nd grade and had a 30 year military career. Some military occupations will be off the list, such as pilot, but every branch will take you as long as your vision can be corrected to 20/40.

Take up a sport now!

Look we all have regrets. It’s life. But you seem still young so put aside your excuses and go for it! Dig deep for the discipline (not to be confused with motivation) and do it.

I wanted to be a pilot or in combat positions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t your parents tell you that OP from age 12-18? Saying No to everything when low risk k-12 is really a bad decision. Either you’re self sabotaging or something like untreated anxiety or adhd was at play.

My parents didn't want to spend time and money on taking me to extracurriculars. And they disliked sports because of the injury risks and the associated medical costs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you? Let's start with that . . .

This.
1. How old are you?
2. Why DCUM? Are you from here?

[Anonymous]

You can wear glasses and be in the military. Stop making stuff up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who even “studies” in elementary school?

Now for wearing glasses, you can still be in the military. My father wore glasses for myopia from the time he was in 2nd grade and had a 30 year military career. Some military occupations will be off the list, such as pilot, but every branch will take you as long as your vision can be corrected to 20/40.

Take up a sport now!

Look we all have regrets. It’s life. But you seem still young so put aside your excuses and go for it! Dig deep for the discipline (not to be confused with motivation) and do it.

I wanted to be a pilot or in combat positions

Then you get lasik or pick another field.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you? Let's start with that . . .

This.
1. How old are you?
2. Why DCUM? Are you from here?

1. Mid 20s now

2. Because I don't know any other forum. Reddit heavily censors everything now

[Anonymous]

OP is a mentally ill person who posts at least twice a year, every year, about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone has life regrets, but it's tough knowing I made so many life changing decisions early on that can't be easily fixed. For one, I regret not studying harder in elementary and middle school. By high school, I had to study twice as long as my peers, and that limited the amount of time I had for extracurriculars. My second regret was not taking care of my vision early on. I have myopia and wear glasses, and that limits my ability to join the US military. My third regret was not playing sports. Instead, I wasted my time on video games and the internet. It's so frustrating, and now doors have closed because of these past life choices

Clearly you need an education troll no one wants to be in our military under treasonous Pete

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Other kids did not necessarily have better judgement than you. They had different parents, maybe, who made those choices for that.

That can cause its own resentment…but the point is you did not choose your parents or your childhood environment. Now you have control of your life and many many years to pursue a thousand paths. That is a great opportunity.

Perhaps consider therapy if you need help feeling positive about your future.

So that means free will isn't a thing. All our life outcomes were decided at birth. That's scary

No, but if you are given the choice of not studying or spending all of your time playing video games as an adolescent, you probably were not privileged.