Childless family members sending articles on parenting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start sending her articles on how to get a date, find a man, keep a man, freeze her eggs, and adopt babies

HA! All of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound too sensitive. They're only trying to help think about their intentions before you get all pissed off over nothing.

Disagree. People like this are know it alls who no one likes. I would put her in her place. Sarah, I don’t appreciate this type of “help”.

[Anonymous]

Op, make sure you are not talking about issues you have with your kids -- if you don't want people to try to help you. Your kid's issues should remain private and not be discussed by you.

You do not get to talk about it, and control how others respond

[Anonymous]

I just ignore. One childless and never married friend and one divorced never parenting relative are the two most active critics of my marriage and my parenting style. Never mind they don’t even care for a pet!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, make sure you are not talking about issues you have with your kids -- if you don't want people to try to help you. Your kid's issues should remain private and not be discussed by you.

You do not get to talk about it, and control how others respond

Agree. Share less about your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn’t share it with my MIL. She saw my daughter eating on a FaceTime call.
And yes, it’s 100 times more annoying to have someone who doesn’t have any experience raising kids send this stuff. She frequently challenges me on some topic related to kids that she has zero experience with. I will just keep ignoring and maybe one day she will get the hint.

Why are you having FaceTime calls during meals?

I agree you should send something back about freezing eggs or something.

[Anonymous]

I'd respond as follows: "I'm glad you have it all figured out. Congratulations on your pregnancy!"

[Anonymous]

Also, no Facetime calls with MIL. Put her on time-out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound too sensitive. They're only trying to help think about their intentions before you get all pissed off over nothing.

Duh. What a useless response. I’m not op but have a child on spectrum and THE LAST thing we need is to have to deal with ignoramuses judging our parenting. You have no clue what we deal with. She isn’t “only trying to help”. She’s being judgmental Jane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sounds very annoying. I have 2 kids with Crohn's and have family members who give me all kinds of advice about my kids' medical care when they know nothing about it.

One thing you may want to consider is not sharing anything with your MIL so she can't share anything with the family. The less they all know, the less they have to comment on.

Why would you cut off any source of information that could help your kids? You don’t have to follow it, but believing that your medical practice has all of the answers or scours emerging research is naive. I would absolutely forward new research to a family member if I thought it could be helpful, because you know, I love them.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I'd respond, "I know you mean well, Larla, but this is really unhelpful. We're doing our best on this issue, and we're really not looking for advice right now."

Or my husband would respond similarly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn’t share it with my MIL. She saw my daughter eating on a FaceTime call.
And yes, it’s 100 times more annoying to have someone who doesn’t have any experience raising kids send this stuff. She frequently challenges me on some topic related to kids that she has zero experience with. I will just keep ignoring and maybe one day she will get the hint.

TBH I would just tell her to stay in her lane. Single, childless women opining on marriage and kids is pretty much always annoying. Like you can't even keep a boyfriend, what do you know about any of this? BYE.

[Anonymous]

Ignore all the noise and share less.

[Anonymous]

She probably puts up with lots of comments from married people about dating and singleness and giving her advice too.

Everyone has an opinion and most of the time it isn't about anything related to their own lives or directly about their own personal experience.

[Anonymous]

Response:
When you have kids, be sure to key is know how guys advice works”

Thanks !