Putting my foot down?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So basically, my daughter is into the color green. REALLY into it. Like painted her room green, only wears green clothes, etc. I thought it was kind of strange and childish, especially considering she turns 16 in a few months, but whatever.

However, it recently turned out that she needs to get glasses. She wants to get green tinted lenses. Hubby is totally on board but I said no way! Firstly, that’s very impractical, right? Second of all, I’m fine with her being really into green, but taking it to this extent feels like something that would not have positive social consequences for her, especially because she’s not having the easiest time making friends.

DD and DH are mad at me for refusing to allow the green tinted lenses. I don’t want to cave, but should I?

Are you the Utah phase poster too? Oddly similar…

Utah? OP here, and we live in Bethesda.

[Anonymous]

I’d say no to green lenses too, OP. Make it not about style about practical application. There are many instances in real life where you need to be able to accurately differentiate between different colors and wearing green lenses interferes with this.

[Anonymous]

Only $50. Not worth the fight. https://www.yesglasses.com/shop/tinted-sunglasses/t17036-323?_ad=g&_cid=19731982759&_gid=&_aid=&_eid=&_tid=&_dv=m&_nw=x&_mt=&_kw=&_pl=&_loc_int=&_loc_phy=9008168&_aty=pla_with_promotion&_agid=6462112342&_prod_id=T17036-323&_prod_co=US&_prod_la=en&_prod_gid=&gad_source=4&gad_campaignid=19723149987&gbraid=0AAAAACes8xQrMwH_rDuCvQEi9AOz5SLxu&gclid=Cj0KCQiAm9fLBhCQARIsAJoNOcuaqiCYnrGlBk9qQMBzJlUhykzHEiaMiG9O76DO1ismGL6qGL42TDAaAmHVEALw_wcB#coupons

[Anonymous]

So not a hill to die on, and why on earth would anyone pay $600 for any eyeglasses? There are so many online places where you can get them for $50. Zenni and others - just get her an inexpensive pair, and if/when she wants to replace them, buy the next pair online too

[Anonymous]

You have bigger problems than all that green even if you don't see it right now.
Get the glasses.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t let my kid get green glasses. If she wants to buy herself some green frames sunglasses with her own money that’s fine. But not actual glasses/lenses. You need to get DH on board with you though and present a United front.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t let my kid get green glasses. If she wants to buy herself some green frames sunglasses with her own money that’s fine. But not actual glasses/lenses. You need to get DH on board with you though and present a United front.

If my spouse picked this fight, no way would I support them. OP would be standing alone on this. There is no harm in a 16 year old deciding to get green glasses. OP just doesn’t like them. But apparently a lot of others do since they actually make green glasses.

[Anonymous]

When she drives she needs to see red. Can she with the chosen lenses? Remind her if she hopes to drive.

[Anonymous]

Do you have actual practical concerns? Or are you just tired of green everything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have actual practical concerns? Or are you just tired of green everything?

OP here. Honestly? A bit of both

[Anonymous]

OP still has not told us whether this is a permanent lens color (which I don't think I would allow, unless it's that blue thing to reduce screen glare, but that's hardly visible at all), or whether this is the color of the transition to sunglasses (which I have approved for both my kids, one has purple and one has grey).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also have a teen daughter (on the spectrum, yours is probably ASD too) who is into green this year. First, I'm relieved my kid moved on from white, because that was a bear to wash!

Second, to your question: what tint are you referring to? If it's the sun protection tint that appears in sunlight, that's perfectly fine, the glasses will stay clear indoors. My DD got her glasses before green became her thing, and she chose a purplish sun protection tint that looks all kinds of cool. If she had gotten green, it wouldn't have bothered me either.

We all wear glasses in the family, and I have difficulty imagining permanently-tinted eyeglasses.

OP here. Um, my daughter is not on the spectrum, not sure why you’d assume that.

Because OP if you thought your daughter was perfectly “normal” you’d let her just get the green lenses. But, you want to stop her bc you’re worried the green lenses are weird and she isn’t capable of seeing the social consequences (so ppl are assuming autism here bc it’s the most common explanation).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would get green frames, not green tinted lenses.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP still has not told us whether this is a permanent lens color (which I don't think I would allow, unless it's that blue thing to reduce screen glare, but that's hardly visible at all), or whether this is the color of the transition to sunglasses (which I have approved for both my kids, one has purple and one has grey).

OP here, it is a permanent lens color. Sorry, should’ve specified.

[Anonymous]

Green frames, sure. Green lenses, no; that's ridiculous.