Putting my foot down?

[Anonymous]

So basically, my daughter is into the color green. REALLY into it. Like painted her room green, only wears green clothes, etc. I thought it was kind of strange and childish, especially considering she turns 16 in a few months, but whatever.

However, it recently turned out that she needs to get glasses. She wants to get green tinted lenses. Hubby is totally on board but I said no way! Firstly, that’s very impractical, right? Second of all, I’m fine with her being really into green, but taking it to this extent feels like something that would not have positive social consequences for her, especially because she’s not having the easiest time making friends.

DD and DH are mad at me for refusing to allow the green tinted lenses. I don’t want to cave, but should I?

[Anonymous]

You’re doing the right thing, OP.

[Anonymous]

I also have a teen daughter (on the spectrum, yours is probably ASD too) who is into green this year. First, I'm relieved my kid moved on from white, because that was a bear to wash!

Second, to your question: what tint are you referring to? If it's the sun protection tint that appears in sunlight, that's perfectly fine, the glasses will stay clear indoors. My DD got her glasses before green became her thing, and she chose a purplish sun protection tint that looks all kinds of cool. If she had gotten green, it wouldn't have bothered me either.

We all wear glasses in the family, and I have difficulty imagining permanently-tinted eyeglasses.

[Anonymous]

Try to compromise and get green frames but not tint

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try to compromise and get green frames but not tint

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also have a teen daughter (on the spectrum, yours is probably ASD too) who is into green this year. First, I'm relieved my kid moved on from white, because that was a bear to wash!

Second, to your question: what tint are you referring to? If it's the sun protection tint that appears in sunlight, that's perfectly fine, the glasses will stay clear indoors. My DD got her glasses before green became her thing, and she chose a purplish sun protection tint that looks all kinds of cool. If she had gotten green, it wouldn't have bothered me either.

We all wear glasses in the family, and I have difficulty imagining permanently-tinted eyeglasses.

OP here. Um, my daughter is not on the spectrum, not sure why you’d assume that.

[Anonymous]

Let her get normal untinted eyeglasses for everyday and then she can get tinted green sunglasses with corrective lenses from Zenni. It’s not a hill I’d die on with a kid, and I’d be willing to compromise on. But agree with you on this, if she’s going to be wearing eyeglasses all the time and not just occasionally, she needs regular clear lenses.

[Anonymous]

Life is short. If she wants green glasses who cares. I had all sorts of weird clothing phases. I had to get a job as a teen to support them. My dad was a high school Principal. He never said a word about any of it.

Support your children because being a adult comes WAY too soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try to compromise and get green frames but not tint

This. Why is it a big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also have a teen daughter (on the spectrum, yours is probably ASD too) who is into green this year. First, I'm relieved my kid moved on from white, because that was a bear to wash!

Second, to your question: what tint are you referring to? If it's the sun protection tint that appears in sunlight, that's perfectly fine, the glasses will stay clear indoors. My DD got her glasses before green became her thing, and she chose a purplish sun protection tint that looks all kinds of cool. If she had gotten green, it wouldn't have bothered me either.

We all wear glasses in the family, and I have difficulty imagining permanently-tinted eyeglasses.

OP here. Um, my daughter is not on the spectrum, not sure why you’d assume that.

Well something is wrong.

Green everything is a compulsion. She needs help.

[Anonymous]

Does she identify as “Kermit”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also have a teen daughter (on the spectrum, yours is probably ASD too) who is into green this year. First, I'm relieved my kid moved on from white, because that was a bear to wash!

Second, to your question: what tint are you referring to? If it's the sun protection tint that appears in sunlight, that's perfectly fine, the glasses will stay clear indoors. My DD got her glasses before green became her thing, and she chose a purplish sun protection tint that looks all kinds of cool. If she had gotten green, it wouldn't have bothered me either.

We all wear glasses in the family, and I have difficulty imagining permanently-tinted eyeglasses.

OP here. Um, my daughter is not on the spectrum, not sure why you’d assume that.

So is this a transition tint for the sun? You can get those in all kinds of colors now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also have a teen daughter (on the spectrum, yours is probably ASD too) who is into green this year. First, I'm relieved my kid moved on from white, because that was a bear to wash!

Second, to your question: what tint are you referring to? If it's the sun protection tint that appears in sunlight, that's perfectly fine, the glasses will stay clear indoors. My DD got her glasses before green became her thing, and she chose a purplish sun protection tint that looks all kinds of cool. If she had gotten green, it wouldn't have bothered me either.

We all wear glasses in the family, and I have difficulty imagining permanently-tinted eyeglasses.

OP here. Um, my daughter is not on the spectrum, not sure why you’d assume that.

Just a bit eccentric, OP! Nothing wrong with that. Those are the most interesting people.

[Anonymous]

If glasses are really green that might be a problem seeing stoplights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also have a teen daughter (on the spectrum, yours is probably ASD too) who is into green this year. First, I'm relieved my kid moved on from white, because that was a bear to wash!

Second, to your question: what tint are you referring to? If it's the sun protection tint that appears in sunlight, that's perfectly fine, the glasses will stay clear indoors. My DD got her glasses before green became her thing, and she chose a purplish sun protection tint that looks all kinds of cool. If she had gotten green, it wouldn't have bothered me either.

We all wear glasses in the family, and I have difficulty imagining permanently-tinted eyeglasses.

OP here. Um, my daughter is not on the spectrum, not sure why you’d assume that.

PP you replied to. Because high-functioning autism looks like that, OP: unusually intense interests and difficult making friends. This should not be a taboo or a source of shame for you. Your child is still who they are, autism or not autism. It's just a label, that helps explain the things you are complaining about currently. It is normal to have color preferences. It's not normal to go to these extremes.

Also, you didn't answer the actually important question, which is whether the color is just a tint for transitioning into sunlight. If that is the case, would you be OK with a green tint?

Finally, I don't quite understand why you draw the line at that. Teens dress in all kinds of ways nowadays, because social media inspires them to draw on thousands of microtrends. Gone are the days when teens only had access to a few TV channels and only knew of a few major clothing trends. Now it's everyone doing their own thing. She won't be bullied with green-tinted glasses, and the social issue will stay exactly the same.