No libido or desire for sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:women’s desire is responsive so unless your DH is treating you really well in all realms, that’s where you should look to improve before you medicate yourself to please him.

This is so untrue. It is both partners responsibility to take care of each other and also to seek help medically or via therapy if needed.

[Anonymous]

Agree.

[Anonymous]

I tried testosterone. It comes in a topical gel. I never absorbed it properly because when I got a blood test several times, the numbers hardly moved. I tried Vyleesi. It didn't do anything either. I'm on estrogen and progesterone. I wish I had an answer. I miss my once high libido.

I still try to have s$x with my husband twice a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tried testosterone. It comes in a topical gel. I never absorbed it properly because when I got a blood test several times, the numbers hardly moved. I tried Vyleesi. It didn't do anything either. I'm on estrogen and progesterone. I wish I had an answer. I miss my once high libido.

I still try to have s$x with my husband twice a week.

Wow your husband is a lucky man. 🙂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tried testosterone. It comes in a topical gel. I never absorbed it properly because when I got a blood test several times, the numbers hardly moved. I tried Vyleesi. It didn't do anything either. I'm on estrogen and progesterone. I wish I had an answer. I miss my once high libido.

I still try to have s$x with my husband twice a week.

That's excellent, PP. You are trying and want to improve on the problem. Kudos to you.

How old are you, BTW?

[Anonymous]

good for PP for trying all this for her marriage. The most common answer you see is don't do it, or do as you feel and DH will take care of you but then it also brings other stress of divorce, infidelity, shame, inadequacy so it is upto people what they want to do. Finding a solution for an issue is way far easier than dealing all the other problems and being alone.

[Anonymous]

Yes, not working out your sex life can cause resentment on either side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, not working out your sex life can cause resentment on either side.

and then people wonder why marriages or relationships don't work.

[Anonymous]

I don’t want / need sex nearly as often as I used to, but I have my moments! If my DH stopped having sex with me, I’d be so mad and hurt. I can put myself in the shoes of OPs DH and I think it’s awful for him! She should do something if she had any memory from her younger years of what it’s like to want and need sex! Esp if it’s as easy as getting an hrt prescription!

I take hrt (but not for libido as that hasn’t been an issue of mine yet). I do think E and P alone increase desire and I’d be inclined to try those first before adding T.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want / need sex nearly as often as I used to, but I have my moments! If my DH stopped having sex with me, I’d be so mad and hurt. I can put myself in the shoes of OPs DH and I think it’s awful for him! She should do something if she had any memory from her younger years of what it’s like to want and need sex! Esp if it’s as easy as getting an hrt prescription!

I take hrt (but not for libido as that hasn’t been an issue of mine yet). I do think E and P alone increase desire and I’d be inclined to try those first before adding T.

This is an excellent post, PP. Not a lot of people think like that and they get too selfish and just want their partner to sacrifice and that is not right. BTW, how old are you, PP?

[Anonymous]

Need to bring this up with my wife. She has never been really interested in a lot of sex or intimacy. We had an OK sex life but that has disappeared during the last few years. How do I bring this up? She gets very defensive. I’m trying not be resentful but it is tough.

[Anonymous]

My drive is way, way down but I try to have 2x week sex with my husband (both 53). He’d go twice a day if I was up for it. Hate this phase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Need to bring this up with my wife. She has never been really interested in a lot of sex or intimacy. We had an OK sex life but that has disappeared during the last few years. How do I bring this up? She gets very defensive. I’m trying not be resentful but it is tough.

how old are you guys and how was sex at the starting? what is the issue - she not feeling emotional safe with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My drive is way, way down but I try to have 2x week sex with my husband (both 53). He’d go twice a day if I was up for it. Hate this phase.

that's excellent PP. not a lot of women even 10 years younger than you put this much effort. You should be glad that you have such a caring husband that still have hots for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don’t think my husband would stray (who ever does) but I see his frustrations. He doesn’t have an outlet outside of working out. I’ll talk to my doc and hopefully find a solution.

Girllll