Grandparent legal expectations in mixed culture divorce

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Anonymous wrote:Why did DH have to initiate a custody battle? You are both parents. Forcing one parent into court and spending money just to see your kids makes no sense.

Because he told me he should have and will have 100% custody.

Barring felony charges and life threatening abuse from OP - fat chance of that.

OP here. I am learning that there’s no rule saying that the motions someone files need to be grounded in reality.

True. But ridiculous motions reflect on the person who filed them.

My ex filed some absolutely crazy motions, but never had them served, so I had no idea until he started telling people (including judges) he filed for this and that. The lay people may or may not have believed him (I don’t really care), but the judge laid into him for that (this was after a long day of his shenanigans).

All of this is to say, don’t worry about what he is filing unless your lawyer tells you to worry.

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Anonymous wrote:Do your children have Chinese passports or would your husband/his parents be able to apply for them? If so the settlement needs to specifically say he cannot do so.

China does not allow dual citizenship.
The kid can't have a Chinese passport unless born there.

Thats not clear, depending on whether OP’s husband is a citizen of the United States which she does not say.

OP discuss with your lawyer. Make it explicit that your husband and his parents may pose an international kidnapping risk.

I can see that everyone here is worried about international kidnapping which I appreciate but I want to assure you that the legal aspects of that have been dealt with, DH does not have a Chinese passport, and my attorney is in possession of the kids’ passports. In addition to that, the other country where the kids could possibly have citizenship or receive a passport has the kids on the list to block any such action. So that part is as much of a legal non-issue as it can be for now.

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares? You're in the USA, right?

I am. Just trying to understand if there is a justification for their behavior!

Because in Chinese culture males are more valuable than females. Also true in middle eastern cultures. A few years ago men in these cultures were having a difficult time finding brides because female fetuses were being aborted because all the women wanted sons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares? You're in the USA, right?

I am. Just trying to understand if there is a justification for their behavior!

Because in Chinese culture males are more valuable than females. Also true in middle eastern cultures. A few years ago men in these cultures were having a difficult time finding brides because female fetuses were being aborted because all the women wanted sons.

Stop creating problems where there are not any.

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone know anything about the expectations of Chinese grandparents in a divorce? I am a white woman and have stumbled into a situation that I think has more cultural undertones than I realized. My STBX is 1st gen Chinese-American and his parents have become very involved in our divorce and a custody battle that DH initiated. A friend who grew up in China said that typically dads get there get custody of kids in a divorce so that’s why. Is that true? Google is giving me all sorts of answers.

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All 50 U.S. states have laws allowing grandparents to petition courts for visitation or custody if parents deny access, especially after divorce, death of a parent, or if parents are unfit, though the specific requirements and strength of these rights vary significantly by state and hinge on proving it's in the child's best interest.