What in the world is happening at Carson?

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Anonymous wrote:There is for sure drug issue at Carson, the drug issue can only get worse when those kids are in HS.

The Crossfield/Navy AAP moms are out of control here. Why is it that you always bragged about your kids going to Carson up until about a month ago?

Carson had a school within a school.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope the younger kids parents now understand why those older kids parents want to stay, in order to stay far away from those problematic kids from those problematic school.

HUH?

Carsons demographics are wierd

They sure are.
Are there any Southeast Asian parents in here willing to discuss what types of parental consequences/behavior expectations you have?
Do you find the permissive parenting style common in the communities here or something else?
I am seriously and genuinely curious.
I'm not talking grades btw, think behavior, how others are treated, manners, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I think he is just addressing the atmosphere and would appreciate some parental reinforcement. I also think that the operative word and reason for the letter might be "horseplay."

When it is just a handful of kids acting out, it should have been handled with those kids. But, I've no kids there so this is all speculation. But, middle school kids are not known for being docile.

It's not just a "handful" of kids. It's become an epidemic, not just at Carson, and it needs to stop.

You know what would be helpful? CONSEQUENCES. If kids got real detentions and real suspensions again, this would stop.

Consequences need to BEGIN AT HOME and should continue at school. Stop making excuses for kids' ill-mannered behavior and stop pawning off parenting to the schools.

I'm not making excuses for anyone. Yes, absolutely parents need to provide consequences too. I see two different types of parents that let their kids get away with horrible behavior:
1. The parents who are obsessed with gentle parenting/permissive parenting and let their kids get away with all sorts of bad behavior and just make up excuses (or worse, make up diagnoses) for them.
2. The parents who think their children are model students and deny that they would ever misbehave, therefore their kids get away with mouthing off, bullying, sometimes even destruction of property because their child is perfect and would never behave that way.

NP. There's a third type and it's worse than the other two. It's the parents who do nothing. No expectations about behavior at home, blocking the school's phone number, ignoring teacher messages or emails, zero encouragement to do well academically. These are the kids who are basically feral because their parents have invested no time or energy in modeling the right kind of behavior for school or even life in general. Things usually get out of hand by middle school because hormones are in the mix and some have started experimenting with drugs and/or alcohol.

Right, and those kids are the reason we ALSO need school-based consequences. Because there aren't any at home. Bring back suspensions and detentions.

So the parents aren't responsible? They can keep telling their kids that school behavior doesn't matter?

DP. No one said that.

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they shutdown school for years what do they expect? COVID shutdown was way worse the people talk about

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Anonymous wrote:they shutdown school for years what do they expect? COVID shutdown was way worse the people talk about

If you are still blaming COVID for your kids behavior today then you are not doing your job. Never mind that you didn't do a good job during COVID, if your kids behavior is poor you need to address it.

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Anonymous wrote:they shutdown school for years what do they expect? COVID shutdown was way worse the people talk about

If you are still blaming COVID for your kids behavior today then you are not doing your job. Never mind that you didn't do a good job during COVID, if your kids behavior is poor you need to address it.

Oh, I think PP is blaming other kids' behavior on Covid.

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Anonymous wrote:they shutdown school for years what do they expect? COVID shutdown was way worse the people talk about

Years? It was 1 year (12 months).

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Anonymous wrote:they shutdown school for years what do they expect? COVID shutdown was way worse the people talk about

If you are still blaming COVID for your kids behavior today then you are not doing your job. Never mind that you didn't do a good job during COVID, if your kids behavior is poor you need to address it.

Oh, I think PP is blaming other kids' behavior on Covid.

Yes, because how do they how to act when they have to be looking at a screen for 8 hours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is for sure drug issue at Carson, the drug issue can only get worse when those kids are in HS.

The Crossfield/Navy AAP moms are out of control here. Why is it that you always bragged about your kids going to Carson up until about a month ago?

Carson had a school within a school.

Really? My kid is at Carson and has classes with kids for a variety of ES. He is in the AAP classes at Carson. If you are arguing that AAP is its own school, then that is far more then Navy and Crossfield. That includes kids from all of the ES that feed into Carson.

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Carson AAP is awesome. Regular classes at Carson suck - filled with out of control kids.

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Anonymous wrote:There is for sure drug issue at Carson, the drug issue can only get worse when those kids are in HS.

The Crossfield/Navy AAP moms are out of control here. Why is it that you always bragged about your kids going to Carson up until about a month ago?

Carson had a school within a school.

I am a former Crossfield parent with a child in general education classes at Carson. She has never had any problems with anyone and has never been in disruptive classrooms. So, no, this is not an AAP vs not AAP thing. Only a handful of Crossfield kids each year are actually AAP, the rest are principal placed and end up in Honors and Gen Ed.

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Anonymous wrote:Carson AAP is awesome. Regular classes at Carson suck - filled with out of control kids.

This is not true. This has not at all been our experience.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope the younger kids parents now understand why those older kids parents want to stay, in order to stay far away from those problematic kids from those problematic school.

HUH?

Carsons demographics are wierd

They sure are.
Are there any Southeast Asian parents in here willing to discuss what types of parental consequences/behavior expectations you have?
Do you find the permissive parenting style common in the communities here or something else?
I am seriously and genuinely curious.
I'm not talking grades btw, think behavior, how others are treated, manners, etc.

Southeast Asia? You are asking only parents from Cambodia, Laos, Myanmar, Thailand, Vietnam, Malaysia, Brunei, East Timor, Indonesia, the Philippines, Singapore to answer your question? I am very confused here. Why just these families?

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Anonymous wrote:they shutdown school for years what do they expect? COVID shutdown was way worse the people talk about

If you are still blaming COVID for your kids behavior today then you are not doing your job. Never mind that you didn't do a good job during COVID, if your kids behavior is poor you need to address it.

Oh, I think PP is blaming other kids' behavior on Covid.

Yes, because how do they how to act when they have to be looking at a screen for 8 hours.

DCUM exaggerates like crazy. No one is on screens 8 hours a day at school....maybe at home....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just got this and my son says he has no idea why, and definitely did not see anything on TV. Am I missing something? We never received this when older son was at Carson.

12/01/2025
Dear Carson Middle School Parents and Families,

I am writing to you today to address an important topic, student behavior. Carson Middle School is dedicated to fostering a Ready, Respectful, and Responsible learning environment for all students, and we need your partnership to reinforce these core values.

While we understand the normal enthusiasm and camaraderie that comes with being middle school students, it is critical that we continue to address behaviors that require our collective attention and correction. We are seeing an increased amount of hands-on horseplaying between students. While this often begins innocently and playfully, it can, and at times does, escalate into unnecessary arguments and friction among peers.
In order to maintain a safe and supportive learning environment, our students must demonstrate respect towards their teachers and every adult in the building, themselves, one another, and respect for school property. 
Here at Carson MS, our expectations are explicitly tied to the 3 R's:
* Ready: Students need to show up to class on time and ready to learn. This means being prepared with materials and a mindset focused on instruction.
* Respectful: It is not okay for students to distract their teachers from teaching or impede the learning of others in their classrooms. Students must treat every member of our community and our shared spaces with courtesy.
* Responsible: This includes making sound choices that support a positive school environment.

Just like in the classroom, we need students to be mindful of their actions in all school areas. In the hallways, while it is okay to talk to friends, these conversations need to happen while students are actively making their way to their classrooms, so that they are in class by the time the bell rings and ready to learn. In the cafeteria, students need to eat their lunch, talk using inside voices, stay at their lunch seat until it is time to throw away their trash (which they are given directions when to do so) and practice responsibility by cleaning up after themselves, leaving their tables ready for the next group of students to use.

When we observe student actions that are not aligned with our school’s core values of being Ready, Respectful, and Responsible, appropriate consequences will continue to be applied and increased as needed. Students who choose to make poor choices will face consequences aligned with the FCPS Students Rights and Responsibilities (SR&R).
It is imperative that we, as a community, understand the impact of such behaviors. They can significantly disrupt the learning environment and process for both students and teachers and, most critically, can create unsafe conditions. Please know that we take matters like this very seriously. We will continue to revisit our expectations around the 3 R's, as well as hold future discussions with students around the FCPS SR&R and the consequences for not following county and school guidelines. Additionally, your children saw a video this morning on RCTV from myself, reiterating expectations around appropriate school behavior.

Most importantly, addressing student behavior is a partnership. I encourage each of you to speak with your children about appropriate behaviors and help reinforce school-wide expectations at home. We will be reaching out to families directly in cases where a student's behavior requires individual attention, support, and consequences.

I have no doubt that by working together, we can ensure that Carson Middle School remains a welcoming, positive, and safe place for all.

Thank you for your continued support and cooperation.
Sincerely,
Tony Washington
Principal

This email could have been sent by my FCPS middle school principal - we see the same thing all day long at our middle school and it's tiring.