How much weed is too much?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, her motivation has gone downhill fast. She has trouble completing anything. She has always struggled to complete tasks in a timely manner, but it has gotten worse. Her mood is definitely off. She just looks strung out.

OP this is what weed does.

People who did weed in college 20+ years ago were doing something different. Today, vapes are small enough to fit in a pocket and can be used all day long. It doesn't have to be social. There isn't a joint-rolling process to slow people down. It's easy to slip into pretty extreme using habits.

Also the drug is more potent.

Studies have confirmed the harmful effects on brain development for those under 25. IMHO, any marijuana is too much.

I don't understand why people don't realize how dangerous it is.

1) Because the parents are using it themselves, and like to relate to their kids as the "cool parents."

2) Because the parents can't accept the fact that they were in college 25+ years ago (translation: they are old), in a different time and different era and when pot products were different.

3) Because the parents have raised their kids with the concept of gentle parenting, participation trophies and everything else that has told them all their lives that they can do no wrong. How can they start now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our daughter has experimented with marijuana products throughout college, and even had some bad experiences. It was always in a party setting with her friends. I know that is pretty typical these days. But we have recently found out that she is now buying at the dispensaries 4-5 times per week. We don’t know what products she is buying, but I am guessing joints. She is mostly doing this with her boyfriend, but she might sometimes be doing it alone. I think it has become something she does to alleviate stress and anxiety. She doesn’t know that we know about this. We just aren’t sure if we should step in. As far as we know, she isn’t doing anything illegal.

Full disclosure, I have an aversion to marijuana. I know it is legal and all. It just scares me and always has. So, I know that I am very biased against it. That’s why I am asking others who are more open to it, maybe did it in college or have kids that do it. Are we at the point where we should intervene? She only has one more semester left, so should we ride it out and hope that it is just a college thing for her?
We are really worried, so any advice or insight would be much appreciated!

Nothing good comes from this. I wish you the best of luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I assume OP is funding not only this drug habit, but college. She can start with the purse strings. There is no way my child would be back in college next semester under these circumstances.

OP I posted earlier. I agree with this. If I were you, I'd be calling the college billing office to ask about withdrawal and re-enrollment. Call your community college to find out when/how enrollment is done. Next, how much money are you providing her with? Does she have her own money from a job and where is it? I'd get access to all of DD's bank statements to find out how much she is spending, and where. Moving forward, you should not be funding this habit. If you need help on how to do this, find a therapist or counselor who specializes in addiction issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She’s a stoner. I was a stoner at this age too. Looking back at it I wish I wasn’t. I now realize I was distracting myself from being socially nervous and apprehensive about post college life. There were some good times, but I would’ve accomplished more had I been more focused. All you can do is talk to her like an adult, she is one and will make her own decisions.

Oh, please. No, that is not "all you can do." Parents like you are hopeless - just throw up your hands, walk away from the problem and hope for the best.

I assume OP is funding not only this drug habit, but college. She can start with the purse strings. There is no way my child would be back in college next semester under these circumstances.

Easy there. That’s not what I said. But the kid is 18, the parents need to have adult conversations with her. Just like with sex, alcohol, and all the other vices that come along with adulthood. I’m not sure why you assume the parents are funding the weed habit.

[Anonymous]

Marijuana use is still federally illegal. They just are not enforcing the law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marijuana use is still federally illegal. They just are not enforcing the law.

So are a million other things that are now de-facto legal. Do I need to link all the stupid laws on the books?

[Anonymous]

Just sending good thoughts and hope for your daughter. Sounds like you are on the right path by being concerned. I have found, no matter how awkward or poorly the conversation goes initially, kids generally want to talk and want help.

And, every person in the world has an issue. Hope this helps you feel less alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This was my DS last year. He was using weed to deal with anxiety and once we got him to see a psychiatrist who prescribed anxiety meds his weed use went way down.

Can’t tell if serious…

What part of this does not seem serious?

Many people try to self-medicate their anxiety using weed or alcohol.

It strikes me as a much better idea to seek help from a psychiatrist, including a grounded diagnosis, proper prescription, and ongoing care.

Good luck, OP. I feel for you and your DD and hope she is open to help and support over winter break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, her motivation has gone downhill fast. She has trouble completing anything. She has always struggled to complete tasks in a timely manner, but it has gotten worse. Her mood is definitely off. She just looks strung out.

OP this is what weed does.

People who did weed in college 20+ years ago were doing something different. Today, vapes are small enough to fit in a pocket and can be used all day long. It doesn't have to be social. There isn't a joint-rolling process to slow people down. It's easy to slip into pretty extreme using habits.

Also the drug is more potent.

Studies have confirmed the harmful effects on brain development for those under 25. IMHO, any marijuana is too much.

I don't understand why people don't realize how dangerous it is.

1) Because the parents are using it themselves, and like to relate to their kids as the "cool parents."

2) Because the parents can't accept the fact that they were in college 25+ years ago (translation: they are old), in a different time and different era and when pot products were different.

3) Because the parents have raised their kids with the concept of gentle parenting, participation trophies and everything else that has told them all their lives that they can do no wrong. How can they start now?

If you are a Democrat, you voted for all of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was my DS last year. He was using weed to deal with anxiety and once we got him to see a psychiatrist who prescribed anxiety meds his weed use went way down.

Can’t tell if serious…

What part of this does not seem serious?

Many people try to self-medicate their anxiety using weed or alcohol.

It strikes me as a much better idea to seek help from a psychiatrist, including a grounded diagnosis, proper prescription, and ongoing care.

Good luck, OP. I feel for you and your DD and hope she is open to help and support over winter break.

The idea that using ssri’s is somehow preferential to cannabis. I’m not a cannabis advocate or user, but the idea that a white pill, instead of a green plant, is better way to treat mental struggles, seems like an insane position to take as a parent. The kid is smoking weed, and someone wants to put them on ssris?

[Anonymous]

Any amount is too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s a stoner. I was a stoner at this age too. Looking back at it I wish I wasn’t. I now realize I was distracting myself from being socially nervous and apprehensive about post college life. There were some good times, but I would’ve accomplished more had I been more focused. All you can do is talk to her like an adult, she is one and will make her own decisions.

Oh, please. No, that is not "all you can do." Parents like you are hopeless - just throw up your hands, walk away from the problem and hope for the best.

I assume OP is funding not only this drug habit, but college. She can start with the purse strings. There is no way my child would be back in college next semester under these circumstances.

Easy there. That’s not what I said. But the kid is 18, the parents need to have adult conversations with her. Just like with sex, alcohol, and all the other vices that come along with adulthood. I’m not sure why you assume the parents are funding the weed habit.

I'm quoting a post that literally said "all you can do is talk to her like an adult." I'm saying that there is a hell of a lot more OP can and should do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, her motivation has gone downhill fast. She has trouble completing anything. She has always struggled to complete tasks in a timely manner, but it has gotten worse. Her mood is definitely off. She just looks strung out.

OP this is what weed does.

People who did weed in college 20+ years ago were doing something different. Today, vapes are small enough to fit in a pocket and can be used all day long. It doesn't have to be social. There isn't a joint-rolling process to slow people down. It's easy to slip into pretty extreme using habits.

Also the drug is more potent.

Studies have confirmed the harmful effects on brain development for those under 25. IMHO, any marijuana is too much.

I don't understand why people don't realize how dangerous it is.

1) Because the parents are using it themselves, and like to relate to their kids as the "cool parents."

2) Because the parents can't accept the fact that they were in college 25+ years ago (translation: they are old), in a different time and different era and when pot products were different.

3) Because the parents have raised their kids with the concept of gentle parenting, participation trophies and everything else that has told them all their lives that they can do no wrong. How can they start now?

If you are a Democrat, you voted for all of this.

And I'm not and I didn't!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was my DS last year. He was using weed to deal with anxiety and once we got him to see a psychiatrist who prescribed anxiety meds his weed use went way down.

Can’t tell if serious…

What part of this does not seem serious?

Many people try to self-medicate their anxiety using weed or alcohol.

It strikes me as a much better idea to seek help from a psychiatrist, including a grounded diagnosis, proper prescription, and ongoing care.

Good luck, OP. I feel for you and your DD and hope she is open to help and support over winter break.

The idea that using ssri’s is somehow preferential to cannabis. I’m not a cannabis advocate or user, but the idea that a white pill, instead of a green plant, is better way to treat mental struggles, seems like an insane position to take as a parent. The kid is smoking weed, and someone wants to put them on ssris?

Completely agree with this. Pot to Pills is not the answer.

[Anonymous]

She is an addict, and should be treated as one. Google "support groups for parents of drug addicts" to get started.