Pet peeve: contacting someone back

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will add, if I call you, and you don't answer and I don't leave a message or text you, don't call me back with, "you called?"

If I wanted you to call me back, I would have left a message

You’re in the minority with that approach. Most people don’t leave voicemails. They expect a call back if they called.

+1

Same. A missed call gets a call back. I also expect a call back if I call you and don't leave a VM. If it wasn't that important I would have sent a text in the first place.

If you don’t leave me a text or VM, you will be waiting for lever.

For lever?

This seems to work well enough with the people I know, they get how this works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will add, if I call you, and you don't answer and I don't leave a message or text you, don't call me back with, "you called?"

If I wanted you to call me back, I would have left a message

You’re in the minority with that approach. Most people don’t leave voicemails. They expect a call back if they called.

NP. Disagree. Sometimes people just call…if it’s truly important, you leave a message.

This is how we know you grew up in a time before cell phones. Etiquette has changed. Do you also leave your phone number for them to call you back?

[Anonymous]

I agree OP.

The one who initiates contact has chosen the medium - follow her lead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will add, if I call you, and you don't answer and I don't leave a message or text you, don't call me back with, "you called?"

If I wanted you to call me back, I would have left a message

You’re in the minority with that approach. Most people don’t leave voicemails. They expect a call back if they called.

NP. Disagree. Sometimes people just call…if it’s truly important, you leave a message.

This is how we know you grew up in a time before cell phones. Etiquette has changed. Do you also leave your phone number for them to call you back?

DP Other posters, is this true? I did grow up before cell phones, and I don't typically call back if you don't leave a message or follow up with a text asking for a phone call back.

[Anonymous]

Some things can't be easily explained on the phone. I screen my calls so I'm not going to answer if I don't know who is calling. Also people use the phone to manipulate and try to get you to change your mind. I prefer written communication but not by text because that is too short to actually communicate much.

[Anonymous]

Generation gap right here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Generation gap right here

I don’t think we should be taking relationship/etiquette advice from a generation that is too scared to talk on the phone and doesn’t respond when people speak to them. Let’s try to overcome their lack of training.

[Anonymous]

I am not required to respond at all, and if I do, it will be the method of my choosing.

There I some people (you sound like the type) that I will NEVER call back, because they yap and meander and try to control and guilt trip.

State your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is so antisocial, which tracks.

Relationships are GIFTS people.

Two-way-street, healthy, mature adult relationships are gifts. Controlling, manipulative, over-dramatic, attention-seeking adults are not capable of healthy relationships.

I bet you have a lot of “antisocial” people in your life, and it’s equal parts sad and hilarious that you will never figure out the common denominator: you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sadly, I've decided it's indicative of a moral failure. Every person I've ever known to 'switch media' has had an issue with the truth. They get an email and decide to call and never follow up in writing. No traceability; no accountability.

LOL, we just don’t want to talk to you, Karen.

[Anonymous]

I respond when I want to, if I want to, and in the manner I choose.

With the relationships I care about, this is all easy.

If it feels hard or like work, I keep people at arm’s length. If you feel that someone is ignoring you or putting you off or stonewalling you, take the hint. Do everyone a favor and just stop.