Having a hard time adjusting to highschool

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Anonymous wrote:How did she pick the school she applied to

She applied because more than half of her school (including all her friends) were applying and its good for colleges.

More than half her school and all her friends applied but only 10 from her school and 1 friend are attending? Per the OP, OP.

Did she know that before deciding to go?

She found out that she and a friend got in and most of her friends got waitlisted but never ended up getting in. They are all at different schools now. Most kids from her middle school are at her in boundary school now.

You may be at more of a parenting than school choice juncture, and that's a good time to remind yourself of your parenting style and how that should evolve as your daughter grows up to become an independent adult. You still can but won't for long be able to solve the problems for her (force, stay/go). Might this be a juncture where you all (parents and child) need to sit down like adults and problem solve this together, or might you (and your spouse) decide that this is too early and that you are still now the ones calling the shots because he know (or at least decide) what's good for her? (I'm a free near-range parenting in the former category whose kids got themselves to school - or not - starting in 3rd grade. But everyone isn't that way, and that's totally fair, so long as you remain consistent and adapt your approach to match your child's age.)
If you're leaning into the "let's discuss and solve this together" approach, remember that it's difficult and there is no easy solution. Remember that recognizing her angst about friendships is real (to her for sure). Listen more than provide answers. But you are the ones knowing the rules: e.g. you know that she has a choice, here and now, to return to your in-boundary school. That's a serious open, now or - maybe better - come 2nd semester in January. Look up how to develop an outcome matrix with the two options in columns and criteria running down the left-hand side that you work out together, then start evaluating the two options on all those criteria, give it stars or smiley/sad faces, whatever works for you. But engage in that process together and discuss your ratings on each criterion. Then add it all up and figure out any risks and limitations together. May the chips fall where they fall and act accordingly, together.

[Anonymous]

My son feels this way too. He is a sophomore.
He never refused to go to school but has had a hard time making friends.

Another option you might not have thought of is to have your daughter reach out to kids from her middle school who are now sophomores. The Freashmen and sophomore from her middle school can band together and be a group.