How normal is it for a woman in her 40s to throw a tantrum at her parents?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes anti anxiety pills cut down on the rages or outbursts. Doesn’t target the root cause of it (mental disorder) but may for that one anger symptom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Over the dumbest stuff. A misunderstanding, a piece of information she didn't get about an upcoming event. Yelling, accusing, snide sarcastic tone, threatening to hang up.

Also, not with parents, but other people, like close friends- someone might say something that she takes personally, and she will cut them off. But not before getting into a serious yelling match and then nothing but the silence treatment and the follow up " I'm done. " No conflict resolution, just door slam. Probably 5 close friends over 20 years have been cut off. Terrible temper, poor emotional regulation.

Are you the parent, OP? If so, this is likely your fault.

No, but you seem pretty sure about something ridiculous without any information. You think she was trained to throw tantrums?LOL

Yes, in fact. She was rewarded for it in the past and probably still is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is seriously mentally ill, and it could be a combative form of autism, or a personality disorder of some kind. All of those come with anxiety, poor social skills and emotional dysregulation.

I hope you can disengage, OP, and that her parents are not too invested. This is not something you want to get involved in.

"A combative form of autism". JFC. The stupidity at this site lately..,

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:unipolar mania

Raging and cutting off people is common.

How is it treated?

It’s treated by managing your own boundaries and clear communication.

No, I mean the person with the disorder. Not thd rest of us who deal with the person.

You don't get it at all. Person above is correct and you clearly don't understand healthy boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over the dumbest stuff. A misunderstanding, a piece of information she didn't get about an upcoming event. Yelling, accusing, snide sarcastic tone, threatening to hang up.

Also, not with parents, but other people, like close friends- someone might say something that she takes personally, and she will cut them off. But not before getting into a serious yelling match and then nothing but the silence treatment and the follow up " I'm done. " No conflict resolution, just door slam. Probably 5 close friends over 20 years have been cut off. Terrible temper, poor emotional regulation.

My sister is 52 she has been doing this since she was seven.

My mother died last week and now my sister has moved to me. Difference is I wont' put up with that shit.

[Anonymous]

Ignor
Can’t control how others react

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over the dumbest stuff. A misunderstanding, a piece of information she didn't get about an upcoming event. Yelling, accusing, snide sarcastic tone, threatening to hang up.

Also, not with parents, but other people, like close friends- someone might say something that she takes personally, and she will cut them off. But not before getting into a serious yelling match and then nothing but the silence treatment and the follow up " I'm done. " No conflict resolution, just door slam. Probably 5 close friends over 20 years have been cut off. Terrible temper, poor emotional regulation.

Are you the parent, OP? If so, this is likely your fault.

No, but you seem pretty sure about something ridiculous without any information. You think she was trained to throw tantrums?LOL

Yes, in fact. She was rewarded for it in the past and probably still is.

If she watched a parent do it to get their way successfully she’ll do it. It’s a form of bullying.

If she threw a tantrum and got what she wanted in the past most times, she’ll continue to.

It’s definitely immature. But so is not parenting that behavior with real consequences and then enforcing them.

Unfortunately all it takes is ONE lazy lenient parent to “rewards” a ranting kid or adult, and not enforce the consequence. It could be the same adult who does the same to their spouse, parents and siblings when growing up.

Now imagine that same bully parent who lacks discipline parenting also buys said child or young adult whatever she wants, when she wants it.? More rewarding of poor behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:unipolar mania

Raging and cutting off people is common.

How is it treated?

It’s treated by managing your own boundaries and clear communication.

No, I mean the person with the disorder. Not thd rest of us who deal with the person.

You don't get it at all. Person above is correct and you clearly don't understand healthy boundaries.

No, I get it. I asked how the personality disorder is treated. We all already understand boundaries around people who have personality disorders. Perhaps you didn't understand.

[Anonymous]

more normal to parents and possibly spouses than to others. She is externalizing anger onto those she feels safe with. My 11 year old daughter does this. It is a terrible coping strategy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over the dumbest stuff. A misunderstanding, a piece of information she didn't get about an upcoming event. Yelling, accusing, snide sarcastic tone, threatening to hang up.

Also, not with parents, but other people, like close friends- someone might say something that she takes personally, and she will cut them off. But not before getting into a serious yelling match and then nothing but the silence treatment and the follow up " I'm done. " No conflict resolution, just door slam. Probably 5 close friends over 20 years have been cut off. Terrible temper, poor emotional regulation.

Based on your post, I think you already know there are issues, and you have strong feelings. Usually it's not the "dumb stuff" that caused the anger, but many things leading up to it. Regardless, you sound very enmeshed in the situation. I think you already mentioned the person gets mental health help. You may want to consider it as well so you can learn to detach and distance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:more normal to parents and possibly spouses than to others. She is externalizing anger onto those she feels safe with. My 11 year old daughter does this. It is a terrible coping strategy.

Some of us have disordered husbands who also let out all their work stress and anger on their wives. And their second wives.
It’s a real problem, for the kids to see that nastiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:more normal to parents and possibly spouses than to others. She is externalizing anger onto those she feels safe with. My 11 year old daughter does this. It is a terrible coping strategy.

It is normal for an 11 year old, not someone in their 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over the dumbest stuff. A misunderstanding, a piece of information she didn't get about an upcoming event. Yelling, accusing, snide sarcastic tone, threatening to hang up.

Also, not with parents, but other people, like close friends- someone might say something that she takes personally, and she will cut them off. But not before getting into a serious yelling match and then nothing but the silence treatment and the follow up " I'm done. " No conflict resolution, just door slam. Probably 5 close friends over 20 years have been cut off. Terrible temper, poor emotional regulation.

Based on your post, I think you already know there are issues, and you have strong feelings. Usually it's not the "dumb stuff" that caused the anger, but many things leading up to it. Regardless, you sound very enmeshed in the situation. I think you already mentioned the person gets mental health help. You may want to consider it as well so you can learn to detach and distance.

This person does not affect me or my life in any way. It was an academic question, but I was sincerely interested in any similar experiences.