How normal is it for a woman in her 40s to throw a tantrum at her parents?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She has untreated anxiety or on the spectrum, then sure.

Or a personality disorder.

Or all of the above.

Parent should have gotten her help in her teen years.

Parent did.

So if you know the diagnosis, why are you asking if this is normal?!

There's no dx. I just know she had counseling at about age 14 or 15. There's never been a dx.
The dx might be that she’s just a selfish brat.

But, i also know someone whose 39 year old daughter, who is a medical specialist, double board certified, routinely screams at her mother when she doesn't get her way. I mean you or any one of us could have her as a doctor and think that she would never do anything so immature, but yes, she has tantrums.

Oh I believe you. Personality disorders aren't just for the uneducated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she financially independent? Takes no money from her parents to support her lifestyle?

Because it sounds like she is dependent on them, I'm guessing financially in some way, and she uses emotional manipulation to keep them off-balance - to keep the relationship dynamic within her control.

No. In the past I think they contributed to a down-payment, about 10 years ago, but she is self supporting, married, making 6 figures.

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unipolar mania

Raging and cutting off people is common.

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Anonymous wrote:unipolar mania

Raging and cutting off people is common.

How is it treated?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She has untreated anxiety or on the spectrum, then sure.

Or a personality disorder.

Or all of the above.

Parent should have gotten her help in her teen years.

Parent did.

So if you know the diagnosis, why are you asking if this is normal?!

There's no dx. I just know she had counseling at about age 14 or 15. There's never been a dx.
The dx might be that she’s just a selfish brat.

But, i also know someone whose 39 year old daughter, who is a medical specialist, double board certified, routinely screams at her mother when she doesn't get her way. I mean you or any one of us could have her as a doctor and think that she would never do anything so immature, but yes, she has tantrums.

+1 I have a sister like this (and she is a doctor as well). She has unrealistic expectations and then cuts family members out of her life for years at a time for various small offenses. She is just a mean, selfish, myopic person who is unlikely to change. It is very sad (especially for her kids, who would benefit from spending time with their various cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents).

[Anonymous]

Is this new behavior? A recent escalation?

Perimenopausal hormones can through all coping strategies out the window. Especially if they weren’t strong to begin with.

Just as an intensive DBT course would teach a person with a personality disorder, you can only what’s in front of you and let the rest go.

Her behaviour is her responsibility. How the parents deal with is their responsibility.

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Anonymous wrote:unipolar mania

Raging and cutting off people is common.

How is it treated?

It’s treated by managing your own boundaries and clear communication.

[Anonymous]

A lot of internet memes and videos are encouraging people, especially middle aged women, to cut people off. It’s a popular form of nihilism.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:unipolar mania

Raging and cutting off people is common.

How is it treated?

It’s treated by managing your own boundaries and clear communication.

No, I mean the person with the disorder. Not thd rest of us who deal with the person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over the dumbest stuff. A misunderstanding, a piece of information she didn't get about an upcoming event. Yelling, accusing, snide sarcastic tone, threatening to hang up.

Also, not with parents, but other people, like close friends- someone might say something that she takes personally, and she will cut them off. But not before getting into a serious yelling match and then nothing but the silence treatment and the follow up " I'm done. " No conflict resolution, just door slam. Probably 5 close friends over 20 years have been cut off. Terrible temper, poor emotional regulation.

Are you the parent, OP? If so, this is likely your fault.

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Is this your kid? If so, is this sudden onset?

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Anonymous wrote:Over the dumbest stuff. A misunderstanding, a piece of information she didn't get about an upcoming event. Yelling, accusing, snide sarcastic tone, threatening to hang up.

Also, not with parents, but other people, like close friends- someone might say something that she takes personally, and she will cut them off. But not before getting into a serious yelling match and then nothing but the silence treatment and the follow up " I'm done. " No conflict resolution, just door slam. Probably 5 close friends over 20 years have been cut off. Terrible temper, poor emotional regulation.

Are you the parent, OP? If so, this is likely your fault.

No, but you seem pretty sure about something ridiculous without any information. You think she was trained to throw tantrums?LOL

[Anonymous]

You know this isn’t normal. Avoid her. If she questions you, tell her why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Over the dumbest stuff. A misunderstanding, a piece of information she didn't get about an upcoming event. Yelling, accusing, snide sarcastic tone, threatening to hang up.

Also, not with parents, but other people, like close friends- someone might say something that she takes personally, and she will cut them off. But not before getting into a serious yelling match and then nothing but the silence treatment and the follow up " I'm done. " No conflict resolution, just door slam. Probably 5 close friends over 20 years have been cut off. Terrible temper, poor emotional regulation.

Are you the parent, OP? If so, this is likely your fault.

No, but you seem pretty sure about something ridiculous without any information. You think she was trained to throw tantrums?LOL

Yikes, you clearly have no idea how parenting works.

[Anonymous]

She is a narc, cut her off.