Teacher just called us at home - kid is too social in class

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son with ADHD had preferential seating (next to teacher, away from windows), and was allowed to take breaks during tests, and was allowed to have repeated directions. His appetite was suppressed while on ADHD meds and he felt nauseated at times, but he NEEDED his meds, so he got used to it, and his ped put him on a weight-gaining diet, because he became underweight.

Sometimes you need to accept some side effects.

Nobody is obligated to accept the side effects of stimulants so that other people are more comfortable around them. I have worked with people with unmedicated ADHD and while they were very annoying I never thought these people should take dangerous medicine to make my life easier. It should be the child's choice.

[Anonymous]

Medicate and seek therapy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he have a 504 for ADHD?

He has an IEP.

What is difference for needing 504 v IEP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son with ADHD had preferential seating (next to teacher, away from windows), and was allowed to take breaks during tests, and was allowed to have repeated directions. His appetite was suppressed while on ADHD meds and he felt nauseated at times, but he NEEDED his meds, so he got used to it, and his ped put him on a weight-gaining diet, because he became underweight.

Sometimes you need to accept some side effects.

Nobody is obligated to accept the side effects of stimulants so that other people are more comfortable around them. I have worked with people with unmedicated ADHD and while they were very annoying I never thought these people should take dangerous medicine to make my life easier. It should be the child's choice.

It's not the child's choice rather the parents and the child. Children can't make these decisions on their own. My DD has tried 3 different ADHD meds and they all had side effects we agreed were not worth it. So she is unmedicated which is more a problem for her and us than anyone around her.

[Anonymous]

Your son’s reaction was to deny what the teacher said about his behavior. This is not adding up. Have another conversation and if he still can’t come up with anything, set up a quick meeting with the teacher along with your child, so she can give examples of exactly what he is doing. Then, figure out a plan going forward (sitting in the front of the classroom, extra work, etc).

[Anonymous]

Regardless of what your child says, you tell him that he needs to find a way to occupy his time that is not seen as disruptive. He can review his past notes or the past chapters, which will help him prepare for tests. He can bring a book to read and rea quietly after he has completed his work. He can ask his teacher for additional material to work on when he is done.

He cannot talk to his friends, even if he thinks he is "helping" them. He cannot leave his desk and wander around the classroom. He cannot do things that are distracting to other kids.

Have a meeting with the teacher, your son, and yourself and develop a clear list of what he can do when he finishes work and what he cannot do when he finishes work.

Your child might think he is helping his friends when his teacher sees that it is distracting for his friends or other kids in the class. He is seeing thigns through his lens and does not see the larger picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he have a 504 for ADHD?

He has an IEP.

What is difference for needing 504 v IEP?

NP here. IEP means the disability requires not just reasonable accommodation, but also specialized instruction. Kids with ADHD and a 504 might be placed in preferential seating and do fine.

Kids with ADHD and an IEP might need the teacher to adjust their teaching, repeat instructions, or give more or better feedback. In OP's kid's case, the kid might have been done early with the test because he wasn't adequately prepared to take it and he rushed through - so the effects of the ADHD would have been academic as well as behavioral.

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That's not "too social." That's disrupting others. Explain to him as outlined above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's not "too social." That's disrupting others. Explain to him as outlined above.

Noticed that also. Never heard of improper disruptive behavior being described as being "too social" but I suppose that's putting a nice spin on it.

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Our little ADHD chatterbox is killing it professionally in her chosen field and makes more money than either of her siblings. I guess it’s really true what they say about B students being more successful than A students. Wish I could have back all the hours I spent worrying about her. In our case all the energy needed to be channeled. She ended up having really physically demanding hobbies like rock climbing, triathlons etc. which actually helped. Just chiming in because Inwisb someone had told me there was an upside to getting calls from the teacher when she was young. It will all work out, 🏋️‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he have a 504 for ADHD?

He has an IEP.

What is difference for needing 504 v IEP?

The teacher gets no help for a kid with a 504?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She was totally sugar coating it. Teachers don't call when the problem is small or even medium. He's a BIG problem. He may also be a great kid, ADHD is not a personality issue. You need to treat this like an emergency. Other teachers are probably annoyed at him and kids will eventually tire of him.

This is not true our school calls or emails for every little thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our little ADHD chatterbox is killing it professionally in her chosen field and makes more money than either of her siblings. I guess it’s really true what they say about B students being more successful than A students. Wish I could have back all the hours I spent worrying about her. In our case all the energy needed to be channeled. She ended up having really physically demanding hobbies like rock climbing, triathlons etc. which actually helped. Just chiming in because Inwisb someone had told me there was an upside to getting calls from the teacher when she was young. It will all work out, 🏋️‍♂️

This every kid doesn’t fit in the same little quiet box and it’s ridiculous that teachers expect that these days and that others are saying you’re not parenting your child just because they aren’t a silent screen addict with no personality

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Anonymous wrote:Give consequences.

Yep. Teacher's being nice cause it's 2025 and all. But your kid needs to STFU and stay in his gd chair. For cryin out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was totally sugar coating it. Teachers don't call when the problem is small or even medium. He's a BIG problem. He may also be a great kid, ADHD is not a personality issue. You need to treat this like an emergency. Other teachers are probably annoyed at him and kids will eventually tire of him.

This is not true our school calls or emails for every little thing

uh no. Ain't nobody got time for that. Overworked teachers and admin can't be bothered by "every little thing". Sounds like your little larlo is a fugup.