What percentage of men cheat?

[Anonymous]

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No one I know has cheated, but I'm in a circle of middle class and middle-aged nerdy and calm intellectuals with jobs in scientific research and the like. I know it happens, and maybe some people are very successful at keeping it quiet... but to be honest, I don't think it's very frequent with those profiles.

It may be that you are attracted to the same sort of man every time.

All of the cheaters I have known in my life were "nerdy and calm intellectuals."

Everyone has a mask, but some people have a mask that truly hides what they are.

It is SO easy to cheat right now. You could get on reddit, give your general location and what you are looking for, and find a partner in no time. You could use telegram or whatever app to communicate and your spouse would never know. If you are determined, you could hide it indefinitely. There is no way to know how many people have cheated.

Sigh. No. I know there's this rhetoric on DCUM that men cheat if given the opportunity. But honestly, I don't buy it. What you describe isn't actually easy when you have a family life and set hours. And there's always a risk of STDs. It's just not worth it.

I'm not giving you a moral rebuttal here. I'm just saying - to most people, cheating is a hassle.

Any relationship is a hassle. But to the type of person who wants to step outside their marriage, the hassle is worth it. You, a person who is probably healthy and prioritizing your family, see this as a hassle. But for someone bored, unhappy, or sociopathic? It's an adventure, not a hassle.

PP you replied to. I agree with you. I just have difficulty imagining so many men or women would be bored and take that particular way out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My general opinion is that men are as faithful as their options. If you are married to an attractive, successful man who is also charismatic, he's going to cheat eventually. Even if he says no 95% of the time.

My guess is around half of men cheat at some point. With a lot of the other half who would but don't have an easy option

You say that like any married man who is desirable to women has easy options - but some don't put themselves in the situations where options present themselves. For every guy on a business trip hitting the hotel bar there's another guy who has gone back to his room to watch a movie.

Most guys will not just ask a woman to go up to their room at a hotel because most will say no. These guys are asking for you contact info to chat and get to know you so in a few months if you get to
Meet up again then you’ll go to their room.

[Anonymous]

I’m now retired but in my working days I traveled a lot to 2-3 day conferences. I was amazed by how many men tried to hit on me and I assume most were married. Over time I simply skipped the evening events and ordered room service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m now retired but in my working days I traveled a lot to 2-3 day conferences. I was amazed by how many men tried to hit on me and I assume most were married. Over time I simply skipped the evening events and ordered room service.

I doubt they were hitting on you. They were probably just talking, since that's what people do at conferences.

No one is going to hit on a post-menopausal woman.

[Anonymous]

I would say the % is much lower than people think unless you are a CEO or partner type with a lot of money and available time at work related functions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say the % is much lower than people think unless you are a CEO or partner type with a lot of money and available time at work related functions.

Yeah, there would be a lot fewer unhappy husbands if affairs were that easy to come by. The women on dcum are nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would say the % is much lower than people think unless you are a CEO or partner type with a lot of money and available time at work related functions.

Yeah, there would be a lot fewer unhappy husbands if affairs were that easy to come by. The women on dcum are nuts.

I’m in my 50s—these 30 year marriages are all being hit by affair news/cheating…GenX is seeing a ton. It is that easy. It’s called online dating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would say the % is much lower than people think unless you are a CEO or partner type with a lot of money and available time at work related functions.

Yeah, there would be a lot fewer unhappy husbands if affairs were that easy to come by. The women on dcum are nuts.

I’m in my mid 50s—these 30 year marriages are all being hit by affair news/cheating…GenX is seeing a ton. It is that easy. It’s called online dating.

I can count 6 in the last year alone,,,and these are the ones people know about because of separation/divorce—not all the ones that nobody knows about- that are working it out privately. Great divorce is a real thing and the other people aren’t even younger or hot, etc— just other middle aged married people.

[Anonymous]

*gray divorce

[Anonymous]

Based upon the guys I know, the same ass women- 50-60%. Women get away with it because we are raised believing they are virtuous and victimized by trashy men. It is more of a societal issue these days, people are just more selfish and impulsive than they used to be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would say the % is much lower than people think unless you are a CEO or partner type with a lot of money and available time at work related functions.

Yeah, there would be a lot fewer unhappy husbands if affairs were that easy to come by. The women on dcum are nuts.

I’m in my 50s—these 30 year marriages are all being hit by affair news/cheating…GenX is seeing a ton. It is that easy. It’s called online dating.

"All being hit?"

Ridiculous. That's obviously a gross exaggeration. People wouldn't be nearly so unhappy if they could just create an online dating profile and start various affairs. Maybe the women can, but certainly not the men.

[Anonymous]

I’d say half my friends at least have dealt with infidelity some divorced others stayed some really worked on their marriages together others just brushed it under the rug - I’m 55

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m now retired but in my working days I traveled a lot to 2-3 day conferences. I was amazed by how many men tried to hit on me and I assume most were married. Over time I simply skipped the evening events and ordered room service.

Same here, and the people doubting your story have never done work travel in fields where men are well represented or male dominated careers.

If you have been, like me and you, cheating or attempted cheating is everywhere. Like honestly, I get it's not 100% of men but it's definitely 75% of men. And probably closer to 100% than 75%.

[Anonymous]

I work in tech and I travel a lot for work and get hit on every business trip. I do have my AP and we are exclusive, he usually travels with me and is amazed at how many men hit on me even when it’s obvious he and I are together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based upon the guys I know, the same ass women- 50-60%. Women get away with it because we are raised believing they are virtuous and victimized by trashy men. It is more of a societal issue these days, people are just more selfish and impulsive than they used to be.

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