Paying your kids to score goals

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing about this is that it can actively interfere with coaching and could get your kid in trouble on the team. Soccer isn't just your kid trying to score goals themselves. They should be assessing if they're in a better position to assist or defend. By telling their kid their goals matter more than team goals they're setting them up to be a crappy team mate.

Yeah this is what bothers me about it. Teaching a kid to focus on their goals instead of how the team is playing together is awful. It shows a lack of awareness.

I am also generally against paying kids to perform, but this particular soccer example irks me because of the principle.

Plus my kid is a goalie. And for those who play defense this is never their objective either. Focusing on who scored a goal is so counter intuitive to enjoying and appreciating the whole game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are two issues here.

One is that rewards destroy internal motivation. Sometimes, rewards can make sense if you have a kid who needs to do something, or stop doing something, and isn't internally motivated. But a kid who isn't internally motivated to play a specific sport, shouldn't be playing it. They should keep looking until they find what they are motivated to do.

The other is that over focusing on goals, rather than on perseverance, teamwork, soccer IQ (or lacrosse IQ, or hockey IQ, or whatever IQ) isn't going to lead to the kid improving as a player. It's a stupid thing to reward because even if we accept that being a good player is the goal, it won't lead to the kid being a better player.

Tell your boss you no longer wish to be paid because rewards destroy your internal motivation.

Wow you are dense