55+ communities and kids in college

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Most of those communities have very specific policies around how long visitors under age 55 can stay. Usually it's something like no more than 2 weeks at a time and no more than 8 weeks total in a year, or something like that. So, no, your kid can't come stay for the summer, but yes they can visit. But check the details at any specific one, they all vary.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure how, but I had no idea about these restrictions. Why in the world would I or anyone ever want to live in a place where it's ONLY old people? I just thought 55+ mean that's who they primarily cater to. Ick. No way. And I say that was a 58 year old. I want to be surrounded by people of all ages for the rest of my days.

You might change your mind when you slow down and the younger people feel like you're in their way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of those communities have very specific policies around how long visitors under age 55 can stay. Usually it's something like no more than 2 weeks at a time and no more than 8 weeks total in a year, or something like that. So, no, your kid can't come stay for the summer, but yes they can visit. But check the details at any specific one, they all vary.

My brothers in laws had a no kids rule over two weeks even if kids over 55. No age limit.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of those communities have very specific policies around how long visitors under age 55 can stay. Usually it's something like no more than 2 weeks at a time and no more than 8 weeks total in a year, or something like that. So, no, your kid can't come stay for the summer, but yes they can visit. But check the details at any specific one, they all vary.

My brothers in laws had a no kids rule over two weeks even if kids over 55. No age limit.

"No kids" or "no guests?"

Or are you saying the community was really just fine with a homeowner's 23 year old niece visiting for months at a time, but a 45 year old son had a two week limit?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure how, but I had no idea about these restrictions. Why in the world would I or anyone ever want to live in a place where it's ONLY old people?

Here's one answer - it can be cheaper.

I have some friends who live in a 55+ community in San Diego County and the price of homes in that community as about half the price per square foot of comparable homes in the area that are not in the community.

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Anonymous wrote:They cannot live in the house with you. They can visit. You would have to ask the communities you are interested in. FWIW these communities are extremely nosy, almost all old white MAGA and I could never imagine living in one.

Is this true?

I think this depends on the location. FWIW the reason some communities have a lot of 55+ communities is that as suburbs age the schools become overcrowded, so developers can’t get new SFHs approved. This applies to a lot of areas outside the beltway in DC and around Annapolis (Crofton/Odenton, Severna Park, Arnold, etc). In the Anne Arundel County locations the population is tending more blue over time, but the older residents are more conservative…at least until the new bluer residents have their Democrat parents moving to be close to them (this is like my family).

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure how, but I had no idea about these restrictions. Why in the world would I or anyone ever want to live in a place where it's ONLY old people? I just thought 55+ mean that's who they primarily cater to. Ick. No way. And I say that was a 58 year old. I want to be surrounded by people of all ages for the rest of my days.

A lot of the 55+ communities have residents that lost a spouse and need to downsize. Some residents have health issues that require to be on a single floor. Some are confined to a walker or wheel chair. Some 55+ communities have on site health care. You would be surprised that not all the residents are 55. When my parents moved in they were in their 90's. They had neighbors that 85 years old up to 103 years old.

So I think if your 58, you are probably too young to be there. Wait about 32 more years.

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Anonymous wrote:They cannot live in the house with you. They can visit. You would have to ask the communities you are interested in. FWIW these communities are extremely nosy, almost all old white MAGA and I could never imagine living in one.

Is this true?

Yes very very true

There are a few in Florida and one in Rehoboth not true.

I bought some speck homes during Covid in Rehoboth , Bethany , Lewes and Ocean Virw MAGA took over the HOAS horrible disgusting people. Lucky for me prices kept going up I made a killing. However many of these communities now have horrible reputations and people who bought later in the cycle can not sell for what they paid zero empathy .
And most of the homes are built poorly .

which one in Rehoboth? I love a bargain

Rehobeth is super MAGA too. Also, it will be underwater in 5 years. Good luck affording flood insurance.

As if I care who my neighbors voted for.

It matters - our beach community home is very maga and it is very challenging to listen at the pools, pickleball courts, restaurants…

Then stop eavesdropping.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure how, but I had no idea about these restrictions. Why in the world would I or anyone ever want to live in a place where it's ONLY old people? I just thought 55+ mean that's who they primarily cater to. Ick. No way. And I say that was a 58 year old. I want to be surrounded by people of all ages for the rest of my days.

A lot of the 55+ communities have residents that lost a spouse and need to downsize. Some residents have health issues that require to be on a single floor. Some are confined to a walker or wheel chair. Some 55+ communities have on site health care. You would be surprised that not all the residents are 55. When my parents moved in they were in their 90's. They had neighbors that 85 years old up to 103 years old.

So I think if your 58, you are probably too young to be there. Wait about 32 more years.

Sure, but I still don't want to be consigned to living only with other old people. I moved my mom into assisted living. She found that none of the other residents were as active and intellectually curious as she was and she moved out. If there had been more young people (aside from staff who patronize the residents), she might have stayed.

Why in the world would I care if someone had a longterm house guest of 35? I mean, thank god. Someone who can tell me about the latest concerts or who is probably more up on current events. Or a grandchild? Someone whose laughter and play would lift my spirits. America is so weird about age. Other cultures understand better the value of multigenerational living.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of those communities have very specific policies around how long visitors under age 55 can stay. Usually it's something like no more than 2 weeks at a time and no more than 8 weeks total in a year, or something like that. So, no, your kid can't come stay for the summer, but yes they can visit. But check the details at any specific one, they all vary.

My brothers in laws had a no kids rule over two weeks even if kids over 55. No age limit.

"No kids" or "no guests?"

Or are you saying the community was really just fine with a homeowner's 23 year old niece visiting for months at a time, but a 45 year old son had a two week limit?

Oddly yes. Had a strict no kids rule. So kids even if over 55 could not live there. All others banned anyhow under no renting or subletting. So the 57 year daugher evicted under no kids rule and her husband under no renting or subletting. Basically if not on title and over 55 can’t live there. The parents at 83 moved after living there 25 years as it was annoying them,

The kids over 55 can’t live there was last straw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure how, but I had no idea about these restrictions. Why in the world would I or anyone ever want to live in a place where it's ONLY old people? I just thought 55+ mean that's who they primarily cater to. Ick. No way. And I say that was a 58 year old. I want to be surrounded by people of all ages for the rest of my days.

Why would I want to live around young people. Most of them despise “boomers” (including GenX) and want nothing to do with people my age. I’d rather socialize with people that I understand and with whom I have shared cultural experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:They cannot live in the house with you. They can visit. You would have to ask the communities you are interested in. FWIW these communities are extremely nosy, almost all old white MAGA and I could never imagine living in one.

Oh, thanks. We all care so much what you think!

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Anonymous wrote:They cannot live in the house with you. They can visit. You would have to ask the communities you are interested in. FWIW these communities are extremely nosy, almost all old white MAGA and I could never imagine living in one.

Is this true?

Yes very very true

There are a few in Florida and one in Rehoboth not true.

I bought some speck homes during Covid in Rehoboth , Bethany , Lewes and Ocean Virw MAGA took over the HOAS horrible disgusting people. Lucky for me prices kept going up I made a killing. However many of these communities now have horrible reputations and people who bought later in the cycle can not sell for what they paid zero empathy .
And most of the homes are built poorly .

which one in Rehoboth? I love a bargain

Rehobeth is super MAGA too. Also, it will be underwater in 5 years. Good luck affording flood insurance.

As if I care who my neighbors voted for.

Politics shape our communities and local laws. What a strange comment.