Did your son coordinate anything riom-wise with his roomate(s)?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean is this all needed? There's 2 day shipping from Amazon if they need a fan or paper plates.

No, much of it is not needed. My son likes his own stuff so regardless, there will be two mini fridges. I mean, if the room does not have one, then he will let him use his but he is not having anyone mooch off him.

lovely. you must be so proud.

I am. I am proud that we are able to get these items for him and I am proud that he is able to speak up regarding his boundaries.

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No but they all showed up with a combination of navy and grey items, so it looked coordinated.

[Anonymous]

re: 2 day shipping with Amazon --the school mailroom takes a few weeks to get through a backlog. 2 days can sometime be 4-5 days.

We stayed at a residence inn when moving our son to school. The accepted "limited" number of packages and stored until we checked in at the hotel.

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Four guys in the freshman suite. They were deeply concerned about who would bring the TV and Xbox. Not at all concerned about rugs, shower curtains, bins to corral bathroom stuff, or whether bedding coordinated. Son chose lots of stuff in grey -- room looked like the prison cell of sadness, but no one cared.

This year, the talk is how to fit TWO televisions in the common room. Because that way they can play games and watch games at the same time.

Let your son drive this process. Encourage him to reach out to roommate(s), if only to put names and faces together. But if he doesn't want to buy X, then don't buy X. The rooms are always much smaller than you expect, and space (and patience) is at a premium on move-in day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean is this all needed? There's 2 day shipping from Amazon if they need a fan or paper plates.

No, much of it is not needed. My son likes his own stuff so regardless, there will be two mini fridges. I mean, if the room does not have one, then he will let him use his but he is not having anyone mooch off him .

Yuck! What a weird statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean is this all needed? There's 2 day shipping from Amazon if they need a fan or paper plates.

No, much of it is not needed. My son likes his own stuff so regardless, there will be two mini fridges. I mean, if the room does not have one, then he will let him use his but he is not having anyone mooch off him.

lovely. you must be so proud.

I am. I am proud that we are able to get these items for him and I am proud that he is able to speak up regarding his boundaries.

Are you poor?

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My DS went to college which was 40 minutes away from home. He roomed with his close HS friend. They discussed who would get what. Both agreed to have non-patterned solid colored bedding and everything looked very coordinated and crisp. Both boys are very disciplined, clean and minimalistic - so their room was quite inviting, airy, spacious and clean.

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My son had a medical need for his own fridge so I told him to talk to his roommate about it. He didn't want to sound like a jerk who wouldn't share a fridge so we ended up buying a microwave too so he could tell his roommate (a stranger) that he was bringing a microwave to share but he needed his own fridge. That started the conversation and roommate shared that he was bringing a TV, so my son brought a x-box, etc. etc.

I didn't go to drop off but as I recall the roommate's mom bought them a rug once they were there. No one tried to coordinate bedding.

Personally I think it's better to reach out so that you don't end up trying to make space for multiple things you don't need.

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Anonymous wrote:Boys don't typically do this. Mine was in a double and they just discussed who would supply a refrigerator, rug, futon, etc. Bedding colors was not a concern.

This. Mine just texted the other kid and let him know I was providing the fridge/microwave.

Yes. DS in a triple (no bathroom). The three guys coordinated their priorities- TV, fridge/microwave and gaming system. That was it. It worked out perfectly fine for them.

DD had a lot more convos with her roommate. Also worked well.

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Anonymous wrote:Ahahahhaha they won't even change the sheets.

Nope. I didn't change mine freshman year until I had a girl over and she noticed "stains" from a previous girl. Oops!

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OP wrote "I can't see my son doing any of this"

Then OP why are you doing any of this. Is little Johnny not allowed to show up to his college without a fridge or roommates who have a fridge. What will happen? Will he die? Or will he learn that some unseen labor needs to happen to make sure he can keep his pizza and soda cold.

Good lord - keep coddling your precious children so they can be miserable adults who can't function on their own.

BTW is fun when they fail at 30 and can't function because they never got to fail at 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember going into guys’ rooms back in the day? Did they look like they coordinated? Haha. No.

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Anonymous wrote:Four guys in the freshman suite. They were deeply concerned about who would bring the TV and Xbox. Not at all concerned about rugs, shower curtains, bins to corral bathroom stuff, or whether bedding coordinated. Son chose lots of stuff in grey -- room looked like the prison cell of sadness, but no one cared.

This year, the talk is how to fit TWO televisions in the common room. Because that way they can play games and watch games at the same time.

Let your son drive this process. Encourage him to reach out to roommate(s), if only to put names and faces together. But if he doesn't want to buy X, then don't buy X. The rooms are always much smaller than you expect, and space (and patience) is at a premium on move-in day.

--- well said, this is my son and his friend group. Drop the mic...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean is this all needed? There's 2 day shipping from Amazon if they need a fan or paper plates.

No, much of it is not needed. My son likes his own stuff so regardless, there will be two mini fridges. I mean, if the room does not have one, then he will let him use his but he is not having anyone mooch off him.

lovely. you must be so proud.

I am. I am proud that we are able to get these items for him and I am proud that he is able to speak up regarding his boundaries.

How very "Who moved my cheese?!" of him