When did your teens expect their own space?

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Anonymous wrote:I personally think its odd that your only hold back is that her being in another room "wont be as much fun". Damn.

No, the basic hotel room won’t be as much fun

OMG you'll have to vacation like the pooooors! The horror!

I’m sure you’re staying at the cheapest motel when you travel, because what’s the point, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Family of 6.

Sometimes we get a 2 or 3 bedroom condo.

When we cruise, we always get 2 cabins; sometimes we split 3/3 and sometimes we split 2/4.

When we stay at hotels in Europe, we typically split 3/3.

When we stay at an Embassy Suites or comparable hotel with 2 beds plus a pull out couch, we don’t get an additional hotel room. If there’s no couch, then we get two rooms.

When driving, we always bring an air mattress in a duffel bag just in case someone opts to crash separately. (These days it’s a trifold Milliard foam sleep mattress in a travel bag—far more comfy than an air mattress.)

I can’t imagine getting two hotel rooms for a family of 3—especially a teen girl who seems uncomfortable being alone. You might consider inviting a friend to join you and having the two girls stay in their own hotel room (or a cousin).

Same here for our family of 6, with kids 14, 14, 12, 7. We've even gotten (and love) getting private hostel rooms with ensuite where we're all just in one room with our own beds and one bathroom. It's never been a problem. DD 14 has started asking for her own bed and we usually can figure that put.

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I have two teens, and we quite often share one room (we try to get a room with two queens and a sofabed and they alternate on the sofabed). Of course we would all like more space, but we also all like to travel to great places, and we would do a lot less of that if we had to double our lodging costs. If we can find a comparably priced 2-bedroom condo, we will do that.

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OP, I'd remove "expect" as a word choice. Who decides? Parents decide.

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My kids are still little but I’m the one who doesn’t want to share a room with them! I can’t sleep with everyone packed into one room. We've only done it a handful of times and everyone keeps me up for various reasons. We’ve always done suites or condos or airbnb/vrbos because of this. When they’re older, we could do adjoining rooms, I suppose. It’s definitely much more expensive but it’s not worth it to me to be on vacation and not feel well rested.

I shared with my parents well into my 20s though, if they were paying. I guess I was less finicky then. I wouldn’t have dreamed of my own room as a kid and now it’s all my kids know.

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Not until they pay for it.

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I like my own space when on vacation. We vacation in Europe and beyond now so if we do an Air BnB it is a flat or a villa. They each have their own rooms and usually share a secondary bathroom. If we use hotels we each get two rooms conjoined or near each other. It works out great. My DD’s are 18 and 9 fwiw.

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Anonymous wrote:Does nobody want to have sex with their spouse on vacation? I can’t understand cramming into one room if you have the financial resources for any other arrangement.

No. I do not want to have sex with that man. I want to have peace and quiet without the children. I often travel with just myself and my two kids but even if we all travel, I get two queens as I want the option to be unbothered. He snores and passes gas all night and that is not conducive for my well-being.

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I really wanted to get away from my parents at around 16 or so. My son developed along a similar timeline. My 15 year old daughter is still very attached to us, but maybe that will change soon, who knows. I would certainly not push away any child who feels more secure near their parent.

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I travel a lot with my 17 yo son for soccer college visits and we always share a room. It’s just too pricey at most hotels to get 2 rooms - even a room at the Courtyard is over $200 a night in most places we go. He has never complained but I’m certain he’d prefer his own room for privacy and wish I could do it. My 23 yo DD will happily bunk with me still. But it would be different if DH were there. We have mostly stopped staying in hotels as a family for space and privacy reasons.

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If it’s longer than one nigh put everyone gets their own room. I’m not sharing a room with 4 people. It’s more my preference than the kids (22-16).

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OP has an only child so I think its slightly different than when you have 2 kids. I have an only teen and its easier with only 3 people especially when your teen gets their own bed. We tried a few places recently where we had a suite and she had the pull out in the living room area. She hated it because she hates the pull out bed. She would rather have a traditional 2 queen room and get her own bed. One parent travels occasionally with her for her sport and it never even occurred to me that someone get 2 rooms in that situation. DH does sleep in athletic shorts and a t-shirt when sharing a room which he doesn't normally wear at home.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has an only child so I think its slightly different than when you have 2 kids. I have an only teen and its easier with only 3 people especially when your teen gets their own bed. We tried a few places recently where we had a suite and she had the pull out in the living room area. She hated it because she hates the pull out bed. She would rather have a traditional 2 queen room and get her own bed. One parent travels occasionally with her for her sport and it never even occurred to me that someone get 2 rooms in that situation. DH does sleep in athletic shorts and a t-shirt when sharing a room which he doesn't normally wear at home.

We have an only and always get two rooms.

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I'm the one who makes the decision, my kids don't have any input.

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Most of these responses don’t address the trade off OP is actually considering. OP clearly enjoys the advantages of a suite or club room and doesn’t mind sharing a room with dd on the trip. she is wondering if dd will get to an age where she prefers her own space over the benefits of lounge access or other perks. OP- i think that really depends on your DD and her personality/preferences and your family dynamics. It sounds like she prefers not to be alone now so everyone is happy sharing a nicer room. She’s old enough that you can involve her in the discussion about private space vs other perks trade off, if that’s something she starts wanting.