Who mentioned a new car. That’s kind of odd. Either tell them you got an inheritance or not. You aren’t obligated to answer their nosy questions. |
Whatever your in-laws’ flaws, I can already tell that you’re kind of a shitty person as well. There’s no bigger tell that someone is a competitive/materialistic person than wanting/owning a luxury car. It doesn’t mean you’re dishonest or anything like that, but it is indicative of your personality type, which would generally encourage negative reciprocal behavior from others, like your in-laws. |
+1 I have found this to be exactly true with very (very) few exceptions |
You appear to be the "shitty person"!!! Nothing wrong with wanting to drive a luxury car. Some prefer fancy cars, some fine dining, some have sports season tickets....it's all about what matters to you! And if you have the money to do it who cares (and it doesn't matter how you earn that money) |
Wow if I was negative towards people with luxury cars, I wouldn't have any friends. |
This. You got a “good deal” on a used car. Then you change the subject. |
If the amount you received was a life changing amount of money, you definitely shouldn't be buying a BMW with it! Assuming the BMW wasn't a terrible life choice based on your income/assets, etc., you can easily just say you got a new car because you always wanted it and leave it at that. The inheritance was the push you needed but you could have just bought it anyway, right? |
Just say that the old one conked out and you had to buy something in a hurry. If they make any "observations" about how much it cost, agree with them along the lines of "I know! Cars are expensive these days! DH wanted to call you to see if you can gift us some money, but I told him not to!". That out to shut them up. |
out=ought |
You don't owe your in-laws an explanation of how you paid for your new car. When the last person of a married couple dies, it's reasonable to assume their kids receive an inheritance unless the parents were poor. I mean, you have to assume your in-laws assume you got some money. (They're probably wondering how much.) But you don't have to confirm or deny it because it's none of their business. |
It’s none of their business - if they pry, just say you got a bonus at work. |
So if they ask, just say you've been driving that econobox for a long time and wanted to treat yourself to a nicer used car. Key word here is USED car. Also, mention it's too bad their son can't afford a new car for you. Maybe that will shut them up. |
Maybe because he wants them to think he could afford this car. It's emasculating that he can't. |
Tell them with all the migrants leaving the country, used car prices have finally started to come down and you got a great deal on the car. |
This is all you need. The fact your DH is also keeping a low profile about finances tells me you're not just overreacting. Ignore the trolls who go around hating on everyone indifferently. Sorry about your parents, OP. |