When your kids walk in while you are having sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the posters who say this is not a big deal. If you really feel you must talk about it with her, I'd say something like "even women my age still enjoy sex," and "I tried to avoid that issue during your high school years, but I'm not ashamed of my sex life and never wanted you to be either."

OP' may be real. I know people who went through very similar things.

NP.

This topic is far too common all over DCUM for all of them to just be fake or trolls.

Truth is: kids walk in. It happens. Usually much younger kids, which is why the OP’s situation is fine; not more to explain or do. In a year, her and DD can laugh about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s an adult, she should have her own place.

Did you not hear that she's home from school for the summer? That's normal, dipshit.

[Anonymous]

When they were little, the kids tried the door a few times (we ALWAYS lock it).

We both froze; completely still, for a moment. Then got up, quickly got decent (enough) and handled whatever kid-emergency it was.

Real mood-killer though.

[Anonymous]

We need an update on the PP who spilled wine while getting wild with his 22-year-old model/yoga teacher.

You go, boy.

[Anonymous]

This seems like a moment where your relationship moves more into an adult child relationship with a parent. The fact that she calls you, disgusting is about her own immaturity and need to reframe her thoughts about you and about sexuality. How does she think she was created in the first place?! I would talk to her about the fact that sexual needs are part of adult life, and how now that she is older and getting more independent, you feel comfortable expanding parts of your life that had been on hold. I would also let her know that you have been seeing this person for a while and it’s not some rando one night stand that you dragged home. She is upset because she thinks you’re being a cougar or something like that, then you can explore ideas about sexuality, sexism, double standards, and things along those lines. I would treat this as an opportunity over the course of the summer.

But also, going forward, make sure you know when she is working and make sure to lock your door! (Didn’t she see your friend’s car in the driveway or something?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the posters who say this is not a big deal. If you really feel you must talk about it with her, I'd say something like "even women my age still enjoy sex," and "I tried to avoid that issue during your high school years, but I'm not ashamed of my sex life and never wanted you to be either."

OP' may be real. I know people who went through very similar things.

NP.

This topic is far too common all over DCUM for all of them to just be fake or trolls.

Truth is: kids walk in. It happens. Usually much younger kids, which is why the OP’s situation is fine; not more to explain or do. In a year, her and DD can laugh about it.

Most hilarious DCUM thread was the one about the little kid who walked in on mom & dad, and some time later, the kid asked

“why were mommy and daddy wrestling?” lol

[Anonymous]

The fact that you feel the need to apologize,
The fact that she called you disgusting,
indicate that sex was probably taboo in your household.
Did you have conversations with her about sexuality when she was growing up? when she was a teenager?
She is an adult and goes to college now. I would bet that you don’t even know of she's already having sex.

No surprise that you are both making a big deal out of this nothing burger.

[Anonymous]

Definite "letters to Penthouse" vibe in this post, lmao.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definite "letters to Penthouse" vibe in this post, lmao.

Totally and it was like the UK edition with the vocab/spelling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems like a moment where your relationship moves more into an adult child relationship with a parent. The fact that she calls you, disgusting is about her own immaturity and need to reframe her thoughts about you and about sexuality. How does she think she was created in the first place?! I would talk to her about the fact that sexual needs are part of adult life, and how now that she is older and getting more independent, you feel comfortable expanding parts of your life that had been on hold. I would also let her know that you have been seeing this person for a while and it’s not some rando one night stand that you dragged home. She is upset because she thinks you’re being a cougar or something like that, then you can explore ideas about sexuality, sexism, double standards, and things along those lines. I would treat this as an opportunity over the course of the summer.

But also, going forward, make sure you know when she is working and make sure to lock your door! (Didn’t she see your friend’s car in the driveway or something?)

She didn't see the car in the driveway because everything in this story is imaginary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s an adult, she should have her own place.

She's in college, go away

[Anonymous]

You talked about it once. She was super awkward and embarrassed - seems about right. No one wants to talk to their parent about sex no matter how old they are and what the marital situation is. Just move on and pretend like it didn't happen.

[Anonymous]

Did I miss the details here? Like were you in some weird position?
I guess it would more weird if you were on all 4s or something but missionary or just you on top is not that traumatizing.

[Anonymous]

Something similar happened to me. I was involved with the coach of my daughter's gymnastics team (I'll call her "Livvy" in this story).

Livvy and I were in the middle of a gymnastic routine (however, there was nothing routine about it). Some friends of my adult daughter, who was visiting for the weekend, actually walked in has they thought my daughter was home. They were my daughter's former teammates who knew Livvy as well.

Once they saw us, it went crazy. These girls knocked over the video equipment while screaming "Coach Livvy, how could you????" and "OMG, Mr. Lardo, I did not know you were a gymnast as well".

Please visit my OF page for part 2.

[Anonymous]

I'm divorced. If my son walks in on my ex wife having sex not a big deal at all. Humans do have sex. You are okay OP. Your daughter I'm sure understands.

Enjoy your young fireman. I'm sure he doesn't mind getting splashed every now and then