Marriage proposal, for real?

[Anonymous]

He has been married twice. Don’t marry him.

[Anonymous]

Op get married. this is a sinful living arrangement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op get married. this is a sinful living arrangement

No one cares.

[Anonymous]

You need to remove him as the executor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It isn’t that even care about being married. It is that he asked and expressed so many things and now is silent and when I raise to he blows me off. That is what I really a problem. If he hadn’t said anything, we would have just continued a very comfortable little family life. He he threw a rose and now a wrench.

You need to tell him this, almost very exactly. That you were fine, but then he upended it all, and now he wants to go on like it didn't happen. But now you are NOT fine. The conversation will tell you quite a bit.

Also, I'd make your daughter the beneficiary of your trust.

This. And has he legally adopted her?

[Anonymous]

This man has been stringing you and your child along for ten long years..

Move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's future faking and immature. Huge turn off.

+1

+1000000
Cow/milk etc.

+ 2000000000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never posted here, but I have no one I can ask…..

My partner and I have been together almost 10 years. We live together, I have a 16 year old who adores him, and he loves her like his own. He has been married twice, me once. We have a healthy relationship, love is not questioned in any way.

So, we are not married. We talk about it sometimes, and the thought is always on both sides, we don’t need to be married, we are together because we want to be, we can get married, get married if you want to. We both had bad divorces and we both have plenty of money so we don’t “need” to get married. We even call each other husband and wife outside of work people who must know. We live as a married couple, we talk of “our” everything. Our trusts make each other beneficiaries. You get the picture, we just lack a legal contract. he bought me a 25k diamond band two years ago.

So this past weekend, he had a bit to drink but he wasn’t overly drunk, just happy tipsy. He flat out proposed. He was so happy. We talked about a wedding, where, who, he would buy me another ring (which I declined). He said I want you to be my wife, legitimately, no more just living together and calling each other a spouse. I was quite shocked, and I said yes. I guess I always thought if he affirmatively wanted to get married, then I would too.

Next morning it was as if nothing happened. Nada. I mentioned that we should tell our kid, he called her into our room, but we got sidetracked with homework and he didn’t bring it up again. I mean it has been days and it is literally as if it never happened. I am afraid to bring it up. I think he was just drunk and too happy and now reverted back to getting married if we need to etc.

Should I just let this go and forget it too? I told my mother, so I would have to make up an excuse and regardless she will hate him.

I never needed to be married and felt plenty secure with our life and relationship. But now, I will never marry him. I even have thoughts of leaving. Who does this?

Lol 3 times a charm? Lmao

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never posted here, but I have no one I can ask…..

My partner and I have been together almost 10 years. We live together, I have a 16 year old who adores him, and he loves her like his own. He has been married twice, me once. We have a healthy relationship, love is not questioned in any way.

So, we are not married. We talk about it sometimes, and the thought is always on both sides, we don’t need to be married, we are together because we want to be, we can get married, get married if you want to. We both had bad divorces and we both have plenty of money so we don’t “need” to get married. We even call each other husband and wife outside of work people who must know. We live as a married couple, we talk of “our” everything. Our trusts make each other beneficiaries. You get the picture, we just lack a legal contract. he bought me a 25k diamond band two years ago.

So this past weekend, he had a bit to drink but he wasn’t overly drunk, just happy tipsy. He flat out proposed. He was so happy. We talked about a wedding, where, who, he would buy me another ring (which I declined). He said I want you to be my wife, legitimately, no more just living together and calling each other a spouse. I was quite shocked, and I said yes. I guess I always thought if he affirmatively wanted to get married, then I would too.

Next morning it was as if nothing happened. Nada. I mentioned that we should tell our kid, he called her into our room, but we got sidetracked with homework and he didn’t bring it up again. I mean it has been days and it is literally as if it never happened. I am afraid to bring it up. I think he was just drunk and too happy and now reverted back to getting married if we need to etc.

Should I just let this go and forget it too? I told my mother, so I would have to make up an excuse and regardless she will hate him.

I never needed to be married and felt plenty secure with our life and relationship. But now, I will never marry him. I even have thoughts of leaving. Who does this?

Lol 3 times a charm? Lmao

No kidding. The guy is a huge loser. OP can do so much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op get married. this is a sinful living arrangement

Oh look who's back!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can't bring this up as a topic of conversation you shouldn't even be living together, much less get married.

+1 Together ten years and you are afraid to ask him about the proposal? Because leaving him is easier than initiating a conversation? That’s nuts. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you can't bring this up as a topic of conversation you shouldn't even be living together, much less get married.

+1 Together ten years and you are afraid to ask him about the proposal? Because leaving him is easier than initiating a conversation? That’s nuts. Sorry.

PP here. Just read the update, so disregard what I said.

[Anonymous]

Wait, your update was a few hours after your original post. But you asked him about it “the other night,” and now all is well? I’m very confused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It isn’t that even care about being married. It is that he asked and expressed so many things and now is silent and when I raise to he blows me off. That is what I really a problem. If he hadn’t said anything, we would have just continued a very comfortable little family life. He he threw a rose and now a wrench.

You need to tell him this, almost very exactly. That you were fine, but then he upended it all, and now he wants to go on like it didn't happen. But now you are NOT fine. The conversation will tell you quite a bit.

Also, I'd make your daughter the beneficiary of your trust.

THIS. +100

WTF OP making your boyfriend the beneficiary of what sounds like a substantial trust? Please remedy that today.

I know. That made my blood run cold. OP why in the world would you make him the beneficiary over your daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, your update was a few hours after your original post. But you asked him about it “the other night,” and now all is well? I’m very confused.

Op's of troll threads often get excited and post 'updates' sooner than is realistic.