Misogynistic trans boy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually know someone like this in real life. He's an adult now and it really bugs me.

A lot of the language we use to talk about gender stuff has deep roots in misogyny. Your stepson is a kid. Don't tolerate his hate of half the population, get him a copy of free to be you and me, and explain to him that you don't do reductive gender bs because gender is a spectrum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a teenage trans boy in our family whose gender expression was very stereotypically boy from early toddlerhood, and who began expressing gender dysphoria very young. He fully socially transitioned in middle school.

One of the ways his dysphoria presents is that he is very negative about anything he associates with girls, or women, or femininity, and is very judgmental of other males whose gender expression is less stereotypically male. For example, he balks at any kind of household task, saying that laundry, or cleaning, or cooking are "for women", even though in our family the other male teens and male adults do all of these tasks. He loves to watch sports with his male cousins, but will walk out of the room if they have a women's game on. He will make disparaging comments to male friends who display what he considers "girly" interests, like drawing or cooking.

I am wondering if other people have seen this pattern. If so, did you find solutions?

Considering how freakishly weird this scenario is, I doubt anyone can relate.

This is actually more common than a lot of posters on here seem to realize. There are a lot of FTM incels and it sounds like this kid is well on his way to becoming one. He's clearly uncomfortable with being female so he's overcompensating by putting down anything that he deems feminine, even neutral things like drawing and cooking which is bizarre and ridiculous. This is probably only going to get worse if he's allowed to go through female puberty and not put on blockers or testosterone. Although to be honest, I struggle to even recommend that since there's such a high likelihood that the kid is just a self-hating masculine lesbian.