and then he will say, "What's the big deal? I never do anything right in your eyes." well, you certainly didn't do that part right. -dp |
| Most good men are essentially former children who are used to being apple of someone's eyes. They behave well, are successful, do chores etc but they need to be loved, cared for and appreciated often. |
Some men, but certainly not most. |
Troll |
Exactly! Passive, laid back, nonchalant, just tags along with you, any house stuff, kids- if you have them- can do whatever. Dont sweat it, it all works out. For someone. |
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You remind me of my ex, who anytime I brought up ANYTHING, would say, "That's just stupid shit" (his way of saying it's all small stuff). Newsflash: Do not minimize every emotion, discussion, and concern your spouse has. It doesn't end well, and it most certainly doesn't make them go, "Oh, silly me. Of course, it's small stuff." |
+1 There are plenty of things in life that are not "small stuff." |
Those scented bags are a close #2 to those god awful plug-ins. But also, it's not about the trash bags. You could have returned them and purchased the correct one instead of expecting your wife to do so or deal with them. I know which products my husband likes, or which makes his skin irritated or whatever. If he brought home scented trash bags, it's because he hasn't paid attention to know that those irritate my allergies. You should think about your own part in your marriage, and schedule some counseling if you think it's just a miserable wife. I can almost guarantee you it's not about the trash bags and it's some other repeated behavior in your marriage that's the problem. |
Get over yourself
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Why do I need to deal with allergies and not just buy unscented trash bags? It's clearly not just one person. On page 1 someone had to take a kid to the ER for a reaction. I don't understand why you would expose yourself for something that is not needed? Take the trash out instead of trying to scent it. But you're probably a lazy man and happier to just buy the scented bags and wine that the wife is a harpy. Again, it's NOT ABOUT THE BAGS. |
If you are the pp, there’s your answer why your marriage is “miserable”. |
When a spouse negates the health issues of another and tells them to "get over yourself", that's not a good sign. Certainly doesn't make them a good life partner. |
No. Illness, job loss, challenges with children or aging parents are not small stuff. You have to be someone who reacts in proportion to the issue at hand: to not overreact when it's small stuff, but to step up and meet serious challenges as needed and be able to support one's partner through their serious challenges. |
| She doesn’t nag unnecessarily, and makes her husband feel like he’s on top of the world. |