Does your family visit the cemetery/graves of those who passed on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m life planning and want to be buried out of the state where I am a present resident. My DD who’s a teenager expressed that she would want to visit me and being out of state would be difficult to make that work out for her.

I realized that as a family, I was not raised in a home that visited the deceased family members grave sites. I remember visiting once or twice the gravesite of my grandmother and great-grandmother and never since. All recent family deaths have been the same. No one visits once the person is in the ground.

FWIW my kids have never visited the gravesite of my father after he passed either. I do wonder would I want my kids to come visit or would I want them to go on as my family members have always done and not visit.

I haven't visited my grandparents graves since their burials. I do visit my father's when I travel to my hometown, and I travel 5 hours once a year for the birthday of close friend who passed. It will vary by family though. If your child expressed a desire to have a place to visit and grieve, it's worth taking into consideration when you make your decision.

[Anonymous]

My mom and my brother both have passed- my dad goes to their graves (buried next to each other) a few times a week. His mother and father are also in the same cemetery (different part) and he visits them, as well. In face, lots of friends and extended family members are buried there so he visits them all.

I live about 3 hours away and go a couple times a year. I always run into someone I know there- must be our culture!