Unfollowed on Instagram and feel like I’m in middle school

[Anonymous]

Late to Instagram and finally established an account to highlight a niche interest and connect with others who are involved.

I have unfollowed/denied follow requests from people I no longer engage with/or maintain a relationship with/live nearby. I also made my profile private.

I would unfollow this person, OP and move on.

I pretty much know all of my followers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it makes sense, why would she not want you to follow her, but she follows you? I’m not sure I’d take it personally because the opposite would be worse.

Right, that's weird. Like, she wants to see your stuff but doesn't want you seeing hers? Odd.

I've definitely unfollowed people before, if they're annoying and I don't want to see their stuff in my feed, but I've never removed someone from being able to follow ME.

I haven’t completely removed people, but on Facebook, when I posted there, you could add people to lists that don’t see your posts or totally unfriend them. I have unfriended a lot of people - like when it first came out, everyone was friending everyone. I don’t need Joe Random from my high school taking up space in my brain. He didn’t do anything wrong but he’s not a part of my life.

When I was on FB, I definitely hid my posts from people, but I didn’t have a public page. These were people I felt it was rude not accept as a friend, but I didn’t want them to know anything about my life. I understand that Instagram does not have the same privacy setting (prevent people from seeing your posts without them knowing), which is one of the reasons I didn’t use it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so stupid but I have to ask:

I have an old mom friend. They moved out of district years ago but we remained friends on Instagram. She is a prolific Instagram poster and I enjoyed following along. I realized just now that I hadn’t seen a post from her in about a week. I went to check and it seems she has removed me from following her, but still follows me! I don’t think it happened by accident because I went to see how to remove someone and it’s pretty deliberate and would require intent. The weird thing is, she’s still friends with all of the other old mom friends from that time, even the ones who have also moved away.

I feel like I’m 13 again. Like, why me? LOL

I unfriend people often when I find their posts 1. insufferable and oblivious or 2. are actively denying the genocide in Gaza. If you're just living your life and you aren't close with this woman, who even cares?

I rarely even post anymore, just family photos when I do. I don’t post anything political or religious. All I ever do is ‘like’ things or post benign comments.

It means nothing, but it still feels so funny.

I have a friend who probably thinks her posts are innocuous but she can't post without including 50+ photos of every single event and it drives me crazy because I either have to scroll through all the photos or Instagram puts her at the top of my list every time I log on so I unfollowed her. Sounds like you don't do that but perhaps she finds something about you offputting. Or it was a mistake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it makes sense, why would she not want you to follow her, but she follows you? I’m not sure I’d take it personally because the opposite would be worse.

Right, that's weird. Like, she wants to see your stuff but doesn't want you seeing hers? Odd.

I've definitely unfollowed people before, if they're annoying and I don't want to see their stuff in my feed, but I've never removed someone from being able to follow ME.

I haven’t completely removed people, but on Facebook, when I posted there, you could add people to lists that don’t see your posts or totally unfriend them. I have unfriended a lot of people - like when it first came out, everyone was friending everyone. I don’t need Joe Random from my high school taking up space in my brain. He didn’t do anything wrong but he’s not a part of my life.

I'm surprised people say they've never seen this. Some of the cliquey moms I know do this. They want to keep tabs on a mom they are all gossiping about and her posts give them fodder to rally around. They don't want her to have access to anything they are talking about. This is classic cliquey behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it makes sense, why would she not want you to follow her, but she follows you? I’m not sure I’d take it personally because the opposite would be worse.

Right, that's weird. Like, she wants to see your stuff but doesn't want you seeing hers? Odd.

I've definitely unfollowed people before, if they're annoying and I don't want to see their stuff in my feed, but I've never removed someone from being able to follow ME.

I haven’t completely removed people, but on Facebook, when I posted there, you could add people to lists that don’t see your posts or totally unfriend them. I have unfriended a lot of people - like when it first came out, everyone was friending everyone. I don’t need Joe Random from my high school taking up space in my brain. He didn’t do anything wrong but he’s not a part of my life.

I'm surprised people say they've never seen this. Some of the cliquey moms I know do this. They want to keep tabs on a mom they are all gossiping about and her posts give them fodder to rally around. They don't want her to have access to anything they are talking about. This is classic cliquey behavior.

It's classic PR and rep curation, darling.