Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a very high stress/high strung perfectionist elementary school child, so yes I absolutely downplay them.
At the end of the day they are a useful metric to make sure my kid is absorbing information as expected.
This, but mine is in middle now. I tell her constantly that "SOLs don't matter one bit for you--they only matter for the teachers and the school." She still doesn't believe me. I also said, "literally every other test and even quiz this entire year matters more than this stupid SOL."
She finally did say, "I only need to pass. It doesn't matter if I pass advanced." And I said, "You don't even need to pass!!!" The truth is, I do care how she does and I do think it is one metric to assess what she is learning, but she stresses about enough things in her life so I do not need this to be one of them. So to answer the question, yes I care, but no, I do not tell my kid I care.
I have a HS kid, too, but he never gets stressed about tests of any kind.