Which Nanny would you choose?
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Anonymous
| Neither one is likely to stay long term. Do a trial day for both and pick who’d you like for the next year. |
Anonymous
I mean, I get what you’re saying, but you’re paying her to be a nanny, not a nurse. If your child gets a bump or bruise anybody can help in that situation. Any accident will still need to go to the hospital, regardless of who your nanny is. I think you’re putting a lot of emphasis on something that won’t bear much into her employment. What I think is important is for your nanny to have CPR/first aid training, which you should ask the second candidate if she’s willing to be trained. I have worked in daycare for years and I can tell you I have never needed to use my cpr/first aid. They both sound like good candidates. Good luck with whoever you choose. |
Anonymous
Actually OP is paying for whatever skills set she and her husband find valuable. If OP and her husband have jobs where it's not easy to take off time for a sick kid or need tobring them to medical appointments it might be valuable to them to have someone who does it professionally, and perhaps you have been extremely lucky as a mom or daycare provider but I have definitely had situations with my kid where it have been helpful to have a nurse on had while waiting for anambulance . |
Anonymous
You will second guess yourself a lot as a new mom and just because you’re a mommy and #1 isn’t does mean that won’t happen. I have three kids, all of them are still young (7, 5.5, and almost 3) and the first 2.5 years with my first were hard. Being a new, first time mom is hard and it’s also natural to ask for a nanny’s opinion and have those boundaries get blurry. I would trust your gut and I would go with someone who is calm, emotionally stable, capable and willing to narrate things to your child and teach your child about the world, reliable - able to get to your house on time and not going to take tons of sick days, able to facilitate play dates and initiate on a variety of things in addition to being able to speak openly about concerns. |
Anonymous
This 100% |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
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Career nanny here. One thing I would consider is that child care is just part of being a nanny. Being able to coordinate with the parents, helping run a household, and working as a team on stuff like sleep schedules, discipline styles, rules around food/screens/etc. are also important. Additionally, this person will be in your home daily which is a very intrusive role and they will need to be able to share that space respectfully and considerately. Being a nanny can also be a very lonely job and not everyone is cut out to be a self-starter or to spend all day alone with young kids.
I would always advise parents to think carefully before hiring someone to be a nanny who has never been a nanny. It sounds like the teacher/nurse has also worked as a nanny. Was that full time? A pro in her column is that she has had to work diplomatically with a wide variety of parents so she has a lot of experience with different parenting styles, rules and preferences and will know how to balance sharing her opinions with respecting your role as the parent. For the mom, she definitely knows how to spend a day with young kids, but I would be concerned about having someone who would potentially judge or push back on household systems or rules that don’t come naturally to her. |
Anonymous
Late, but this 100%. Ask me how I know. |
Anonymous
This. Mom has seen three kids. Preschool teacher has seen dozens, if not hundreds. -former teacher/nanny, and current parent |
Anonymous
Yeah, but which gut instinct do you follow, Mother or Father? |