Spouse cannot handle credit cards

[Anonymous]

Did u sign a pre-nup?

[Anonymous]

I’d go in before the due date and pay the bill in full every month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly thing it’s something to do with his upbringing, like some sort of psychological scarcity. His mom told that their lights would be turned off because his father didn’t pay the bill. His dad was wealthy, his current home is $5million. He’s never gotten any kind of help from his parents, he’s even paid every penny of college himself. I have asked him and he says he just likes to see the money in cash. I told him how much interest that cost us and we could have taken a nice trip.

Is this OP? So it isn’t rational and based on childhood scarcity. You need to take over bill payment. $35k means he’s run the card up to it’s limit because he’s afraid the cash will run out someday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people think the spouse is a man?

Because a man could be an idiot and still become a "high income, 500k salary professional" but a woman could not, and OP describes someone behaving like an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly thing it’s something to do with his upbringing, like some sort of psychological scarcity. His mom told that their lights would be turned off because his father didn’t pay the bill. His dad was wealthy, his current home is $5million. He’s never gotten any kind of help from his parents, he’s even paid every penny of college himself. I have asked him and he says he just likes to see the money in cash. I told him how much interest that cost us and we could have taken a nice trip.

Is this OP? So it isn’t rational and based on childhood scarcity. You need to take over bill payment. $35k means he’s run the card up to it’s limit because he’s afraid the cash will run out someday.

No our limit is over 100k

[Anonymous]

Pay them off yourself every month. The interest on that much be insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a person who blacks out every time they have to think about numbers and money. They have several other problems including shopping for dopamine hit.
So many suggestions here how to fix it. I'd be worried about them taking out loans or anything involving money .

They pass out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly thing it’s something to do with his upbringing, like some sort of psychological scarcity. His mom told that their lights would be turned off because his father didn’t pay the bill. His dad was wealthy, his current home is $5million. He’s never gotten any kind of help from his parents, he’s even paid every penny of college himself. I have asked him and he says he just likes to see the money in cash. I told him how much interest that cost us and we could have taken a nice trip.

Is this OP? So it isn’t rational and based on childhood scarcity. You need to take over bill payment. $35k means he’s run the card up to it’s limit because he’s afraid the cash will run out someday.

No our limit is over 100k

Is this OP? Please put identify yourself at the beginning of your posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly thing it’s something to do with his upbringing, like some sort of psychological scarcity. His mom told that their lights would be turned off because his father didn’t pay the bill. His dad was wealthy, his current home is $5million. He’s never gotten any kind of help from his parents, he’s even paid every penny of college himself. I have asked him and he says he just likes to see the money in cash. I told him how much interest that cost us and we could have taken a nice trip.

Is this OP? So it isn’t rational and based on childhood scarcity. You need to take over bill payment. $35k means he’s run the card up to it’s limit because he’s afraid the cash will run out someday.

No our limit is over 100k

Is this OP? Please put identify yourself at the beginning of your posts.

*Please put "OP" to identify yourself at the beginning of your posts.

[Anonymous]

OP, you said in your original post that your credit limit is $150k. How many cards are being used?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly thing it’s something to do with his upbringing, like some sort of psychological scarcity. His mom told that their lights would be turned off because his father didn’t pay the bill. His dad was wealthy, his current home is $5million. He’s never gotten any kind of help from his parents, he’s even paid every penny of college himself. I have asked him and he says he just likes to see the money in cash. I told him how much interest that cost us and we could have taken a nice trip.

Is this OP? So it isn’t rational and based on childhood scarcity. You need to take over bill payment. $35k means he’s run the card up to it’s limit because he’s afraid the cash will run out someday.

No our limit is over 100k

Is this OP? Please put identify yourself at the beginning of your posts.

Yes it js

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you said in your original post that your credit limit is $150k. How many cards are being used?

We have 3 cards total. it was split between two cards

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people think the spouse is a man?

Because a man could be an idiot and still become a "high income, 500k salary professional" but a woman could not, and OP describes someone behaving like an idiot.

The truth of this has me laughing and crying at the same time.