Do boys not ask girls out as much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just very little dating in general. They hang out and go to functions in groups. Then sometimes they are “talking to somebody.” This seems to have largely replaced dating. It’s essentially them communicating privately and flirtatiously, which sometimes leads to being a couple. They still mostly go out with their group but occasionally do something separate and they have some sort of physical relationship.

+1

Yep. I have 2 in HS and this is what I am seeing as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:they do not! My son is a freshman in college and has been dating his HS GF since the end of his senior year. She’s a lovely girl and has a lot going for her. She says she has to practically clobber him over the head to get him on a date. She was the aggressor.

I have no idea what is wrong with these boys and why they are so scared of girls. She said a ton of girls liked him in high school, but she described him as an enigma. He had absolutely no clue and I mean none that anyone could possibly be interested in him.

Umm the internet and screens to stare at 24/7 instead. A bunch of introvert perverted boys looking up porn and using their hand. No need to socialize and get to know girls.

And the ones that do either get into a long term commitment because they are too lazy to care or become players

Yeah internet porn and forums has absolutely changed boys/teens/men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a dd who is 17 and she is a great kid. She is very pretty, she is in several clubs, sports...and she has never been asked to a dance. She is debating not going to prom because she won't have a date (she's always gone to dances with a group of friends before). So do boys not ask girls out unless they are already dating?

Prom has always been highly over-rated. Even back when they were held in the school gym decorated with crepe paper streamers and balloons. Time to update. Schools don't even have gyms big enough anymore, so tickets to dances are limited and/or dances are held off-site - increasing the costs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a dd who is 17 and she is a great kid. She is very pretty, she is in several clubs, sports...and she has never been asked to a dance. She is debating not going to prom because she won't have a date (she's always gone to dances with a group of friends before). So do boys not ask girls out unless they are already dating?

Prom has always been highly over-rated. Even back when they were held in the school gym decorated with crepe paper streamers and balloons. Time to update. Schools don't even have gyms big enough anymore, so tickets to dances are limited and/or dances are held off-site - increasing the costs.

Proms are not at the school. Mine wasn’t either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:they do not! My son is a freshman in college and has been dating his HS GF since the end of his senior year. She’s a lovely girl and has a lot going for her. She says she has to practically clobber him over the head to get him on a date. She was the aggressor.

I have no idea what is wrong with these boys and why they are so scared of girls. She said a ton of girls liked him in high school, but she described him as an enigma. He had absolutely no clue and I mean none that anyone could possibly be interested in him.

They are not “scared of girls.” They are scared of false accusations of lack of consent or even accusations of date.-rape.

Why bother?

Okay #boymom

Look up percentages of false accusations vs the actual assaults

I think woman still need to be scared.

You are a CLOWN

#boymom?

OMG it’s you who is the clown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:they do not! My son is a freshman in college and has been dating his HS GF since the end of his senior year. She’s a lovely girl and has a lot going for her. She says she has to practically clobber him over the head to get him on a date. She was the aggressor.

I have no idea what is wrong with these boys and why they are so scared of girls. She said a ton of girls liked him in high school, but she described him as an enigma. He had absolutely no clue and I mean none that anyone could possibly be interested in him.

They are not “scared of girls.” They are scared of false accusations of lack of consent or even accusations of date.-rape.

Why bother?

Okay #boymom

Look up percentages of false accusations vs the actual assaults

I think woman still need to be scared.

You are a CLOWN

#boymom?

OMG it’s you who is the clown.

Not the PP but that went over your head. The hashtag boymom trend is hilarious and this comment about scared boys is exactly those type of moms.

[Anonymous]

There are lots of teens dating and going on dates (at least in my daughters friend group) but school dances are just not events for a first date for these kids. Usually school dances are group events with friends anyway.

They usually have weeks long “talking stages” leading up to any actual dates, unless they are friends first, so by the time there is a date they have already established a relationship of sorts. It’s just not the same as we did it but it’s not a bad way to do things really. Other than many teens get stuck in the talking stage and don’t seem to make it to the date stage which makes it look like so many of them aren’t romantically involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are lots of teens dating and going on dates (at least in my daughters friend group) but school dances are just not events for a first date for these kids. Usually school dances are group events with friends anyway.

They usually have weeks long “talking stages” leading up to any actual dates, unless they are friends first, so by the time there is a date they have already established a relationship of sorts. It’s just not the same as we did it but it’s not a bad way to do things really. Other than many teens get stuck in the talking stage and don’t seem to make it to the date stage which makes it look like so many of them aren’t romantically involved.

Yes, the stages are: 1) talking 2) hanging out/going on dates 3) boyfriend/girlfriend. Lots of time in the talking/hanging out stage. Then as the relationship gets more serious, some will put on the label of boyfriend/girlfriend; but not all. A lot of kids don't see the point in putting on a label even when they're perfectly happy just hanging out and going out on dates with their person. It's different from when we were teens, but I think this might be a better approach especially in the teen years when things really shouldn't be so serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:they do not! My son is a freshman in college and has been dating his HS GF since the end of his senior year. She’s a lovely girl and has a lot going for her. She says she has to practically clobber him over the head to get him on a date. She was the aggressor.

I have no idea what is wrong with these boys and why they are so scared of girls. She said a ton of girls liked him in high school, but she described him as an enigma. He had absolutely no clue and I mean none that anyone could possibly be interested in him.

Umm the internet and screens to stare at 24/7 instead. A bunch of introvert perverted boys looking up porn and using their hand. No need to socialize and get to know girls.

And the ones that do either get into a long term commitment because they are too lazy to care or become players

Yeah internet porn and forums has absolutely changed boys/teens/men.

No it’s the attitude that boys/men are evil. If a boy is interested in girl is it bad evil thing. Why would that boy take the risk and show that interest because you know he is “perverted”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:they do not! My son is a freshman in college and has been dating his HS GF since the end of his senior year. She’s a lovely girl and has a lot going for her. She says she has to practically clobber him over the head to get him on a date. She was the aggressor.

I have no idea what is wrong with these boys and why they are so scared of girls. She said a ton of girls liked him in high school, but she described him as an enigma. He had absolutely no clue and I mean none that anyone could possibly be interested in him.

Umm the internet and screens to stare at 24/7 instead. A bunch of introvert perverted boys looking up porn and using their hand. No need to socialize and get to know girls.

And the ones that do either get into a long term commitment because they are too lazy to care or become players

Yeah internet porn and forums has absolutely changed boys/teens/men.

Fortunately, social media has had no effect on us at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:they do not! My son is a freshman in college and has been dating his HS GF since the end of his senior year. She’s a lovely girl and has a lot going for her. She says she has to practically clobber him over the head to get him on a date. She was the aggressor.

I have no idea what is wrong with these boys and why they are so scared of girls. She said a ton of girls liked him in high school, but she described him as an enigma. He had absolutely no clue and I mean none that anyone could possibly be interested in him.

Umm the internet and screens to stare at 24/7 instead. A bunch of introvert perverted boys looking up porn and using their hand. No need to socialize and get to know girls.

And the ones that do either get into a long term commitment because they are too lazy to care or become players

Yeah internet porn and forums has absolutely changed boys/teens/men.

Fortunately, social media has had no effect on us at all.

Internet porn is not social media.

Usually moms don't know

[Anonymous]

My kids have gone to dances and prom but always with a group of friends. Dating doesn't seem to be a "thing" the way it was when we were in high school.

[Anonymous]

The real problem is all these horrible boymoms.

[moorglade]

They definitely don't do it as much as they used to . My son casually mentioned his girlfriend to me and I was shocked as I never had to drive him out to any dates or anything . It seems to be that now friends gradually proceed to dating more often than not , or , they privately text and "iMessage" each other and grow closer there . A little concerning ... probably best idea is to keep a close eye on your sons/daughters ...

- Neil

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:they do not! My son is a freshman in college and has been dating his HS GF since the end of his senior year. She’s a lovely girl and has a lot going for her. She says she has to practically clobber him over the head to get him on a date. She was the aggressor.

I have no idea what is wrong with these boys and why they are so scared of girls. She said a ton of girls liked him in high school, but she described him as an enigma. He had absolutely no clue and I mean none that anyone could possibly be interested in him.

That's why my DD broke up with her boyfriend. She had to make all the arrangements or plan all the dates. He was actually the one to ask her out, so she thought he was different, but he was not. She and all her friends would like the boys to make the first move, but they seem to not know how or want to put in the effort.